36 thoughts on “All The Gays Want Pussy Now”

1. I’m a bisexual, so I kind of can understand being one thing, and then trying something else.

   If these people want to explore, let them. But I can understand why it would be bad from someone that’s gay to say, “Oh, I sleep with women now.”

   It’s good to date men because they’re horny all the time, always guaranteed a good nutt. Women can provide that, “relationship”.

2. I have a question, if a man wants to be straight for is own personal reason’s. Is he wrong ? It’s kind of like if a female didn’t grow up with a father, she looks for the affection in men. Your not doing it, but I feel like the gay community frowns upon bisexuality. It’s kind of when christians judge men because of their sexual preference. I personally hate being judged for my decisions. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with someone trying to figure it out on their own instead of looking at the media as a life coach.

   Penny for your thoughts? lol

   1. ^love this comment john…

3. Meh, this stuff is nothing new under the sun..but anyways the media is all about control & they like to push their agendas. Anywho, sexuality goes further thsn gay, straight or bi-sexuals. Most of these folks sound like pansexuals or either cash cow pushers.

4. They are pushing this new bisexual agenda and everyone is falling for it like with the trannies.

5. Like #Orange Is The New Black, so is #Pussy Is The New Dick!

6. Okay, I avoided commenting on anything intellectual in the Milan post, because I don’t take him seriously, and didn’t feel like wasting my time arguing about whether he’s gay/bi whatever, because I don’t give a shit. Who cares?

   Get some tea, this is going to be a long post. I apologize in advance lol:

   This post is a little more open-ended so I will say this. We generally need to stop making these claims about people we don’t know and their sexuality. You don’t know them and their stories. We know Milan enough to know not to take him seriously, so people like him are not worth the argument but people in general should be treated differently. Everyone is DIFFERENT in some way shape or form, and as different as we are there some similarities between many that bind us. Sexuality is a bit too complex to just throw people in boxes and EXPECT it to make sense. It doesn’t work like that in life my friends.

   To assume someone is only gay because they have sex with men is to make the assumption that the word “gay” fully encompasses our sexuality. It’s a generalized term we created to help understand and categorize our sexuality. It is NOT textbook definition of someone’s unique sexual identity. The same goes for bi/straight etc. If you call someone else gay because of this criteria, you are calling them gay within the scope of what your definition of gay is, not theirs. Put simply, you’re just imposing your beliefs and views on someone else’s sexuality and forcing them to conform to YOUR belief of what gay is or what the SOCIETAL (which is TAUGHT not INHERENT) belief of what gay ( or any sexuality/race/ gender for that matter) is.

   I’m not saying society’s view of sexuality is wrong per se, but I think the generalized understanding of sexuality is incomplete. So, with that being said, if a guy claims he is gay, but is open to being with a woman, it suggests to me, that he has come to the conclusion that he is gay, which usually does require a bit of self-reflection and self-understanding so I would be inclined to believe him (what man is going to call himself gay if he’s not? Think about it) but he’s not shutting out the POSSIBILITY that there might be a special person that transcends what he TYPICALLY finds sexually/emotionally attractive, which in this case would be a woman and is not going to deny himself someone he loves because he identifies as gay. He’s not saying he’s bisexual or going to be straight for a day, he’s touching on a bigger point, in that nature is a bit more complex than our current understanding of sexuality and in some cases, that special person could be someone who you never thought it could be. This suggests that sometimes, your CONNECTION with somebody can transcend your typical sexual interests. I love me some men, but that doesn’t mean i would never have sex with a woman, and it wouldn’t mean that I’m “using” her, and that doesn’t mean I’m bisexual, why? because I’m not out here looking for women, or interested, nor do I have sexual thoughts about women, quite frankly, women, in general, don’t get me hard, but I’m pretty sure if I have a strong enough connection with a woman, that, that could change, specifically because of that intimate connection with that one particular woman because sometimes the connection with someone transcends into a different level of sexual chemistry. I would still be a gay man, because I have a more natural desire to be with a man, but this woman

   Labels have their purpose, they are meant to put a face to the concept or idea, but it shouldn’t be used to confine people into those categories. There is no instruction manual for being gay or life for that matter. If I say, I don’t like labels and call myself gay in the same breath, what I or people in general are saying is: I AM NOT DEFINED BY THIS LABEL, I am MORE than gay, I am MORE than black, there’s so much more to me than just that, and to REFER to me,as one of those labels as if those labels DEFINE me is insulting. I’m not the BLACK guy, I’m not the GAY guy, I’m Dignified (<<in this sense, a noun, and not an adjective lol). I think Raven Symone was trying to say that in her: "i'm not black" rhetoric but she said it very poorly and got flack for it. It's a hard thing to express, and you have to be pretty explicit about what you mean when you say that. Don't use or think of labels as constraints, use them as characteristic descriptors.

