in the gay forests,
i have learned one thing that i always find quite interesting:
In one community,
everyone has different experiences and reacts to them differently.
We’re also surrounded by others who either understand or are puzzled by those experiences.
….and for some weird reason,
many gays don’t give grace and be gentle to those who are confused.
they speak to others with the same aggression and hatred during their own confusion era.
i hate to font it but you sound like your mother.
its important to understand we are all different and many of us are confused af.
i got a DM from a Foxholer that i was allowed to share with everyone in the hole…
i think this is absolutely valid.
What if the Foxholer experimented with a vixen?
we don’t know if we truly like or hate something until we try it.
many of us had sex with vixens and realized we hated it.
many of us had sex with vixens,
had the kids and did the whole relationship/marriage,
and realized we actually hated all of this.
Many of us are having sex with vixens,
enjoying having sex with vixens,
and enjoying have sex with males too.
see what i mean?
the Foxholer went on to font:
i admire those who meet the manz of their dreams and even though its not perfect,
they are making it work and taking their partnerships to the next level.
outside of a (maybe) good sexual experience,
many males are just not what they are cracked up to be.
what we show on social media doesn’t always translate well in real life.
the gay forests is a main streets with many avenues,
side streets,
and dead ends that all lead us to where we want to be.
sometimes,
it leads us straight to our own personal hell.
my suggestion to this reader was to definitely seek a therapist.
many gays need a professional help even if we think we are put together tbh.
out or nah,
you see how some of these damaged folks are fuckin’ up our lives with their baggage.
with situations as in the DM…
Life experience will always be our best teachers but if we are confused,
those experiences can turn into our struggles very quickly.
lowkey: i hate that mental health is a clear issue within the country but so hard to get.
it’s best to get on a self therapy journey as you search.
Ummm, I don’t understand why this is such a dilemma. But everything isn’t for everyone.
So, I’m a little confused, bisexuality and pansexuality are real things so I don’t understand the crisis. Maybe there is a crisis concerning a religious or moral conviction, but as long as it’s 2 consenting adults, then what’s the problem exactly?
Not to be too judgmental, but we all know that being promiscuous is wrong, yet people constantly seek permission and validation for their behavior, and that sounds like what the person was doing who reached out to you. It’s never wrong to seek out therapy, but morality aside I would’ve just told the person to educate themselves as to the best practices to keep themselves safe depending on the activity they were going to engage in and keep it pushing. Also, we do need to start having an honest conversation about the dangers and pitfalls that come with being promiscuous in 2024, STDs, STIs, safety concerns, etc.