30 thoughts on “ya’ll really think the first black bachelor, matt james, is gay and thriving with his bff”

1. I’m gay and I’m black. I started with that because I wanted to make it clear that I am part of the two communities in which I am about to speak. I think that black men are always on the fence about their sexualities. Being heterosexual means being thuggish and hard all of the time. If you’re not, then you’re a bitch or gay or both. I don’t agree with those philosophies, but I grew up around people that do. I once called my twin brother from my new cell number and the second I told him who I was he told me that he was about to hang up because he assumed I was a white man and a bill collector. My point is, my whole life, because I spoke well and carried myself with dignity and respect, I was considered a bitch or a lame. Can you imagine how they treated me when they discovered I was gay?

   Matt is probably 1000% heterosexual, but because he is black he is supposed to be a thug and hard all the time, according to the black community. That’s the rule. I kid you not. It’s sad because if anyone outside of our race assumes we are thuggish, we accuse them of being racist. But we stereotype ourselves literally everyday.

2. How is Matt white washed when he hasn’t been exposed to what we been exposed to. Matt may know his black history. He is educated. Just because our skin is black means we have to act like all black people act. I stay in the hood but in corporate I bet you would have never known that. The hood stay in the hood but let corporate try it and the hood will show up. How about in 2021 we stop being racist towards our own because they do things different? If he grew up in Crenshaw and all of sudden started acting Kanye-ish, that’s white washed. Matt grew up completely different than most of us. I know a few blacks who have never seen ANY hood movies or anything black culture. That’s not their fault how they are raised and their skin is black.

3. People only saying something because he is black with white friends and black women quick to call a man gay if he does not like Black women and happens to be black. They will tear him to shreds but turn around and buss it with a Black Chyna or Cardi B.

4. Was anybody checking for Matt before ABC called him? Now that he is the Bachelor, he supposed to change his way of life? What he doing is no different than seeing Tayshaun and Demario doing sus shit because they are straight. We see it all the time! Slapping guys booty but soon as you call them on that; “no homo” bruh. I’m pretty sure Demario came out the room while Tayshaun was playing Call of Duty naked asking for a rubber. I’m pretty sure Demario has slid Tayshaun door open recording him smashing a girl.

5. Everything around him is what he grew up around. To say he is doing “white shit” is being a hater. Any black person can be a real estate broker with a Mercedes. If you are driving a 2006 Nissan Altima showing me a Mansion worth 3Mil, we have nothing to talk about. Not saying a real estate broker shouldn’t be driving that in 2021 but if you are showing me a Mansion that min is 3 Mil, this sale is definitely going to upgrade you. Granted we are in a pandemic but look at the options Matt has. Buying homes is not in high demand right now.

6. Didn’t he low key tell them stop trying to hook him up with Black Women. He is not attracted to black women… or men. That’s fine. You like what you like. He was raised that way. ABC WANTED a BLACK Bachelor because they have NEVER had one. They STILL don’t have one. He is not picking a black person so the network can say they had a black couple. They picked a reverse Eminem. All they saw was his skin color not who he really is. I don’t blame him for his choices or if he is gay, so what. He is being himself.

7. It’s no difference than MJ Harris’s best friend and business partner Dale Moss. I thought he might be gay when he was on Bachelorette. Doesn’t mean he is. Seems likely. Hollywood is full of gay men with managers trying to make them appear straight.

8. I don’t think he’s gay he’s just really white washed/white acting and straight white guys do this all the time lol🤷🏾‍♂️

9. Okay I’m passive/fox but I just watched that video and he has booty on him! Okay Mr Bachelor. Tall & thick LOL

10. As far as his being gay or bisexual is concerned, I doubt it. He seem to have grown up primarily in white culture. My thoughts are along the lines of Wes above. Straight white males will do things that straight black males will not do as indicated by Wes. Black males–gay and straight–are too busy mean mugging. It’s largely part of the culture.

