Jamari I need your advice….

I’m trying to move on from an Ex but it’s just not as simple as it should be. Let me first tell you about the relationship. Two years ago I moved out to Houston Texas to start a new job. I had no friends and no family so I was basically on my own there. Anyway I met my ex boyfriend who we can refer to as “Dream Wolf” at the Gym…i know typical typical. He was a trainer there and the moment we locked eyes it was fucking magic….Like I was speechless and surprisingly he was too. Dream Wolf is 6’2, mixed, and wonderfully built. Actually at the time he was a part time model and his pictures are all over tumblr….some probably are even on here. Anyway he kept trying to make jokes on the way I lift and give tips and he was pretty funny. I liked him…. we saw each other at the gym a few times before exchanging numbers.

Soon after we started dating and it got so serious that we got a place together last summer. Everything was cool for the first two months, sex was okay, I met his mom, he met mine,I would cook, sometimes he would cook, and basically I built a whole new life with him and his friends. The problem was that he was on the low and about 5 years older than me I was about 22 and he was about 27. No one knew the truth about us except a few female friends which wasn’t a problem until he started having baby fever. It might had to do with him getting closer to 30 but he really wanted a baby and he even brought up the idea of us adopting one together. He was really adamant on the idea. So much so that he started working as a manager at Home depot and basically put modeling aside. He also was willing to help put me through med school when I applied. Ever since then I started having bad feelings over the relationship. I started to think we were moving waaaaay too soon and what sense did it make for us to adopt kids when we’re not out. All of those doubts plus alot of small shit made me want to get out of the relationship. And he was a nice guy about it.

Fast forward a year and “Dream Wolf” now has his “Dream Fiance” pregnant with his “Dream Baby“. We tried to remain friends after the breakup which was cool until he met her. She’s perfect Jamari. Even I like the bitch. But it just got to the point where I couldn’t be friends with him no longer….I got tired of seeing their pictures and posts on FB and twitter. So I tried deleting Dream Wolf from my life which was kinda hard since we have so many mutual friends. And now it seems like everything has been going wrong without him in my life.

I lost my job. I had to relocate back home. I’ve been struggling ever since. I just really feel almost like GOD made this man for me….I through him away….and now he is punishing me. When I think about Jamari…nothing was wrong with Dream Wolf. He was a cornball and even though that got on my nerves I miss that and him. Now that I’m putting my life back together I just feel angry at myself and bitter. Like I have no clue on how to move on????? It’s been 4 months since we last talk and I thought I would be over it but I’m not. I’m so bitter that Im not even open to when other wolves BOLDLY try to holla at me on the street.

I want to know Was I stupid for letting him go?
How do I let him go?
And how do I stop hatting myself and feeling so bitter?
Should I try to be friends again?

Let me know your opinion…

BITTER FOXX

MY ADVICE…

the past…
the one thing we can go back to and never change.
but, we look at what has happened and what we would like to change.

BITTER FOXX.

first things first…
you said a lot of key negative sentences in the email:

• You had bad feelings about the relationship.
• The sex was okay (just, okay???)
• He wanted to do something that you weren’t ready for.
• He was a cornball
• Other small shit that made you doubtful.

… reasons that made you not want to be with him.
the relationship seemed doomed after he had “the baby itch“.
imagine what would have happened if you went through with adopting a kid with him?
that could have been an absolute disaster.
that poor baby.
one that you didn’t want to begin with.

okay, so he met someone to live his truth.
something that he was preparing himself for.
hell, he stopped modelling to work at home depot.

home depot, for christ sake!!!
he was preparing himself for his goal.
this is why i believe in the law of attraction.
when you start putting yourself in alignment with what you want,
you start to attract what you desire.

now, you think you are being punished by god.
what?
you are not being punished or receiving karma.
you are dealing with regret.
you are lonely.
you are being bombarded with the wolf’s happiness.
i say get over it and not be an asshole about the situation.
you should be happy for this dude!
he was nice to you,
introduced you to his fiance,
and is living the life he desired.
you didn’t end on bad terms.
honestly, you are being petty and subconsciously being negative,
which is creating your outcome.

do not throw away a friendship.
what he wanted with you is not what you wanted.
get rid of your remorse,
clean your slate,
and be ready for what you want.
you already saying other wolves are tryna holla.
get out there and meet someone that will be what YOU want.
create your plan like he did.

that’s all i got.
comments go…

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