a foxholer and i made a pact over the blues

blues“.
that is what one of my foxholers told me he nicknamed some of these wolves.
these males,
no matter the role,
be out here giving folks the blues.

 

you think you got a good one and you’re in for a 6 month long depression.

losing weight
hair falling out
can’t sleep
thinking about him 24/7

i’m over playing blue’s clues with these pineapples.
so my foxholer and i made a pact that i encourage the foxhole to join on.
after today,
11/14/2019

We will not allow any male to give us the blues.
We are open to all perspective partners,
but the moment one appears to be playing games,
that is when we will turn the tables and give him the blues.

After today,
11/14/2019,
we will take control of our attractions to other males.
If he isn’t interested,
we will not go any further in pursuit.
We will move on and never look back.
His role in our lives will be over.

After today,
11/14/2019,
love and sex is always in our control.
We will not give our hearts away so freely.
No male will be allowed to live rent free in our heads.

We are taking our power back and becoming who we desire to be.

After today,
11/14/2019,
we will start looking at who we want to be in this new decade.
We will leave behind every old and destructive habit in this past decade.
Generational curses are no more for us.

For 2020,
we will start walking towards being exactly who we are destined to be.

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out with old; in with the new.

lowkey: this pact goes beyond males.
it can be for friends,
jobs,
family,
whatever gives you the blues.

Author: jamari fox

the fox invited to the blogging table.

12 thoughts on “a foxholer and i made a pact over the blues

  1. I’M IN!!! I literally just ended a relationship with a guy who was taking my emotions and mental through too much. He said he wanted to be with me, had his eye on me for a long time. I havent dated or slept with anyone in 7 years so I was open to the prospect of a relationship. His disrespectful ass would be lying in bed next to me in Jackd and Grindr talking to several different guys at once. I kept acting as though I didn’t see it and it didnt bother me because “I’m not the jealous type”. He spent the night last weekend and I caught him going through my phone. I told him I couldnt do it anymore and had to leave him alone. He keeps blowing my phone and social media up asking for another chance but I can’t be so bothered

  2. This pledge goes to far, particularly the first part: “We will not allow any male to give us the blues.
    We are open to all perspective partners,
    but the moment one appears to be playing games,
    that is when we will turn the tables and give him the blues.”. Appearances can be deceiving. Nothing was said about the key to relationships:. Communication. And a good relationship is not 50/50. It’s 100/100. And talk of giving someone the blues seems like revenge to me. Revenge typically is a bad habit.

    1. ^realistically,
      many males don’t even get a chance to even get into a relationship.
      some of us fall into crushes that never do anywhere or one night stands that lead to being ghosted afterwards.
      it’s a lot of work trying to find someone that feels the same.

      and giving the blues isn’t the same as keying a car.
      it’s moving on.
      if he blows up your phone,
      or starts coming back around,
      you won’t respond or give it any attention.

    1. ^i respect your opinion,
      but i disagree.

      “lonely bitch shit” is saying “fuck dating! i’m going to alone”.
      what im saying is get out there,
      date,
      and do whatever,
      but don’t let anyone get to the point that they make you sad and have you filled with anxiety trying to figure out if they want you or not.
      if those games are being played,
      onto the next one.

      i would much rather be in control than allowing others to control me.

    1. Sometimes a man just needs to know what you won’t tolerate.

      You can’t expect someone who barely knows you, how to treat you. I now let guys know what I will and won’t tolerate. They always say it’s no big deal (because all I want is respect), but when they don’t follow through..BLOCKED.

      There are also some who will compromise halfway and put in effort. These are the ones who are worth your time. They not only listen to your complaints, but give feedback and admit their strengths and how likely they are to fulfill what you need.

  3. I’d love to be a part of this I haven’t been looking, deleted all dating apps and etc. for this year, so next year I will be ready for this.

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