i often wonder if a big ass dick is a disability.
like,
when your dick can’t even fit in your underwear all the way…

How would it even get into a tiny foxhole?

i mean,
these are important questions.
so when i’m sent a pipe like the following,
i’m often left asking…

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one thing about me,
i’m very independent.
i always feel awkward asking for help.
i’m learning that…

It doesn’t hurt to ask

you could get a “no” or receive a tremendous blessing.
so i’m gonna ask the foxhole for help tonight…

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FOXMAIL

Hey Jamari,

Long time fan and reader here. This past weekend I’ve ran into an issue and I wanted to get your advice on it. So for pretty much my whole high school career I’ve had the BIGGEST crush on one of my friends. Just hanging out with him after school would make my day ten times better but I was always hurt because I knew I was wasting my time because he wasn’t gay so I just took it on the chin and tried to move on. This past weekend, some odd years after high school, this nigga decides to come out to me and introduce me to his boyfriend. To see I was flabbergasted would be an understatement. Now, all the emotions I had suppressed for years came back and I’ve been in my feelings these past couple days. I’m genuinely happy that he’s happy now but ain’t the same time, I’m sad that it’s not with me (I know this sounds selfish but that’s honestly how I feel). I need your advice as to how to move on with the friendship.

Should I just play everything off and deal with it?

Should i tell him and let that play out?

Or should I just stop talking to him?

You’re the only one I feel like I can talk to about this.Thank you for your time and I’d appreciate any feedback!

MY ANSWER…

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have you been in a situation,
i’m sure many of you have,
where someone took their shirt off and it was like…

“Jesus,
give me the strength…“

i’ve been in many of those situations.
some on purpose; many by accident.
i’m surprised i didn’t spontaneously combust.
i put the following video on the foxhole ig today.
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“nobody’s coming.”

i saw that quote today and it was some real shit.
one of those type of quotes that is a blunt reality.
most of us are waiting for:

a prince charming
“things to change”
a cavalry to come and wreak havoc on those who hurt us

the truth is they ain’t coming.
nobody is coming to help or rescue you.
i learned that with my life and even with the foxhole…

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FOXMAIL

Dear Jamari Fox,

A few months ago, I was introduced to your blog and instantly became a fan. This is the first black gay blog that I have ever been exposed to and I’m here for it!

I am emailing you to seek your opinion on love. I once believed in love until all my recent encounters with men. I have dated within and out of my race (Black). Dating within my race, I end up with a men who don’t know what it is they want out of relationships, has problems with their masculinity, massive manipulators. Dating outside of my race, I end up with two good healthy relationships but we just did not connect on a cultural level. Personally, I believe it is hella important to have that cultural connection in a relationship.

I don’t think I ask for much in a relationship. I want someone who is honest, supportive, trustworthy, lovable, and someone who is ambitious on reaching success (whatever that looks like for them).

To make a long story short, it has been hit or miss even with the guys close to my age and older. I’m aware the problem could be myself, the people I attract, or both. I don’t want to just give up completely on love but… ????????‍♂️

I battle with if it is possible to find black gay love? Find someone who doesn’t lie, manipulate, cheat, or intentionally try to hurt you? Maybe you will have some answers for me because I’m sure someone has posed this question before me. Can’t wait to hear your response.

Sincerely,

Leo-da-Hybrid

MY ANSWER…

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