D/L MEN ARE SHIT.
D/L MEN ARE WORTHLESS.
THEY ARE THE ONES GIVING US AIDS.
FUCK THEM!
THEY AIN’T WORTH SHIT.
THEY ARE ALL LIES.
… words from almost every black woman I have met.
Foxes, Wolves, Female Foxes, and Vixens.
Time for Jamari to spit that knowledge…
THIS SHIT RIGHT HERE…
This book was the start of something…. tragic.
The start of something that was a small flame that blew into a flamer.
When his dumb ass appeared on Oprah,
testifying like he was spreading the good gospel,
I knew even as a cub this would not be a good look.
But, black women never cease to amaze me.
Now, do not get me wrong, but I love sistas.
I like them from a distance because like queens,
they can run with a lot of gossip and drama.
But sistas can AND will get on my nerves.
If something threatening comes on the scene and is able to take all the “15 black men on Earth“….
…sistas just don’t know WHAT to do with themselves.
First it was white women, then it was exxoticals, and now its D/L…
Seriously?
Okay.
Say it with me.
NOT EVERY BLACK MAN LIKES DICK!
NOT EVERY BLACK MAN LIKE BOOTY!
Ever since this whole D/L phenom has come to place,
it is almost like black women are on the HUNT to find out if a man is D/L.
Even the discreets and outs are getting caught up in that mess.
They want to find out what celeb is D/L, who in their neighborhood is D/L, or if their own husband or boyfriend is D/L.
And rightfully so they should, but they become WAY to paranoid and go left field with all the Secret Squirrel.
And then, what burns my biscuits, is their definition of D/L…
“He is wearing skinny jeans. HE IS D/L!”
“He is a little feminine. HE IS D/L!”
“He has a slight switch. HE IS D/L!”
“He has a gay friend. HE IS D/L!”
“He likes Godiva chocolate. HE IS D/L!”
“He blinked twice and then licked his lips. HE IS D/L!”
“He entered the room from the left and turned right. HE IS D/L! DEFINITELY!”
Let me give you the true full-blown meaning of the D/L:
Living on the D/L means you are so masculine and so undetectable that you even fool gay men into thinking you are straight. Men who are on the D/L do not dress or act a certain way. Men living on the D/L pretty much live a normal life… but fuck men in private. They choose to live their lives quietly because of society’s hatred and ostracization of gay individuals.
I can’t even say D/L men fuck a certain type of dude because with the outburst of queens and trannies with wet asses coming out their closets, it’s all about preference.
…or who can give better head.
As much as D/L men get a bad wrap, they are not actually bad people. They are just confused insecure dudes with sex on their mind and their dick in their hand. They just choose to live life a certain way that suits them, just lying to everyone to keep them off their track.
They will snag a girlfriend as a prop, even fuck her stupid but – yeah they pretty much lie out of fear and insecurity.
But this is how they fuck up…
BOY MEETS GIRL.
BOY DATES GIRL.
BOY FUCK BOYS.
BOY FUCKS GIRLS.
BOY MARRIES GIRL.
BOY HAS KIDS WITH GIRL.
BOY STILL FUCKS BOYS.
BOY FUCKS BOYS RAW.
BOY FUCKS GIRL RAW.
BOY + GIRL + BOYS + GIRLS = DISEASES AND DEATH
D/L men are sort of like celebrities in the gay world. They keep a low profile yet everyone wants to achieve one. They are mysterious and stay distant but only show their faces when it is time to get on the scene and get some ass. To say you are fucking or creepin’ with a true to life form D/L man is a big achievement in the gay world. Twisted, I know but every orientation has it’s “prizes“.
But realistically, men have been fucking men since the dawn of time. So this new “fad” is not so new after-all. It is just something that was underground and became commercial. So, when I see dudes that are supposedly on the D/L …
I dismiss the claims.
Why?
IF YOU CAN TELL, HE AIN’T D/L.
and like R. Kelly said: “nobody has to know…“
Later.
But I do feel the reason we do not see these masculine dudes is because there are so many feminine and queeny dudes running around. That is usually the major issue.
So the only images of ‘masculine’ men we see are straight men. So we fantasize about what we want, living vicariously through the rose colored glasses. If we had more masculine men who were TOPS – life would be good.