11. He’s not black. And to call him black is racist.

    What it means to be black
    To accept the racist “one drop” theory is racist and accepts a central tenet of white supremacy, which is blackness as a taint. “Black” is not a philosophy, a club or a way of life. “Black” is a race. “African American” is an ethnic group within the black race as is Haitian, Nigerian or Kenyan. Just as Irish or Irish American is an ethnic group within the white race as is Italian, French or German.

    The one-drop theory is part of the white supremacy trifecta, which has been largely successful in crippling the black mind (by indoctrination, brainwashing, conditioning, socialization): 1. White/European Jesus (AKA White Jesus), 2. White/European standards of beauty and 3. White/European invented, fostered, foisted, and imposed “one-drop” theory

    Nor is being black defined by skin color. The black race has the highest rate of albinos of any race. And yes, such albinos are fully black. On the other hand, this so called “one-drop” theory that says that if you are part black, then you are black is a bunch of bull. First, it was invented by the racist white slave-owner for the benefit of the racist white slave owner for their racist purposes and not by or for the slave. And I will not have my views dictated by dead racist white slave-owners. Second, it’s racist. It’s based on the theory that black blood is a taint so much so that it taints and spoils all the other blood that is there. And that as a taint, all must be thrown in the garbage that is the black. We’re not going to co-sign on a racist theory that sees us and our ancestors as the functional equivalent of garbage. (We are not garbage and neither are our ancestors!) If you co-sign on the racist one-drop theory, then you are co-signing on racism. Third, it has no basis in reality or logic. It says foolishly—and divorced from logic: “To get more oil, just add water.” (With the black heritage being the “oil” and the anything else being the “water”) That’s foolish. At some point, if you add water to oil, it becomes watery oil and later it becomes oily water. And if you add enough water to the oil, it becomes virtually indistinguishable from plain water and will be fit to drink. At some point if you add water to oil, it becomes unable to lubricate and stops functioning as oil. The “one-drop” theory is inherently racist!

    Therefore, Pan-Africanist American-African writer, historian and professor John Henrik Clark wisely said “You cannot make a good African between the legs of a European woman.” Dr. Claud Anderson came to the same conclusion saying, “If I pour water into gasoline I didn’t make it any stronger, I made it weaker.” You cannot make more “oil” by simply adding “water”. To think that you can is foolish, divorced from logic—and racist.

    (Racism is the belief that one race is inferior or superior to another race. The “one-drop” theory with blacks as a taint, as garbage clearly fits into that racist scheme.)

    Now, there are people who are sufficiently diluted of their black DNA that they are not black. No race of people is “pure” so having some other-than-black ancestry does not make you not black. Just like having some other-than-white ancestry does not make you not white. Certainly if your non-black DNA is equal to or equivalent to your black DNA, then you are not black. Furthermore, one’s race or ethnicity is not like a club. You either are or are not “born that way”. You can’t join it like a club. They are people—just not black people. They are humans—just not black humans. Such people include Senator Kamala Harris (who is apparently ¼ black), President Obama, Meghan Markle, Valerie Jarrett, Mariah Carey, David McIntosh, Boris Kodjoe, Shemar Moore, Halle Berry, Tiger Woods, Benjamin Jealous (former head of the NAACP who is 90% white by DNA), Melisa Harris-Perry, Jesse Williams, etc. (Halle Berry foolishly said that since she was black, her daughter is also black. Well, the fact is that Halle Berry is half-black so is biracial and that her daughter is born of a white man so is ¾ white! Such foolishness!) (And Tiger Woods is ¼ black and ½ Chinese! Yet some want to call him black! Correction: He’s mixed race!) Such people are mixed, mulatto or biracial. We oppose racism in all its forms and permutations (including the racist canard called the “one-drop” theory) and we ask you to oppose racism in all its forms and permutations too. When you know better, you do better.

