i have always been an open book when it came to my emotions.
i know it’s not the “manly” thing to do,
but i’d rather others know what’s bothering me than bottling it up.
with that being said,
i often asked myself:
Are males supposed to be emotional?
it’s like we’re supposed to lie in order to be considered a “man”.
the almighty male!
the one who bangs a lot of ho
les and wears designer clothes!
hear us roar!
well that won’t be me.
judging from how the foxhole has been my “emotional journey” since ’09,
i guess many relate in some way or another.
thank you to those who continue not to judge me since then.
i saw a quote from viola davis the other day that represents me.
as you know,
viola is one of my favorite actresses.
this is a quick quote on what she told essence via the root…
“Everything is about not letting anyone see you sweat, not owning up to your vulnerability or your weaknesses or your failures. I don’t think that you can live a life for two minutes and say that you’ve never failed or you’re not struggling through something or you’re not getting ready to. If you’re saying that, then you’re 100 percent lying and the people who are looking up to you who are struggling; you’re not helping them,” Davis said.
i get so many foxholers privately telling me how my struggles have helped them.
even though i have been “dragged” for making mistakes,
some bigger than others,
i don’t ever feel bad about it.
i look forward to criticism because it can help me make better choices.
i refuse to live a life where i have to be a volcano.
you know those types.
as soon as the right thing that ticks me off then:
work wolf is the perfect example of that.
it’s a shame that masculinity has to be that.
his and others i’ve met,
have this twisted “i fuck a lot hoes/no emotions” notion to being a male.
it’s okay to let your fur down.
it’s also okay to be emo.
we all have struggles.
you’re struggling with something right now.
so am i.
social media is a great tool for creating a false image of males.
it’s okay for a male to cry and be a hot fuckin’ mess.
i know i won’t judge you.
quote taken: the root