You see all these ‘masculine looking’ men on BGC and A4A but half the time, they are stolen identities and being used to project the want in the life.
But that’s my whole problem, this line of thinking that only heterosexual men are masculine or that men who are in to men only value men who appear straight. A straight dude can’t do nothing for me, he ain’t checking for me. Only thing he can do is introduce his friend, brother, frat, cousin, step-dad somebody who wants the bizness.
I don’t get why gay dudes fetishize straight dudes’ masculinity as if there are no masculine gay or bi dudes runnin around tryin to smash. Don’t they have straight friends and family members, why fantasize–to the point where you end up not even noticing the dudes who are in your own lane that are tryin to get to you? Some gay dudes be actin surprised when a dude that thought was straight tried to holla. Just because a dude is fine as fuck, masculine, tatted up, and seen with a woman; do not assume that he is automatically straight, or bi, or gay. Matter of fact don’t assume shit and stop missing your man because of technicalities.
But that’s exactly it. There are gay men who are very masculine running around. That’s what the conversation was about. Of course we know there are gay men who are tatted up, toting a fysh, and fine as all get out who are homosexual. But the bottom line is THAT TYPE of straight acting/trade/realness man is of the highest value to a lot of gay men. We are encouraged as a society to value masculinity and they fall right in line with that thinking. Sure, we can get all forward thinking about who we date. Looking past masculine and feminine and focusing on there person within…. IN THEORY. But when put into practice its something completely different. Typically the one who are “in your own lane” trying to get at you are the ones we tend to be the least interested in. And often times it isn’t a technicality… its often full on.. he dresses, sounds like, looks like, acts like, what one is not interested in. Ask anyone “what type of boys are normally attracted to you?” and you’ll get a plethora of qualities listed that others would proclaim to be legitimate things to be turned off by. We can pretend like there are a hole host of perfectly eligible, emotionally available, relationship focused, ready to get serious gay men out there with nice bodies, cute smiles, tatz, and swag for days but WE ALL KNOW that is not the reality.
The issue isn’t necessarily that there are too many queens lurking around… it’s more so that they’re the only ones we notice. OR they’re the only ones who are brave enough to be themselves in public. A lot of thegay men who fit the “masculine” idea are often overlooked as being… well… straight! If there were more men who weren’t concerned that their masculinity and perceived amount of respect from others won’t be affected because they prefer to date men than women…. then the conversation would be different. But that hasn’t been the case for most….
I appreciate this comment. Made me think about some things I do that are mentally destructive.
Are you kidding Vain?????????????????????????
They think just like “men”.
The stud lesbians want a video chick to bang out with a strap.
With some of them, the most masculine looking you are, the more pussy you get.
Same issue; different parts.
LOL. My stickgirl is a femme lesbian and so is her girlfriend. The girlfriend loves Beyonce with a passion and my homegirl cannot stand Beyonce with a passion. Pure hatred. It’s funny listening to them argue when that new TV commercial comes on and Beyonce be gettin it in.
As a Gray Canine( Wolf at times, Fox when necessary ), I consider your advice and insights very informative and entertaining. Yes, an old dawg can learn new tricks.
However, when it comes to HIV,it seems like a so-called bisexual man is always to blame for a heterosexual woman’s infection. Why is it that the lack of condom use is ever to blame? ANYONE that has multiple partners is putting themselves and their sexual partners at risk w/out protection! Unprotected sex is the problem, not promiscuity.
Also, if your sexual appetite includes all genders then consider being honest.
Not an option?
Then why should your partner suffer?
Cheating is going behind your partner’s back.
Unless they are willing to control their urges/desires Jamari, you should tell your followers( DL ) to own up!
They might be fine/packin( front and/or back )/sexy/ballin/stylish but is this the Wolf or Fox to get wit?
Wrap it in latex, be honest or keep it on the home front.
That means multiple partners of either gender or orientation!
^THIS
Welcome to my Foxhole!
I plan on doing some PSA soon but we are all grown, people should KNOW that condom use is important. I just think people get caught up in the moment, lose their inhibitions, and forget their common sense.
oh my damn
Going to have to disagree with you there. Sure, it may not be a prize TO YOU but i would argue that to a lot of gay men, the more discreet the man is, the more he’s worth. Yes, lots of guys,including myself, deplore these types of men but there are plenty who would say D/L, un-clockable men are of value because their the closest thing to a straight man. The way they carry themselves and are precieved b
… based on their outward appearance is comparable to that of the heterosexual men we’re taught to value within our society. Masculinity is what it’s all about to most people.