    1. Tom foolery and Malarkey.

       There is no such thing as race AT ALL. There are simply groups of people who have inbred over several generations due to land barriers and lack of access to the other tribes of peoples. And due to their INBREEDING created peoples with homogeneous skin tones, facial features, and body types type-casted by buffoons as “races”.

       On the contrary, the social construct of race is very much alive and well, altho often confused with genealogies and genetics. They are two separate and distinct conversations.

       Referring to race by way of bloodlines is not only contrary to “science” but is more indicative of a lack in critical thinking functions.

12. He’s gay and they are both lovers

    The chemistry is so obvious

13. I have a lot of white male friends and they are affectionate as fuck. They grab your ass, balls dick etc. Took me a long time to get used to it. They’re not gay.

    1. ^black males have to live up to certain standards that white males don’t have to.
       this is why anything soft in the black male community is labeled “gay”.

       again,
       really unfortunate.

14. There is a correlation between men like this and their overall preference for white women.

    White women wouldn’t think anything of this.

    My thoughts are this man is not ready to be married to anyone.

    1. ^absolutely agreed,
       which is very unfortunate.

15. Am I the only one that doesn’t find this man attractive?

    1. You’re not the only one.

    2. ^ 🙋🏾‍♂️

       not the only one.
       he is not my cup of tea.

    3. I actually think he’s cute. But I like nerdy/awkward looking guys…

16. I agree with you. When I first seen this pictures of them I too got suspicious, but since he is on the bachelor, he wouldn’t have bothered if he had something to hide. It would foolish.

    1. That part. He’s obviously pretty white socialized, and their privilege allows them to have senses of humor. Only hood and black men walk around w a self-imposed list of arbitrary rules to abide by in order to prove their manhood. No smiling/laughing (even at the comedy club), no bare feet (even at the pool/beach, only allowed in the shower) no complimenting another man on anything other than his sneakers or car, and no music that isn’t rap, are among the top of said list. Smh

       1. Bingo.

          I was hoping someone in this thread had some damn sense.

          People forget that skin color has nothing to do with one’s culture. HE IS CULTURALLY WHITE! And white straight men are comfortable doing things that black straight men are not. Period. And I think he is keenly aware of his lack of black-ness and is SUPREMELY insecure about it. I’m sure that he is super uncomfortable around black people and I wouldn’t be surprise if he idolizes his best friend and has even gone as far as to fantasize about being him at some point.

          Do I think he’s gay? No. People forget that sexuality is predicated on love and SEX. Being comfortable in your skin around members of the same sex does not qualify. Nor should it.

          Will he chose a black bachelorette? No. He will drag along that ugly bald headed black girl with the tits out all the way to the end as a decoy. (or some other black girl) But in the end, the winner will be multiracial or WHITE (but probably multi-racial as a compromise for the optics). In actuality, he really wants a white girl.

       2. I agree. He is someone that probably grew up in a predominantly white neighborhood and went to a predominantly white school, with few if any POC around, with whom he probably didn’t socialize with…or they were the same. LOL

    2. Ummm… People in the public eye have tons of skeletons in their closets. If anything, it just means he’s cocky and or narcissistic who believes his day of revelation won’t come, not that he’s straight with nothing to hide. Andrew Gillum and Anthony Weiner say hello.

       1. There’s a big difference between hiding your private skeletons from your professional life, and going on the biggest dating show on TV, where your social life and trail is going to be vetted and scrutinized to the T, and hiding the fact that you actually don’t want anything to do with a woman and are secretly suckin dik and looking for a husband! While possible, it’d be like finding that needle in that haystack..

17. Hmm…let’s see. Shall we? Here, we have a grown ass man pushing 30 that appears to have enough disposable income to ride around in a Mercedes G-Wagon, but can’t find a place of his own to live by himself without a roommate. And did I forget to mention that’s he’s a real estate broker? Yeah, sis is gay and his “buddy” is either bending over for him or bending him over. Case closed!

    1. Or they flip flopping with that ass on Matt

       1. great ass there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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