…he ended up blocking your Finsta on IG.

yikes.
a Foxholer slid into my DMs today with this spicy dilemma,
and it’s been simmering on my mind ever since.
first things first…

I’m not here to play judge,
jury,
or executioner for your so-called “misdeeds” like these others.
You know everyone “does no wrong” on the Rihanna’s social media.
We’re all adults here,
and let’s face it,
every situation is a lesson.
It may end in fireworks,
full-blown dumpster fire,
or both.

according to the story i was being told,
it didn’t fall apart because he’s married or allegedly straight.
this married confusion was responding to the messages.
even though he didn’t follow back,
as he shouldn’t,
he was still entertaining this finsta out of curiosity.
i think once there was no end game than just “flirting”,
and somewhere between “okay, this is getting weird”,
his defenses probably went up.

You can’t be sliding into someone’s DMs,
trying to keep things on the DL with a Finsta,
and expect it to work out.
Once they show a hint of interest,
you’ve got to take the leap and start unveiling yourself.

newsflash: this isn’t all about YOU.

would you trust some rando faceless account trying to slide into your life?
it could be an opp,
or worse,
a serial killer.
when it’s looking like a possible go,
and the landing on the dick/hole/both is in plain sight,

it’s time to seal the deal.

1) Drop the disguise and go in with your real account.
2) Take your chances with the risk of getting ghosted.
3) Only use your Finsta for spying and not conversing.

…and if you do reveal yourself and they block or ghost you?
don’t take it personally.
you took a risk; now live with the outcome.