one thing that use to bother me was people thinking i was gay.
the fear stemmed from my parents being so judgmental.
i’ve fonted about it before.
they raised me to be “softer” and then hated how i came out.
one thing i had to realize tho…
when you put so much emphasis on not looking/acting gay,
you actually end up looking/acting gay.
i think that’s the dilemma shawn mendes is facing.
in the latest “rolling stone”,
where he happens to grace the cover…
he spoke about his fears of people thinking he is gay.
something many of us can relate with.
this is what he said via “usa today”…
“I’d like to say I don’t care about it, but that’s not true,” he says, referencing “this massive, massive thing for the last five years about me being gay.”
“I noticed a lot of people were saying I gave them a ‘gay vibe.’ First of all, I’m not gay. Second of all, it shouldn’t make a difference if I was or wasn’t.”
“In the back of my heart, I feel like I need to go be seen with someone – like a girl – in public, to prove to people that I’m not gay,” Mendes says. “Even though in my heart I know that it’s not a bad thing. There’s still a piece of me that thinks that. And I hate that side of me.”
He continues: “I had this thought: ‘I have to get paparazzied with someone. Who am I gonna get? I’m not relevant.”
and i saw this in “paper”:
“Mendes often finds himself watching his own interviews, analyzing his voice and his body language. He’ll see an anonymous stranger comment on the way he crossed his legs once and try not to do it again. He pulls out his phone to show me his Twitter account — his name is the only recent search.
As another example, Mendes described another mini panic attack over a photo shared by Taylor Swift, who he opened for on a leg of her Reputation World tour, showing him putting on make-up:
Swift was texting Mendes a cellphone video of them together, just to make sure he was cool with her posting it — a short clip of the night they were hanging out backstage at her Reputation tour and she put her glittery eye makeup on Mendes’ face, to his delight. He told her it was fine without thinking, but later that night, he woke up in a cold sweat. “I felt sick,” he said. “I was like, ‘Fuck, why did I let her post that?’ I just fed the fire that I’m terrified of.”
In the end, Mendes says, he’s happy about the side of himself shown in Swift’s backstage post. As a kid, he’d put glitter on his eyelids to make his parents laugh; he grew up with 15 female cousins, “braiding hair and painting nails. Maybe I am a little more feminine — but that’s the way it is. That’s why I am me.”
i feel him.
that use to be me growing up.
i would tear myself apart for having feminine tendencies.
take it from me,
he is gonna drive himself bat shit crazy.
realistically,
he’s feminine and looks like a twink:
…but trying to act “straight” or date a vixen isn’t gonna help.
matter of fact,
that will give him and instant “dl witch hunt”.
prince was feminine af,
slept in make up,
wore women’s clothes,
and was straight as 9:15.
i think shawn’s issue is he comes off like “one of the gals”.
many masculine males act really “feminine” out here too.
some of them kiss and tell,
love gossip,
use gay catch phrases,
and are just as emotional as the vixens they date.
the masculine gays have it worst,
especially if they are foxes.
gay males love to hunt and “bitch” them out sexually.
how many times have you seen this utter disrespect:
“nah,
he ain’t masculine.
i had sis moaning like a girl when i threw those legs in the air.”
shawn needs to realize no one cares unless he does.
if you highlight your deepest insecurities,
you have given folks a weapon to use against you.
he gave all his haters a bazooka with that article.
no one will see this:
…because they’ll be more focused on when he does this:
lowkey: i loved this song from him…
article cc: rolling stone | paper magazine
*scratching head* Who is this lil’ boy? I’m gettin’ old ‘n shit I guess.
Does he realize that he basically came out of the closet? Lol like everything he is saying is exactly the story of our lives growing up! Like bruh you gay! 🤦🏿♂️
I’m not a 16yr old girl so I feel strange even commenting on a Shawn Mendes entry, but I’ll say this: ”Supposed straight men” who are insecure or homophobic is a universal turn off for most people. It tells me you are a weak bitch.
