homophobia…
… is a funny thing.
you think as much as gays are starting to become accepted,
some asshole goes and fucks it up.
personally, i think straight wolves should be flattered.
both sexes want to fuck you?
shit you must be fine.
or playing a great “straight“.
i often wondered if it’s true that men who are homophobic are really gay?
are they just suppressing their desires?
men who were molested when they were younger?
or do they really just genuinely hate that “fag” shit?
this makes for great DL examples of the past, present, and future.
i wonder…
Is homophobia just a stop away to gay town?
i was talking to a vixen today who told me she dropped this wolf she was talking too.
she said that he was way too homophobic to her taste.
she said it almost came off like an obsession.
he was telling her how being gay was “not christian”,
how it’s absolutely distributing that the pipe goes into someone’s butt cheeks,
and how 2 men is plain ol nasty and sick.
he made a comment to her that if a gay dude came up and told him he was attractive,
or complimented him on his outfit,
he would punch him in the face.
i saw a picture.
why is it the ugly and dusty think EVERYONE is trying to hit on them?
and get this….
HE THINKS TWO LESBIANS ARE OKAY!
she told me how they argued about his point.
won’t two lesbians go to hell too?
don’t you fuck other vixens and you aren’t married?
my personal favorite out the convo…
you never put your dick in a vixen’s ass?
i feel it is overt favoritism.
plus overdosing on the mighty bible.
the usual sin.
why is it the lesbians get away with murder,
but we get the short end of the stick?
i prefer the long end.
okay focus.
as i write this,
i started to wonder about the dark street that is homophobia.
can someone who is homophobic suddenly change?
and at what point do they wake up and accept?
you see it blatantly online.
the attention whores cry “wolf” when a dude adds them,
yet they want those same “homos” to buy their product.
do these muscle bound meat heads really think vixens are supporting them?
without us,
they would be nobodies.
straight wolves not gonna support them because of jealously or envy.
vixens switch up when the next best thing comes along.
they better hope we even want them after all the games.
as much as i think homophobic people need to get over it,
i know it isn’t that easy.
some were taught at a very young age,
while others are just ignorant until….
question mark.
when it comes to homophobia…
He gay I always feel that if you are a straight man you are comfortable with your sexuality. If a dude rubs you the wrong way and you think he might come on to you is because you believe that you will like it. Dudes now-a-days want to know whats the hype about with dudes who likes dudes so they try it and like it. But I never understood why #BumSquad always feel gay dudes want them when females don’t even want them sorry we ain’t that desperate for a piece.
Well I think that there are a lot of guys who bash gay men to a extend and I think that they’re fear is their fantasy. They are afraid that someone will find out they are dl or have some sort of taste for a guy because they think being gay is this so called “horrible” thing to be. So many guys that I know who are like that but cant accept the fact to be themselves. After a while, wouldn’t they get tired of bashing us all the time, I mean its obvious that they have some obsession, if they hated us so much, they wouldn’t say anything about us and keep it moving. but I think as time has moved on, homophobia isn’t as bad as it use to be, nowadays its acceptable with people, but their is always one person that has to be a odd ball and show how much everyone knows that they are hiding behind anger because they cant be who they want to be. So they use that to express their desires and feelings that are hidden in the dark.
Also the reason why lesbians “maybe” are possibly looked at different (no evidence to show” is due to the way these discourses and subjects are framed! E.g It could be suggested in “modern” western societies hetro- white men produce the main knowledges in the world and therefore stigmatize “gay” activities. However if you look back in history of sexuality or even in other “modern” cultures same sex activity is not stigmatized as much..
http://www.myvidster.com/video/10080046/GAY_PORN_PAYS_THE_MOST_MONEY_STORY
“do these muscle bound meat heads really think vixens are supporting them?
without us,
they would be nobodies.
straight wolves not gonna support them because of jealously or envy.
vixens switch up when the next best thing comes along.
they better hope we even want them after all the games”.
Will they REALLY be over?!! Have a think?!
Some of the best artists out there STRONGEST FANBASE are straight vixens and wolves.
I think its very bitter to say this! the gay community haven’t exactly ruined anyone’s career and we haven’t really supported a gay artist! Evidently- LAY DOWN RUBBERS are mostly ‘wolves’ and ‘straight’ music stars!
As long as the gay community like dick/straight acting guy and muscles! we will never ruin a career. NOT being negative just an observed fact..
Hmm I don’t think all men that are homophobic are closeted gays. The ones that are like obsessed with anything gay are questionable though. I always side eye the guys that call EVERYTHING gay. I remember in high school a few guys thought eating healthy and doing cardio exercises was gay, but were the main ones always doing gay shit. I think it’s more of a insecurity/ego thing with a lot of men. I cannot stand the guys that are like “You can be gay, as long as you don’t hit on me or be too gay around me, I don’t have a problem with you.”
Homophobia will be around just as long as racism, misogyny, transphobia, the misguided lines of feminism & masculinity, and any other ignorant social construct will be. It’s just one of those things you have to have tough skin. We will forever see people making fun of gay culture, the same way they do black & other ethnic cultures.