   Sorry for the dissertation, but I'm a bit passionate about these topics so, yeah. I could literally write a 5000 word essay about this, but I have to stop here and hope my ideas were conveyed clearly.

   1. So hypothetically are we going to disclose to this woman that you are gay or have participated in homosexual activities? I mean women may still fuck Jussie and Ricky Martin because they have money and status, but a regular gay man doesn’t have those things. Is the woman wrong if her love for him doesn’t transcend his sexual complexities?

      Like I find it interesting no one complains about “boxes” or “labels” when someone calls them attractive or something they deem positive, but when you refer to them as a label that can be a double edged sword like gay or bottom its “I’m not into labels”. LMAO

      1. My comment was about a gay man and a woman with a CONNECTION though, as in, they’ve known each other for awhile, and his gayness is no news to them, so they’re both consenting to this, but in the case you’ve provided, the answer is no, she is not wrong if she doesn’t feel like it’s right. She doesn’t have to understand his sexual complexities at all, or even take him seriously, even if she DOES have feelings for him. She wouldn’t be wrong at all. Are you suggesting that the only way this situation would happen to a gay man is if he has money and status?

         Good point Jay, and my answer to that is: most of the time compliments and people referring to others AS the label is not the same thing, as black people some of us know all too well that sometimes a compliment is back-handed: ” You’re really pretty for a dark skinned girl” is not a compliment, black women have voiced this on many occasions

         I might be mistaken but if we’re using the example of attraction than, women tend to have this problem all the time anyway, with straight men who judge women solely by their looks.

         the difference is this: “You’re a very attractive person!” (compliment) “Oh thank you” VS. “You’re so attractive that it’s the only valuable thing about you. I just want to have sex with you, not because you mean anything to me, but just because I think you’re sexy. You’re not worth anything more than your sex appeal”…

         The difference is in the message. The point (again) is that, (for me anyway) you can call me gay, and I’m fine with that, but that’s not ALL i’m worth, and it doesn’t necessarily mean ANYTHING else about me other than I like men. You still have to get to KNOW me to know me. Someone else telling you I’m gay, only tells you that I’m gay. That’s ALL the label is worth.

         I’m not telling you to not label me a gay man. I’m a gay man we know this. I’m telling you not to associate all of the OTHER bs and stereotypes of being a gay man with ME. If it’s true, it’s true, if it’s not it’s not, good bad, and ugly.

         Then again, I’m not sure if I’m the same as those guys anyway. They might be just stupid and not want to be “labeled” at all, I just don’t want people to make assumptions about me. That’s all.

      2. In those cases, the labels “gay” and “bottom” are also restrictive, not just negative. Most people use “gay” to imply that someone is not straight, though it may unduly simplify someone’s sexuality and erase the potential for bisexuality or fluidity. Similarly with “bottom”. Oh, you took dick before? You’re a bottom. The end. And there’s nothing wrong with that…until you want to top.

      3. Agreed @ BlackBastard, and again, it’s the idea of letting that person define who THEY are as a “bottom”. the difference between these is that (in some way) you can choose your role, though most people have an affinity towards one or the other based off the thing they can’t control, >> their sexuality (in this case, what gets you hard) but say, as a gay man, ass or dick isn’t the thing that gets you off, say you like a nice big chest, or his thighs, lips, or arms? While dick and ass mean nothing to him? What is he then? A top? a bottom? I guess he has to decide for himself what position he plays, and because there is no affinity, what are the implications of him switching? I guess he’s a verse then? lol Is he even playing a role? but to critique that point, I thought part of being a verse man is to LIKE both roles, not just play them because he has to? Or maybe I’m wrong.. These words are (to me) only an indicator of what they DO as opposed to who they ARE, and even what they do isn’t written in stone!

         The thing is we just don’t know other people, UNTIL we know them, and THEN judge. Placing our views on what gay/bi men do/don’t do is nothing short of a waste of time. You put my point quite nicely, a lot of the times, people greatly oversimplify other people to put them in categories that fit into the scope of what THEY understand, which we should view our understandings of this as limited.

