we hear about the term “daddy issues” being applied to vixens.
you’ll hear that a vixen sleeps because she is seeking validation due to her absent father.
she is drawn to emotionally unavailable males that are prone to abandoning her.
males usually have the stigma of having “mommy issues“,
but i’m starting to realize that males can suffer from both…
males who suffer from mommy issues tend to be supreme mamas boys.
their mama spoiled them so they look for the same thing within his relationships.
they will compare every vixen he dates to their mama.
for males who deal from daddy issues,
it is often constantly seeking validation or approval in other males.
this could mean always trying to fit in.
since many gay males grew up without fathers,
it can be the same story like how the vixens do.
Sleeping around for validation and/or being attracted to the emotionally unavailable.
even if the father was in the home,
if he was distant and stern,
they’ll pretty much seek out trying to win his approval.
for straights and gays,
it’s doing everything in your power to win his affection.
nothing you do is ever good enough,
so they’ll work extra hard in school and work to not face his disappointment.
it’s kinda like chris mckay in “euphoria“:
i find that a lot of dl males with daddy issues are usually the most abusive.
they tend to be ashamed of who they are since they’re father wouldn’t approve.
they always gravitate towards the straights,
but sneak around with the gays.
the only time they turn affection “on” to gay males is when they want sex.
they’ll sleep around and/or be very abusive to both males and females.
other than that,
they might come off like their fathers in public.
distant and stern.
this is not an uncommon thing.
many straight males are running around out here with daddy issues.
the sad part is:
They gonna pass it on to their kids and keep generational curses going.
as gay and bi males,
we often times didn’t have the luxury of having a loving childhood.
we tend to aimlessly sleep around and equate that as the basis of who we are.
you can do your research on daddy (and even mommy) issues.
there are so many ways that a male can have daddy issues.
it might help you answer why you do the things,
and even treat others,
the way that you do.
lowkey: i def have daddy issues.
i can be honest enough to admit that.