I think it’s amazing how someone who is perceived to be straight can be so loved and admired by people, but as soon as he/she announces that he/she is gay, so many people turn against them. Why is that? This is the same person that you did not have a problem with prior to their coming out, so what’s the big deal?
Blatant homophobia is easy to spot and says more about the person and has absolutely nothing to do with you.
It’s benevolent homophobia that messes with your mind. So-called friends, family members, or people you are starting to trust who only accept certain parts of sexuality or have preconceived notions about it:
Constantly being reduced to what they think you do in the bedroom.
Don’t mind you dating, but they never ask about your partner or discuss your sex life because gay relationships aren’t valid, and therefore not real.
Get upset that you have independent thoughts, don’t care about fashion, glamor, or glitter, nor do you want to be some dizzy woman’s sidekick or token gay.
Concerned about you being alone with their husbands, partners, or children.
Thinking you want to sleep with them and hoping you “don’t cross the line” OR only being friends with you because they want a built-in talking dildo/cum dumpster/fleshlight, bail bondsman, designated driver, mother/father, or psychologist.
GTFOHWTBS!!!!!
I wish I could post emojis cause that post deserves claps.
True! And if they have concerns about a gay man being around their husband/partner, then perhaps it’s the husband/partner that they are really concerned about. They may be the one to make a play.
@Jamari: Can you really blame them for their assumptions though? We do the same thing. If you see a fine wolf you thought was straight chillin with a known fox all the time you’re naturally going to think he may be open-minded.
I will say of all the times I’ve assumed men were gay by association 95% of the time they were. Lol
Birds of a feather…
^i can’t even front.
lol
but they also fall victim to men who are CLEARLY gay.
Flock together, they sure do. I be like “uh oh, when were they friends? They are so opposite, but probably got one thing in common lol.”
^is it wrong we do that?
i feel like we shouldn’t…. or should we?
We do it, but for a different reason. We just get excited that the dude we never suspected just might be gay. We see is as the more players we have on our team the better. I get excited lol.
I think this should simply be our cue to investigate further, not make assumptions.
That’s what I do. One or two gay friends may be a coincidence, but if you go through his friends list on facebook or see the pics he liked on instagram and see he’s linked to a double digit amount of gay dudes well….
^lol
i do that!
Yes yes jay birds if a feather flock to fuckin gether. This has happed to me I was trying to make friends with a in some str8 gym get high shit. Well a friend of a friend of his said they saw me hanging with some of my femmy friends and he str8 up 86 my ass with out even a good by jus blocked my number. Weeks later I see him in the gym and he tells me this and I say how do they even know it was me and if his friend can recognize a dude femmy he need to be checked. He tried to get strong for a min but he quickly remembered I’m the bigger and stronger one of us and any nigga don’t wana lose a fight to a bi/gay dude. I say bi/gay cause I fuck with fish in occasion lol
Here’s the fucked up part though. Men wanted those women to look like Rihanna and Beyonce, not Oprah and Whoopi in the bedroom. They okay with two beautiful woman in the bed but don’t want to see two ‘regular’ women.
Homophobia is a strange fear. Either you have someone who is afraid of gay people or the dude that is gay himself but won’t come to terms with it. If all your life, the only thing you ever heard about gay people were negative, mostly you will believe it until you have common sense to think otherwise.
It’s funny. I have met all types of homophobic dudes in my life. I had this one dude who was raised Muslim. Homophobic at their worse. We end up becoming best of friends. We went to work together, we hung out together. He taught me how to smoke blacks. We would even cruise in his convertible. I asked him one day about his thoughts on gay people and he told me straight up that before he met me, he hated gay people with a passion. He said meeting me change his thoughts about gay people.
It was the same with a lot of the men that I have met in my life. They respect me too. They didn’t tolerate people making fun of me or saying anything out of the way. It lets me know that there are people out there who will open up their minds with the right person.
Women can be shady lowkey too but there are women who get it. I don’t like the over the top girls who want to smile in your face and talk shit behind your back. I know what it’s like to have a bitch tell me that I can’t come to her house or be around her children/baby daddy/husband/boyfriend….
“Women can be shady lowkey too but there are women who get it. I don’t like the over the top girls who want to smile in your face and talk shit behind your back. I know what it’s like to have a bitch tell me that I can’t come to her house or be around her children/baby daddy/husband/boyfriend….”
