at fuckin’ last.
you finally met “him”.
not just any “him”,
but the one you were lookin’ for.
i’m also hearing “him” is a baller too.
well good job!
life can suddenly make sense when you meet “him”.
it can make every day feel like a disney movie.
the suns shines extra bright.
whistlin’ dixie in the streets.
random animals singing inspirational love songs
for some of us,
we get so involved in “him”,
that we slowly start to become “him”.
everything starts to take a back seat including people you knew.
i never understood why some people let “him” take over their lives.
especially if “him” makes you change who you are.
or is this always who you were?
people talk all this tough shit about not gettin’ whupped,
but as soon as some new dick cums in their life,
they like casper the friendly ghost on ya ass?
where are ya?
i don’t see ya no mo.
i had to wonder…
Why do we get so bussy whipped?
when you have to say “goodbye” to a friend,
one who has had your back for a very long time,
it can be one of the hardest things to do.
like any relationship,
you both may start not seeing eye to eye.
little things they do start to piss you off.
it happens and it is normal.
some friendships end because the loyalty is gone.
your boyfriend becomes a target.
they listen to jealous or envious voices.
ask any celeb about all their broken relationships.
sometimes a time out is necessary,
but it should only last a little while.
star fox and i tho…
we talked last weekend after a good four months…
Hey Jamari, I’v been reading your blog for about 2years and all I can say is you are doing absolutely great things. Much love.
I am a 27yr old DL fox from a conservative background in West Africa. I am pretty successful here. I met this 23yr old wolf around my ‘hood while jogging one day. We became friends and got closer. He was straight until I noticed he started acting weird and making some very direct compliments. He said he likes me a lot. I rebuffed him for quite a while until I was sure he wasn’t playing- I’m not one to convert straight guys.
This wolf is a muscular, cute sweetheart who quickly became a staple in my family home(and my life). My family see him like my junior brother but we were much more than that. We started dating and when it got down to d crunch- he is so well-endowed I bled the 1st time. I cldnt get myself to do it again(and he was of the same notion). Long story short- I fell in love with him. He still kicks it with vixens but I’m d only guy.
After 6months of dating (enjoying the friendship too), I realised he doesn’t feel the same way I do. He acts weird when I tell him my feelings, he isn’t d romantic type, he bangs some round-the-way hos(cos he says he wants a quick-no-feelings bang). He lives 5mins away from me. I’m completely heartbroken cos I stupidly fell in love with a guy who just confessed that he cnt grow to love a guy. I’m devastated cos I’v invested so much into this and nothing is forthcoming. We are good friends but we come from 2 different lifestyles and ideals.
How do I get over him? Unlove him- cos I guess its so convenient for him to be the centre of my attention(and I’m a Cancer, I love hard and I kinda take care of him to some extent). I see him EVERYDAY. He claims he’s trying but he keeps lying to me about the skenks he bumps uglies with(I aint against heterosexual sex but he can do waaaaaay better- he loves sex- but not with people who are immature, shady and steal from u).
Please help me(talk some sense into me). I wanna get over him but I can’t. I do deserve better.
In the Concrete Forest,
it is important to have a great team behind you.
Sadly with the small amount of people to trust,
you must have a “Bad Friend Beacon” on everyone who comes into your space.
It is relatively easy once you have been fucked over by bad people.
They start showing their true colors even if they come off a standard black and white.
Never think that because you tell all your secrets to someone,
they are actually keeping them.
They could keep them in storage OR telling someone else that is their friend.
So how can you spot someone with the evil eye?
How can you make sure you never fall into the “bad friend” net?
I had to wonder…
What ABOUT the people I call my “friends“?
It must be hell being a Fox, huh?
I’m asking YOU that question, seriously…
So they are saying that in Fox-dom, we are the lowest common denominator.
We tend to fall victim to all the bullshit going on around us.
We can never have real friends because everyone is always catty.
We can never be too feminine because we fit into that “stereotype” hairdresser or gay boyfriend.
Vixens always think we are some Dr. Phil for their own doomed love lives,
or we are an extended bitch on their shopping trips.
When we do meet a decent Wolf, being together for 2 months = 2 years.
We can never meet a decent Wolf because he only wants a relationship with our ass.
And then, we always must enter every room with our butt cheeks first.
As we see ourselves as the perfect Fox,
we get bombarded with images and ideals of what we “should” be or what we aren’t.
So, my fellow Fox…
Isn’t all that shit just… exhausting?
The Champ is here!
Do you know when something is done?
Like when a tv show is losing steam?
Someone’s career has fallen off?
You have no money in your wallet but you still want to shop?
Ok the last one is a bad example but…