i get so many goodies while on my days off.
there are times i want to pop on but i’m learning to step away.
my box got blown up about byron perkins,
the openly gay pre-baller wolf from hampton.
( x we fonted about him a few times )
on the first day of pride,
he decided to shake the table by debuting who he loves…
and of course,
everyone in the black gay community had a moment.
it left me to ponder:
Almost every black male who has come out publicly has been romantically linked with a white male.
Why is this?
i’m gonna font a controversial statement:
I’m starting to think that this is our fault that we don’t have a lot of gay black male love stories.
many of us don’t treat each other well.
the basis of sex is higher in gay life than finding love itself.
white males have a privilege that black males don’t have.
what if he tried to date black males and was treated horribly/wasn’t wanted?
i have a feeling he would date his clone if he found another black male.
…and that is another thing.
i was sent this in one of the dossiers:
if he was dating a fine white male,
would this even be a conversation?
or would it still be?
i thought they told us to stop looking at “looks” to find a partner.
i’m confused and leads me to my next point:
When black vixens find love in “white/other”,
because we all know how traumatic and abusive black dating can be,
she gets cheered on.
When a black male gets into a relationship with a “white/other”,
either gay or straight,
it’s these hosts of issues and sudden outrage.
a majority of these folks feeling outraged are single.
i’d imagine if we were all in happy relationships,
we wouldn’t care what or who bryon was doing.
if we went down the rabbit holes in many of our lives,
it would lead to one that is built on sex and fantasy.
spending days in and out of sex apps looking for meaningless hookups.
having burner accounts for a timeline of porn or harassing straight sex workers.
creating onlyfans to find appreciation and love in our sex work.
bryon and his mate seem like a non-issue to me.
he might have found someone who actually likes him.
isn’t that the point?
isn’t that what we are all looking for?
Do we want to see him with another black male because it will somehow make us feel hope about trying to find out?
Will we live vicariously through his life of “black gay love” because fantasy is better than reality?
lowkey: even my cousin is dating a white male.
i asked him why and he was honest about it.
he would love to find that great black love.
black gay males,
no matter if they were fine or mid,
didn’t treat him well or didn’t want him.