^good comment luckey!
that last part literally made me say, “oh hell no”.
i really need my gay people to understand just how trife vixens can be.
some are great.
others will be quick to sell you out.
it’s the truth bro…chicks are already catty as fuck. They good for smiling in your face and shading the hell out of you behind your back. Been there. This same chick who tried it with me, her boyfriend ended up getting caught on his knees….in her bed with her boss….#soapopera
^excellent comments everyone.
i love when you all make me turn my brain on.
its a topic that can hit close to home for all of us jamari. we all hear homophobic shit every day
A homophobic person will never change unless they get in touch with their gay side that they desperately try to ignore and disown. It’s funny how some men say that they will beat up a gay dude up if he complimented them, but what if a straight man does? What happens next? That straight man who complimented you can be just as gay as the flaming queen who told you he liked your kicks. The only difference is one is out and the other is discreet but he comes of as straight. I have told people before we all have gay friends near us. In my early teens before I knew I was bi, I had a few friends that came on to me, and I never knew they were like that lol. I was like “damn he get down like that? I wonder who else in the circle he’s done that too?” Most straight men have had other men hit on them and didn’t even know it, so while they say they would knock a gay dude’s head of his shoulders, that person could possibly be their best friend, co-worker, or fellow teammate. The lesbian world is different from ours, I don’t know why it’s hard for some people to understand. Most of them are out. It’s very few down low women out there, and half of them are only bi because it’s trending. Years from now they will be married and throw up at the thought of being with another woman. It really doesn’t matter though. They can be more open and get away with it, while we all have to keep on the low so we won’t be judged and ridiculed, not to mention the guessing game we play that is very dangerous and might cause us to get our asses kicked if we are wrong.
Homophobia is NOT going away. Deal with it. As long as churches are essentially teaching homophobia and people are using the bible to support it, homophobia will always be instilled in people from a young age.
I grew up with family that said homophobic things all the time. I grew up thinking gay is the worst thing you could call a person. Somewhere deep in my subconscious, I still think that honestly.
When you have those values forced on you at a young age you’re always going to have strong feelings about it. I don’t think every dude that happens to be homophobic is covering up his own homosexual tendencies.
Maybe one day it will become more disguised like racism, but I doubt it.
Lastly, women can be just as homophobic. They may tolerate gays (i.e. their hairstylist and the dude at MAC), but some of them don’t want any gay dudes anywhere near their boyfriends or husbands.
ha jay i get that feeling to sometimes. like watching this gay porn or talking to another dude is wrong. then i hit the blunt and say fuck it lol
Oh I love porn. Lol
I never thought homosexuality was wrong in general, I’ve just wondered if it was right for me.
sometimes i still hear my old pastor screaming homosexuality is a sin. and then i hit the blunt again lol. this is a topic people will always avoid because they believe God personally told them that all fags are evil
You sound like the last dude I just stop talked to(we decided to be friends). He said something similar to what you just typed, but when I told him I didn’t have feelings for him no more he told me he wasn’t expecting me to say that, and still wants to be up under me. *side eye* I roasted his goose, and I meant what I said to him too lol. I’ve been trying to find a way to tell him that we will never be together whether he comes to his senses or not. I can’t be with him going back and forth like that.
The Man are u saying i remind you of the dude because of the sweet sweet mary jane lol
Both you and Jay have said things that he did when he told me he didn’t want to be with guys anymore lol. That shit about wondering if it’s for you, and thinking that talking to another dude is wrong.
Oh. I mean we’ve all heard somthing to that nature but that the way things go sometimes some guys can’t handle it and hop back in the closet and holla at a big booty chick.
“Lastly, women can be just as homophobic. They may tolerate gays (i.e. their hairstylist and the dude at MAC), but some of them don’t want any gay dudes anywhere near their boyfriends or husbands.”
^this line!
someone is making me put my thinking cap on tonight.
This girl asked my opinion of her boyfriend spending time with a friend from jail.
“Should I be worried? He said he’s his drug connect, but I don’t like the way he walks. They were just in county jail, not prison though.”
LMAO!
…and that in turn is why men are so high strung and adamant about gay dudes, because some women will label a straight dude gay by association.
^personally,
i love vixens and all,
but some of them are fuckin idiots.
“Should I be worried? He said he’s his drug connect, but I don’t like the way he walks. They were just in county jail, not prison though.”
LMAO…@”I don’t like the way he walks” I can’t. I could just imagine her face when she said that.
Why would she expect you to know right off. I hate when people think that other bi/gay men can tell if another is
Jamari you hit the nail on the head when u said the all mighty bible. Most dudes who were raised in a strong Christian household were taught that homosexuality is a sin period. I often wondered why lesbians get looked over when it comes to the god hates fags comments. Plus there are those desperate jackles who mess things for all of us like “Amanda” on catfish. Idk if u saw it or not but it went from funny to really really sad in 2 seconds. Face it no matter how much we seem accepted in northern states we will still be hated in the southern states. S/N when they show a gay man on tv they never dudes like me or you they always show a flaming queen ( no shade no tea my sweet darlings lol). I really do want a athlete to come out not just for the gay community but for the kids in the closet who need a gay role modle to show them u can still be yourself and dominate in sports
Society doesn’t take lesbians seriously unless they’re old and have been together forever.
I can’t tell you how many girls I know claimed they were lesbians and ended up pregnant later.
Lesbians aren’t as “out there” as gay men are either.
I don’t know why people think something is going to change if some popular athlete comes out, especially a black one. He’ll just become labeled like the rest of us. Chris Paul coming out the closet is not going to incline Javonte to come out the closet. Lol
lol but it could help i know when i was younger and in the closet i saw no rolemodles for young gay athletes and who knows Jay it just might. Chris Paul?!?! i was thinking more on the likes of Blake Griffin lol