But that’s my whole problem, this line of thinking that only heterosexual men are masculine or that men who are in to men only value men who appear straight. A straight dude can’t do nothing for me, he ain’t checking for me. Only thing he can do is introduce his friend, brother, frat, cousin, step-dad somebody who wants the bizness.
I don’t get why gay dudes fetishize straight dudes’ masculinity as if there are no masculine gay or bi dudes runnin around tryin to smash. Don’t they have straight friends and family members, why fantasize–to the point where you end up not even noticing the dudes who are in your own lane that are tryin to get to you? Some gay dudes be actin surprised when a dude that thought was straight tried to holla. Just because a dude is fine as fuck, masculine, tatted up, and seen with a woman; do not assume that he is automatically straight, or bi, or gay. Matter of fact don’t assume shit and stop missing your man because of technicalities.
I agree Vain.
Getting a masculine man who is not the standard is like winning the lottery. You know if you keep playing, you may hit and get lucky. This is not just in our lifestyle either. Lesbians want a “Beyonce”, straight black women want “Super hero black man”, straight black men want “The Video Girl who can be a church girl but still be a ho”, and white men want “Any white woman who has big tits and can play housewife”.
It is all in the game of trying to find a mate – one who is a fantasy and can become a reality.
Lesbians want a beyonce? I didnt know that! I HONESTLY believed they aren’t all that concerned with a woman’s outward appearance. But i guess so?
It’s been awhile since my last response, but trust and believe that I have been actively lurking around your Foxhole. However, today’s post was messing with my spirit, especially this right here:
“D/L men are sort of like celebrities in the gay world. They keep a low profile yet everyone wants to achieve one…To say you are fucking or creepin’ with a true to life form D/L man is a big achievement in the gay world. Twisted, I know but every orientation has it’s “prizes“.”
Fucking a DL man does not equal a prize, hell it’s not even a goal.
Full disclosure, I never had a chance to closeted because I asked my father what I was at the age of 6. So my awareness of what being ‘gay’ came without any negative connotations. My father still asks about my relationship status and is open to hearing about it. On top of all this people assume I’m straight, sometimes bisexual, but never just gay. When I’m out with my brother and father, they get hit on before I would. Also my favorite uncle is bisexual and has been with his partner for over 25 years so my images of what gay and bisexual have always represented masculine men who were open and honest; not to the whole world but to people who matter in their lives.
The whole notion had actively seeking someone who is purposely lying about who they are and what they do—that’s not sexy or attractive, it’s pathetic and sad. There is nothing masculine or attractive about hiding behind a woman, child, or career just because of sexual orientation. Most sane people really could give two fucks AND/OR they are actively trying to smash anyway.
Paranoia and depression is not sexy and it’s really schizophrenic to think a boatload of people would really care about how and with whom a person’s reaches orgasm. A lot of the fear and insecurity is in the mind, a byproduct of internalized homophobia; it’s unnecessary.
There are too many quality dudes out there for settle for someone who is lying about how they get they nuts. Doctors, lawyers, cops, computer engineers, ATHLETES, and regular dudes who are comfortable and secure and tryin to smash and often. This happens here in country ass VA so I know it has to occur in other places.
Oh and a comment for those Secret Squirrel chicks: Desert-Pussy-Chicks are always like Desert-Dick-Dudes, THRISTY and EXTRA. Most of the time they are a 4,5, or 6 tryin to holla at a 8, 9, or 10. They are on that new math. Just pray for them and let them hate at a distance.
Hey ICeed! Long time and no font.
I liked your reply and I thank you for sharing the knowledge.
I want to say that I understand where you are coming from but,
most D/L men are not raised like you were. Many were raised in strict Christian households OR homophobic settings (Caribbean or whatever) – so what they are doing, they feel they are “wrong”. And in many cases they are, but it all has to do with background. We always forget that people are not going to do what WE would do.
Realistically, your attitude is GREAT but to others, they cannot be so brave unfortunately.