i don’t know about you,
or if i’m really late,
but i’ve noticed something within the black community.
Being harsh is the go-to method in trying to help “us”.
disrespecting others in the community is what helps us learn the lesson.
that or bringing them down a notch if they want to do or be bigger.
have to whether we are straight,
it seems like this attitude of “ruin them will help them“.
its often disguised as:
“You need to hear the truth”
“I had to hurt your little feelings for you to get it.”
…but it’s a vulgar and dehumanizing way to do things.
it makes you wanna give up and fling yourself off a balcony.
it’s my turn to give the harsh truth then…
It’s all learned behavior from our parents who learned it from our grandparents,
who learned it from their parents,
and ultimately it’s what our ancestors learned from their slave masters.
this type of shit:
“YOU BETTER GET CHO ASS IN THAT DAMN SCHOOL.
I DON’T CARE IF YOU GETTING BULLIED.
YOU NEED TO GET AN EDUCATION OR YOU GONNA BE AN IDIOT LIKE YOU ARE NOW.”
“WHEN ARE YOU GONNA GET ME SOME GRANDBABIES?
PEOPLE ARE SAYING THINGS ABOUT YOU.
I HOPE IT ISN’T TRUE BECAUSE YOU KNOW THE LORD WON’T BE HAPPY.
YOU KNOW WHAT PEOPLE SAY ABOUT A MAN WHO DOESN’T HAS KIDS BY 30.”
…and so on and so forth.
now there is always some truth you can use,
but a majority of the other abusive bullshit isn’t needed.
i feel like the black community is so comfortable abusing each other.
it’s made to be funny or entertaining.
we drag others with the same flaws as the person we are dragging.
some within the black gay community are worse.
there is hardly any solidarity unless sex is involved.
look at how some of these folks talk to me on here?
you’d think i didn’t have a decade and some change in the game.
We break nice things and when they are taken away…
or want nothing to do with us after being treated so harshly…
we get mad because we have nothing else to represent us.
Typical “cutting noses off to spite faces” in the community.
Where is the compassion?
Where is empathy?
Where is the kindness?
Where is the understanding?
WHERE ARE THE SOLUTIONS AFTER THIS HARSH ADVICE?
everyone finds joy in being harsh but doesn’t offer any solutions.
we have none because all we know is being rude and hurtful.
it’s called “tough love” but it’s really being a condescending asshole.
This is why I don’t listen to anything harsh or abusive.
do not talk to me like you’re my fuckin’ grandmother.