Bye
I couldn’t help but go “hmmm…” while reading those excerpts. Lol, I’m not saying that he’s gay, but that was a little too accurate…
I honestly feel for him because this was a huge fear of mine growing up, especially being that i was pretty fem acting, I didn’t want to give off gay vibes so I tried to be silent as much as possible and be invisible as well.
The interesting flip side of this coin is how Odell gets this often as well and just doesn’t give a fuck what people think about him.
Odell is a Scorpio though. Rupaul , Katlin Jenner too….not giving a fuck
Personally I think he’s the most basic, blandest white boy I’ve ever laid my eyes on and I don’t see why gays are really out here falling out for him.
However, I know a bottom when I see one… and he looks like he takes it well 😉
“Personally I think he’s the most basic, blandest white boy I’ve ever laid my eyes…”
Lol, I grew up in the Midwest in a predominately white town and can confirm that white boys like Shawn Mendes are a dime a dozen, but the snow-worshipping gays of color don’t care…he meets their only requirement: be white.
I think hes gay. But at the same time who really cares if he is or isnt gay except for teeny booper little girls
Bless his heart. Taylor Swift knows. EVERYONE KNOWS. (Let’s face it, if he was straight, Mlle Swift would have fucked the hell out of him and written a song about it.)
☕
I don’t care enough about him to see his interviews, etc. I know one song by him. But the fact that he is SO concerned about coming off gay……says something in and of itself. Channing Tatum dressed up like Beyonce to lipsync a song and wasn’t worried about people thinking he was gay. He’s not comfortable with and obviously finding himself.
Who gives a shit if he’s gay or not! It’s so much different in the black community tho, just the other day my sister told me that her husband said that the guys at the gym were saying that I was gay, I could care less. The same guys that talk about me behind my back are the same ones who can’t seem to stay out of my face. I think it’s funny as hell, I never understood why people are so obsessed with another person’s sexuality, if it doesn’t involve them.
Sad…
It’s funny how “straight grown men” gossip about as worse than women do.
it’s so funny how some of those same guys ar gay and would secretly bang you.
Idk but they need to get it together in 2019 ASAP.
I’ve been asked 3 times if I was gay. The first was in highschool because I was holding a water bottle and a girl asked if I held penises like that. The second was by an almost 7 foot ex-con who later revealed he wanted me to top him. The third was by a co-worker who was out. The first time I remember being annoyed because I didn’t even find the girl cute so for her to be wondering about me and sex upset me. The second time I didn’t appreciate it because he tried to put me on blast by asking me questions about sex: You seem clean-cut. When’s the last time you got puzzy? You jerked off last night? You didn’t jerk off? You got some! You fuccing these shawties? OH!!! He not fuccin these shawties! He a boring church boy!” Basically answering his own question because I just stared at him confused as to why he was so in my business. The last guy made me uncomfortable, because I never want to date someone at work and my coworkers were very homophobic. I didn’t want to lose my job over being gay but I still talked to him and diffused his question. They say birds of a feather flock together. I was the only one who talked to the gay coworker so maybe others suspected. Oh well. There wasn’t exactly anyone there I wanted to date let alone screw.
I’ve gotten to a point where I don’t care. Many men have this superiority where they say “Nobody knows I’m gay”. Okay? Isn’t that why you’re still single? The only way you can meet guys is on Jack’d?
And honestly it’s getting hard to tell who is and who isn’t gay. Straight guys use gay lingo like nobody’s business and will act gay then try to say they were joking. I never take the bait. You want me? Kiss me!! I just dealt with that mess today and brushed it aside.
He looks exactly like a twink. I really want to say this…His feminine tendencies don’t really define him. He can change this if he feels uncomfortable with it but why change it. Be you. Forget what other folks say.
I was about to in this thread though and let him have it because I didn’t know who he was.
He’s also cute.