Being Attractive Doesn’t Mean You Gonna Be Happy

i always asked God to allow me to be attractive.
many told me i was attractive,
but i never believed it.
i always saw my flaws in hd eyes.
something was always wrong with my face.
if it wasn’t acne,
it was something else.
my comparing game was strong too.
everyone seemed so perfect.
it stopped me from truly living my best life.
well i was having a discussion with the pretty vixen today.
somehow we got on the topic and she texted this

“you have this strange idea of what being attractive is…”

i do.
i figured if you are attractive,
even as a gay male,
those in the forests will try to talk to you.
they would throw hints and clues they are interested.
it all started when i was told how true dl wolves got the attention of foxes.
strong eye contact and obvious signs.
if he didn’t look in your direction,
that means you weren’t all that cute.
i will also admit i looked at how attractive vixens were treated as well.

“remember when you went up to get the popcorn?”

she was talking about the night at the film festival.

“i watched that whole exchange between that dude and you.
you make guys anxious.
in your head,
you are wondering why they aren’t looking at you directly.
the dude behind the counter was checking you out,
but once you spoke to him,
he got very nervous…”

now the crazy part is,
i wasn’t looking at him like that.

“omg how can i change that?”

“welcome to the world of being attractive!
just because you are,
doesn’t mean everyone is going to drop at their feet to talk to you,
especially the ones you really want to talk to.
has anyone in here approached me?”

i notice wolves are very intimidated by the pretty vixen as well.

“what do you do when you see someone cute coming in your direction?”

i often look away,
tbh.
i get nervous and try not to make eye contact.
there are times i’d look at my phone or in another direction

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wow.
after that conversation,
i started to look at things differently.
i base attraction on the wrong things.
in reality,
unless you are a good looking straight wolf,
it is going to be hard.
even he doesn’t get approached either.
he has to control the narrative and chase who he wants.
the ones on ig are shirtless so they set up the bait.
they choose who they want.
most look intimidating af online
i’m beginning to see why they always complaining they single offline too.
it might be a different story than what we think.
so i had to wonder…

Is being attractive really not what it’s cracked up to be?

i’d imagine if they were regula degulas,
it would be hard to find a date if it were beyonce or rihanna too.

Author: jamari fox

the fox invited to the blogging table.

7 thoughts on “Being Attractive Doesn’t Mean You Gonna Be Happy

  1. It’s a valid point. The “pretty ones” always seem to have issues. At least based on my past experiences with them. The have insecurity issues, and it could be based on a feeling of entitlement or being catered to all of the time. I had two friends who were very handsome guys. These dudes had girls/women throwing themselves at them. Yet, these guys were so insecure. They were always worried about how they looked, what was said about them, how people felt about them, etc. It got to be so frustrating trying to smooth fragile personalities like that, I had to walk away.

    It’s interesting dynamic too because you will usually see a good looking guy/girl, with the most basic looking guy/girl. I saw a VERY handsome dude last week, and his girl was the straight up hood chick with the bad weave (and I mean bad). I thought to myself, is he with her because she has a big booty or does he generally like that type? Two weeks prior to that I’d seen this pretty black girl with this dirty-looking grunge type heavyset white guy. Total opposites. I thought it was an odd couple for sure, but if that’s what makes her happy so be it.

    It boils down to the simple fact…attractive people are human. They have their faults and flaws, just like the “regular” folks. A lot of times we misjudge them, thinking because they’re attractive they’ll be an asshole. All it takes is a wassup or hello to find out otherwise. Although in this day and age, if you say hello to a guy he naively and automatically assumes you are trying to hit on him. LOL

  2. Yeah I feel the same way. I always get asked why am I single by family and friends, and I honestly don’t know. Every once in awhile I will get hit on, but it’s from ones I’m not interested in at all. And the ones I have interest in, I just feel invisible or weird when I’m around them, so I just fade to the background. Hopefully soon, I will meet someone who is interested in me and vice verse.

  3. I don’t think of myself as butt dog ugly but I don’t think I’m attractive either, more so below average. I just think I’m being self aware I’ve never gone my entire life thinking I was fine or my looks were extra great but I need to change my mindset. I remember you did a post a long time ago about positive affirmations and saying stuff like “I am attractive” and ” men do want me” , I think it’s time I start doing them.

    I’ve had men find me attractive they’ve never been the ones I like tho, oh well

  4. I think it all comes down to how you wield your attractiveness because let’s be real, being attractive opens a whole lot more doors than not being conventionally attractive.

    You can be the smartest, funniest, kindest person ever, but 9.5/10 people are going to go with what’s aesthetically pleasing and put up with a lot more whether they want to admit it or not.

    Attractiveness is wasted when they’re still not outgoing, unsure of themselves, or lame in bed though.

  5. For some reason those im not attracted to have the courage to approach yet those i find interesting just resort to the eye fuckening.
    Makes me wonder am i really a 7 or am just a 2 withe mentality of a 7 coz it really don’t make sense to be told you’re cute but shit aint happening lol smh

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