   2. Excellent comment,it was long as Hell 😀,but it was a great comment.Let people define themselves.I always say your opinion is not my reality.Do you and I will do me.Goodnight

      1. Thank you, and great point : “your opinion is not my reality” I like that!

         Yes, I have a nasty habit of overdoing it. I’m trying to watch that! lol! But sometimes, when it comes to these topics, long and elaborate is necessary!

7. So the logical conclusion is that being gay is a choice for a lot of these dudes.

   You can’t talk out of both sides of your neck and cry to society that you “have no choice and its genetic and no one would choose to be gay” and then say “well sex and attraction isn’t black and white and now I’m into women all of a sudden”.

   If you were always bisexual that’s fine, but gay men don’t just develop an affinity for vagina out of no where lol.

   A power bottom like Milan would go running screaming into the night if he saw a naked woman spread eagle on the bed, as would any other gay man.

   I get what people say labels can be restrictive at times, but its funny when people only use the “I hate labels” line when the label might not be appealing to everyone lol

   1. No, it’s not a choice JAY, (at least in my experience) and I don’t think that’s what they’re saying. I already made a comment about this, but they don’t just ” develop a (permanent) affinity for vagina” maybe that ONE woman’s vagina, and if he’s gay, her vagina wasn’t what he was drawn to in the first place (i’m sure that’s safe to say lol). He would still be a gay man if he still expresses homosexual attraction DESPITE being with her. If he “all of a sudden” wants pussy, he was (probably) never gay to begin with. I’m not sure if I could picture a man “discovering” his “straightness”, “gayness” on the other hand, is another story.
      But no, sexuality is not a choice, nor is it very logical all of the time.

8. So funny, but as I was reading this posts I was reminded of some religious leaders saying the same thing to their congregations. They are confused and need prayer, it’s just a phase. I remember hearing a pastor say about Gay marriage, “What next are we going to allow people to marry animals?” As hard as it is for me to find someone who just doesn’t want more than sex, I could never see myself with a woman. On the Kinsey scale I am a 10……totally homosexual. However, that is me. I can’t give my opinion or judgement on anyone else. So funny how we easily fall into the “hurt people hurt people” category so easily, and shamefully hurting our own. That’s my 2-cents.

   1. WOW just yesterday I had an argument with a gay guy who told me bisexuals are confused.I had to remind him that many straight people think gay people are confused.

      I am sometimes asked why I care about gay rights,rights of immigrants,the rights of groups I am not a member of.When I was a child one of my teachers read a poem called “First they came…” To summarize it ,during Nazi Germany this man said First they came for the Jews.I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a Jew.Then they came for the Socialists,I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a Socialist.Then they came for the Homosexuals I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t Homosexual.Then they came for the Catholics,I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t Catholic.Then they came for me and there was no one left to speak up.

      I’m paraphrasing, but when we don’t speak up for others who are being misunderstood,mistreated,discriminated against,dehumanized,etc Who will speak up for us.So I try to respect people even if I don’t completely understand them because I know many people may think I’m confused and I want them to respect me.

      1. Yes, I heard that poem somewhere, but not sure where. I agree. This is why I say if we want to tackle racism and homophobia etc. we have to tackle it AS A WHOLE, not just in the segment that we identify with or you will just be wasting your time, because nothing will ever get done. Agreed. and I love your views.

9. I agree with you Christian R. As a straight vixen i don’t believe i could be w. a gay fox an you never know my mate in life could be gay but i dont see myself having a real relationship w. One because if he wanted me to fuck him back i can’t.

10. There is a Kinsey Scale on Sexuality,most people are not exclusively homosexual or exclusively heterosexual.Forget Milan because he is probably trolling.I believe Jussie and Ricky are predominantly homosexual but still are emotionally attracted to women.Homosexuality is romantic and / or physical attraction to same sex.I know a couple of women of are physically attracted to men but emotionally attracted to women.They identify as straight even though they have been in love with a women.It’s not always black and white.There is a lot of gray area.Ricky and Jussie still identify as gay men so I don’t really see a problem.They are not claiming they have been delivert 😀 or they don’t like Mens no more.

