I’ve been to your site for about a month now and you’re like a daily breath of fresh air. Most blogs tend to follow the typical trends but yours is completely different. I’m in a bit of a situation and I feel like I could really use your advice.
I recently met this guy through a mutual friend on Facebook. He was tall, handsome with dreads down his back and I personally though even if he was gay or bi that I wouldn’t be his type. I also saw that he was with a really beautiful girl in his profile picture so I didn’t pay him any mind, until he sent me a message. We began talking and I feel like we hit it off, until the topic of his woman came up. He told me that he was dl with a WIFE AND 5 KIDS at home… That halted things pretty quickly for us yet he continuously pursues me. He said he’s a top, so I feel like what would I have to offer him that his wife couldn’t? He even went so far as to send me nudes (which were REALLY nice, btw) to try convincing me, telling me his marriage is failing and he no longer has a sex life with her, it isn’t actually cheating because it wasn’t with another girl… LOL. Now, I’ve always valued the sanctity of marriage and I would never put myself between it , but he made me feel things about him that I’ve never felt about anyone else but I can’t bring myself to violate his wife like that, yet I can’t bring myself to completely cut him off either. I really want this guy but I don’t think I could live with that on my conscience. It was nice though that he was completely honest from the beginning. It also makes me think about how many others he’s been cheating with. I now understand why so many people choose to be jumpoffs…
What should I do?
thanks foxholer and welcome!
why is it you meet the wolf/hybrid/fox of your dreams…
he is with some vixen?
i might get dragged for this statement,
but why is it the dls always make you feel so damn sexy?
i have met a lot of gay wolves,
but a majority never really made me feel “that something” like the dl ones.
not to say they are better,
because they’re usually not,
but they way they try to get in your foxhole…
he sounds like he is full of shit.
it also sounds like he uses those lines on plenty to get side foxhole.
most married wolves in general use the:
my wife doesn’t please me anymore.
we don’t fuck like we use to.
we fight all the time and its not the same like it use to be.
blah blah blah…
yada yada yada…
take my pants off and comfort me with my pipe in yo mouf”
…but i bet you when she finds out he is cheating,
he will suddenly “want to work it out”.
he will cut you off to please and make her happy.
you will never win.
lets also add to the fact he has 5 cubs with her.
obviously he likes fuckin’ and skeetin’ up in her.
he just happens to like foxhole on the side too.
it’s hard to leave it “alone” because he is your fantasy.
they tend to be what we desire so it’s coming from a “sexual” place.
it’s not “companionship” for the lonely.
it’s “fuck my brains out and call me tomorrow”.
i could tell you don’t do it,
but your words are saying otherwise.
i say understand 110% what you are getting into.
“jumpoffs” are usually just sex and a time limit afterwards.
they never fully get what the “wife” has.
if you can get with that that,
then go right ahead.
wrap it up,
keep your feelings out of it,
and use him for your advantage.
just know if he ever left his wife,
he will have to pay child support for 5 cubs.
that would already be the turn off for me.
hope that helped reader!
keep me posted on your decision!