Hey Jamari, I’m new to your website but I love it already! I wanted your opinion on a situation. So basically me and a guy messed around and I caught feelings. A few weeks later he told me he started seeing someone so we kinda stopped talking to each other. I deleted all of his contact information and everything.
A few months passed and we ran into each other, we traded numbers again. We started hanging out again (nothing sexual) but feelings started coming back, mind you he still has a boyfriend. When we would hang out he’d always tell me how he knows his boyfriend is just a college relationship and he doesn’t see them together in the future or he’ll tell me about their issues. He’d always flirt with me whether it be in person or through text messages and tell me that his boyfriend is jealous of me. There was even a time when he went away for spring break and his first stop when he got back into town was my place
(you’d think after being gone a week the first place you would go when you get back at 2am would be home where you live with your boyfriend)
Finally I couldn’t deal with my feelings I was having for him so I just had to tell him and ask if it was mutual and if I was wasting my time waiting for something that would never happen.
His response was “Lol right”…
Am I wrong for being angry?
Was I stupid for catching feelings?
How should I handle the situation?
“wow what an asshole…”
i literally said that when i read his response of “right”.
that is the type of “full of shit” response you would expect from “the asshole”.
someone who has no respect for anyone.
he wanted his cake and his ice cream.
being the ice cream with the fudge melted on top.
not for nothing,
but you were also wrong as well.
i’ll tell you why.
so you stopped speaking to him because you found out he was seeing someone,
yet you got back with him when he had a man???
you knew he had a man,
yet you still chose to deal with him…
you ended up not caring about his man’s feelings.
you only cared about yours.
so when he came over your crib after spring break,
because he was talking so negatively about his live in situation,
you thought you would still have a chance with him.
you failed to see the all his red flags.
maybe the clouds were too low for you to actually see them?
sooooooooo you shouldn’t be angry at all.
i think you should be extremely happy.
happy you won’t be the “getting played boyfriend” of his future.
happy that he showed you who he was and you finally believed him.
happy that he answered “right” like he didn’t give a fuck.
he doesn’t give a fuck about you or anyone for that matter.
why would you even want to date him?
he is an asshole!
look kat williams said it best:
my advice is to erase his information the second and last time.
hell throw your phone out the window or in the river and buy a new one.
that is if you haven’t learned that this will go absolutely nowhere yet.
at the end of the day:
“he’s just not that into you…
or his boyfriend.”
hope that helps.