    1. @Y Colette
       Love this comment

    2. Exactly. Good answer YC.

    3. This! I always look forward to your insight.

11. Yea, it is good to experiment, but are you doing it because you want to, or are you doing it for attention? That is the question. Milan is a person who enjoys the spotlight and craves attention, and on top of that, he is on a reality series that is scripted. Milan is a cast B member, which means without a story-line, he is no good for the show. Last season, the story-line was interesting because Miles had his struggles, the focus was not on Milan.

    I do believe sexuality can be fluid, but I also believe that some people who claim to be open to dating someone of the opposite sex may be in somewhat of a denial, or are not totally comfortable with the lifestyle. Being attracted to the same-sex can be tough because of the aspects that come with it. You have the homophobes, the people who are not comfortable with themselves, and you have the bible trumpeters. Those are three main issues that create problems for many.

    1. @The Man…the homophobes, those not comfortable withthemselves, and the bible trumpeters are self-haters, contradictory, and the undercover gays. Their words mean nada!

       1. …and not to mention hypocrites! LOL

12. I feel if people want to experiment and try new things let them. We say sexuality is not just black and white but grey but on here we only seem to accept that when it pertains to the subject of straight wolves or females, why not the gays. Even in the post about Milian even though it has attention ploy written all over it who’s to say he’s not interested in trying it to see where it goes.

    I understand where this post is coming from because when I first heard the interview Jessie I had the feeling he was saying it as a way to not seem totally gay from a marketing standpoint. So I’m going to do a wait and see on that one lol

    1. ^so i guess the new thing won’t be coming out the closet.
       the new thing will be experimenting.
       my issue is…

       what happens when someone fucks around,
       falls in love,
       and is just an experiment?

       1. Either someone gets hurt or the person experimenting figues out what’s what. I know people who were once straight did sexual things with the same gender, opened up their minds to at least fucking that said gender fell in love and changed their whole sexual identity.

       2. Experimenting is something that you do when you’re young. When you become an adult, then that’s when you know who you are. IDK what’s going on with this new millennial wave of thinking about sexuality and love.

13. I know I’m probably gonna get dragged for this but I’m gonna speak my truth. I am a young black man who identifies as bisexual. I would say I lean about 60% toward women and 40% men. I probably have dated/smashed more white people than black. I don’t really have a preference ethnicity wise, I’ve dated them all, I just see beauty as beauty. I think the problem with our community sometimes is that we try to completely box and label everything to a T. You have to be 100% gay or only date black or white or Asian. I know this has been said 1000 times before but I’m not into labels. I like what I like and I don’t what I don’t. Are there people who are out there that are confused and possibly idiotic? Yes. But honestly I feel like trying to say everyone who hasn’t “picked a side” so to speak (not that this is what you’re saying) is just as ass backwards saying gay aint “right.” No disrespect. I don’t know, maybe there is a trend happening here, but I think people are just fed up with being shackled and are finally trying to be who they are no matter the repercussions.

    1. ^but isn’t that a label tho?
       everything you said you do goes under some kind of label.
       i think everyone is just trying to be as sexually free as possible.

       1. Saying I’m bisexual definitely puts a label on it. Everything else was me just trying to just describe my situation to give people a better picture. I was just trying to say that I don’t really agree with having to put a label on things but in society people tend to lean towards doing so. What it all boils down to is my being tired of people giving me the side eye because I like both men and women. But i completely agree with you on people trying to be sexually free. Now whether that is a negative or positive thing is up to people to interpret.

14. I do not like this at all, but I’m not that surprised tho because I remember watching this gay travel show on Logo o HereTV and this gay Dutch man was married to a woman who he truly loves, but he would have sexual relation with men.

    Do I care that they are dating women? No, but I just hope real gay men don’t get influence by this because there is a difference between celebs and real people. Celebs are humans, but they don’t have a mind of their own, they are just a brand, a product, a thing to entertain you but not someone you want to be. Maybe physically with the looks and the fashion, but nothing more beyond that. Unfortunately I know there are going to be some gay American men who are going to follow this trend because let face it Americans are dumb point, blank, period, there no sugarcoating it.

    1. ^this is all so much contradictions…

       1. Jussie Smollett just did an interview with Out magazine where he said he is a gay man but if he ever fell in love with a woman he would be open to it. Ricky Martin said open to have sex women but ask If he want to date a women he said nope men are my thing so all of this is fake it to get dumb str8 women to buy thier stuff and albums and watch thier tv show. Gay men see women as cash cow This is fake bisexuality like those women say are bisexual but never date a women, see with a women like ladygaga, Amy winehouse and etc.

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