ya know,
i could sit here and font about a male.
pick any male.
once i font about him,
he’s instantly in google.
i could font about all his career aspirations,
how fine af he is,
and guess what?
some of them still won’t respect me because i’m gay.
being gay to some is lower than being a criminal.
it use to bug me,
but now i realize:

I got something out of it just as much as they did

see?
i changed my perspective so it doesn’t bother me as much.
i’ve become a lot more selfish with what i gaf about.
one of my foxholers hit me up in dms about an encounter on POF…

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i’m here to let the alleged straights know.
the moment:

Your penis gets harder than chinese arithmetic for any male
You stick said penis in any male/a male sticks said penis in you

…your sexuality is up for debate.
i’ll allow you to start off as bisexual,
but the moment you start messing with more males than females,
you have to accept you like males more.
if you haven’t messed with a female in a 5 year span,
and you have messed with/been intimate to one male in that time,
you’re pretty much gay.
if you’re messing with both males and females,
and not strictly dating any of them,
you’re bisexual.
that’s not something you need to announce to us.

THAT’S FOR YOU TO ACCEPT

honestly,
it’s not a big deal.
a foxholer sent me this letter with his “straight” wolf that i wanted to share…

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stopping bags.
definition(v): someone/thing stops you from making money.
it’s another term for being blacklisted.
nicki minaj started it while beefing with cardi b.
she even made merchandise about it:

question:
why is being vindictive the new way to be?
so i got a story about “theshaderoom” yesterday.
allegedly,
they have been stopping bags.
whose bag?
the one of prince carter.
i know,
who?
he’s 1/2 of the alleged gay story line on the next season of “love and hiphop atl”.
( x we talked about it here )
this is what i was sent to my box…

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one thing that use to bother me was people thinking i was gay.
the fear stemmed from my parents being so judgmental.
i’ve fonted about it before.
they raised me to be “softer” and then hated how i came out.
one thing i had to realize tho…
when you put so much emphasis on not looking/acting gay,
you actually end up looking/acting gay.
i think that’s the dilemma shawn mendes is facing.
in the latest “rolling stone”,
where he happens to grace the cover…

he spoke about his fears of people thinking he is gay.
something many of us can relate with.
this is what he said via “usa today”…
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FOXMAIL

Hope your doing well. I’ve been a big fan of your blog for a long time. It speaks so much volumes as a black gay male. Something I’ve struggled with is feeling like i dont quite measure up to my peers, family, and colleagues in the relationship department. Looking back I realize that I dont really have any long tenured relationships. I’m not sure you could relate to this. I’ll be turning 30 next year and have been bombarded with strong feelings of loneliness recently. Can you relate?

MY ANSWER…

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todrick hall.
now,
i don’t know much about todrick.
i know he’s out.
sings,
acts,
dances,
and does drag on occasion.
black and white female celebs love him.
perfect out black gay male,
right?
i’ve noticed he doesn’t get a ton of support from other black gay males.
his support appears to be “other”.

white
mixed
random vixens

most of the complaints i’ve read been about is his dating preferences.
he prefers to play in the snow more than anything else.
so,
because of this,
that’s where he’ll get the majority of support.
that means he is also boosted to the top of the food chain as well.
it made me wonder…

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