i thought i could get him into a relationship with my butt cheeks

waddup?” he asked on the other line.

he was fine.
like,
“fine fine”.
it’s been a long time since i’ve talked to someone i was interested in.
years,
probably.
i was attracted to him tho.
we been talking on and off for a few days.
he’s definitely someone i could see myself with long term…

“nothing,
sup with you?”

“nada,
ya know,
long ass day…”

even though we been talking real heavy,
i didn’t know where it was going.
i’m tired of being some hole for random wolves i’ve met off chat sites.
at this point of my life,
i want more.
i really want a relationship.
in the middle of the convo,
i decided to cut to the chase.

“so what you lookin’ for?”

“whatchu mean?”

“i mean…
what are you lookin for as far as dudes is concerned?”

“tbh,
nothing serious.
i’m not trying to be in a relationship right now…”

this was my chance in being honest.
telling him that i want a relationship and something serious.
what if he stops speaking to me tho?
what if he ghosts me?
he is real fine and i don’t want to fuck it up.
so i say…

“nah,
me neither.
i’m not looking for anything serious right now.”

“aight cool cool…”

ok,
good.
i guess i moved to the next round.

“so what you doing tonight?”

“nothing,
what you doing?”

“i’m trying to be doing you…”

even though i wanted something serious,
i been real horny and he is fine af.
so about two hours later,
that’s what he did.
he did me goooooooood too.
my eyes was rolling back into my head and my toes was curling.
he fucked me like he knew my body needed it.
after round 3,
i wanted him to stay over.
i wanted to feel those nice ass arms wrapped around me.
he said he had to go,
but was gonna hit me up later.

the next day,
i texted him to see how he was doing.
no answer.
i didn’t want to look thirsty so i held off.
i waited and texted him a few days later.
nada.

i‘m horny” –i sent him that text at like 1130pm the next night.

“oh yeah?” he responded instantly.

he came over two hours later to fuck my brains out.
i tried to give him the best tail that i could.
threw it back on that dick and rode him like there was a saddle on his hips.
i wanted to let him know that i missed him.
he was really into it too.
after we fucked,
he said he was hungry.
i fixed him some breakfast food and we ended up talking for a while.
he was so gorgeous.
maybe,
things will be different?
maybe he will change his mind and fall for me?
since it was so late,
he decided to stay the night.
we cuddled and it felt good,
ya know?
those big ass arms were just what i needed.
we all want to feel love in one way or another.
during the night,
he would squeeze me real tight.
sigh.
he’s like my perfect wolf.
in the morning,
he woke up early,
flipped me over,
and dug me out mercilessly before he left.
he told me he’d hit me up later on in the day.

I didn’t hear from him in a month

he claims he was busy,
but that’s bullshit.
i texted him damn near every day.
he read my messages so he can’t be that fuckin’ busy.
he made me feel like he was interested in me.
wtf?
i mean…
my body is good enough to nut in,
but i’m not good enough to be with?

—-

sound familar?
lack of communication is the leading issue why there are so many misunderstandings.
if someone says they aren’t looking,
but you want something serious,
you need to keep it moving.
foxes…

Good tail and great head isn’t gonna change anyone’s mind.

Author: jamari fox

the fox invited to the blogging table.

22 thoughts on “i thought i could get him into a relationship with my butt cheeks

  1. Just last week someone messages me and with a blank profile but greeded me gorgeous pic and we went on with conversation and no sex implied even though the guy was sexy. Finally someone who wants conversation and get to know me on Grindr is rare. Hell I have another incognito profile that showed the goods, but wanted to go on a date. Like man, I’m also getting tired of hotel and condo hopping and just want to settle. Especially now I’m going into a professional career. Maybe my profile will be blank as Blank men.

  2. This more so happens to guys chasing perfection. You’ve met a guy and throw your goals out the window and succumb to giving unlimited sex and material things in order (vinny) to get a glimpse of someone you believe is perfect.

    As my friend from NY use to say” I turn down good dick all the time”. All these stories begin with oh he was so fine, oh he was this oh he was that. We have been chasing perfection from flawed people. My profile is blank on Grindr lol but I know I’m a great catch. Those days of sweating dudes are over!!!!! My love will come whatever he may look like. I’m open to it but not a fool for a chiseled body and big dick.

  3. this was my chance in being honest.
    telling him that i want a relationship and something serious.
    what if he stops speaking to me tho?
    what if he ghosts me?
    he is real fine and i don’t want to fuck it up.
    so i say…

    “Please let me pretend that you’re leading me on so I can demand a relationship from you and complain that men suck when I am pursuing someone who does not want to date”

    I don’t understand why the conversation did not end there. Since when is expecting something from someone that they told you they won’t give you, from the beginning…on them?

  4. Thanks for sharing this intimate glimpse into your experiences. It’s good to hear the d!ck was good, but as he’s not the one, and as soon as he said he wasn’t looking for a relationship [RED FLAG], that was the sign to say to yourself, it’s only going to be about the D and that’s all. What do you love to do? What makes you happy? What brings you joy? In the course of doing whatever that is, you might meet a man who connects with you on a deeper level, a spiritual and emotional level, a love level. He might not sling D or be as superphyne as this dude, but he’ll rock your soul. He might be on the apps, but probably not. But listen to what he tells you. Or what any man is telling you, up front.

    1. But wait a second. I can’t but feel some type of way seeing all those older gays in their late 40s 50s and 60s all alone. It’s like damn is this what our fate will become a bunch of do gooders, with money in the bank, several God children and no partner or children of our own. Understand the difference of not being a doormat But I can’t help but look at the older gays and realize more than majority of them are single and all alone.

  5. The fact that people relate instead of saying “I did that when I was young”, speaks to a greater problem. Pursuing people that don’t want us. Straights have done a number on the gay community. Y’all cannot get a text back and I’m dealing with men who want to show PDA in public (and I don’t want to bring attention to myself, as a gay man). Level up!

    1. They’re alone because they were picky, selective whores in their 20s and didn’t develop the social skills required to maintain stable relationships. A lot of heterosexuals in those age groups are single too. There are hoards of them in Atlanta, Houston, and the DMV. They make excellent money and look amazing for their ages, but they’re lonely, bitter, vain and superficial as hell, and empty inside. Relationships are hard work. Nothing worth it comes easy.

      The sexy wolves really think they can treat guys any old kind of way… and yall be letting them! I have my torso pic up on the apps so I get hit up by all kinds of muscle wolves and fit gays. Most of them are nice, but some are rude as hell and in need of an ego beat down. The other morning one hit me up and he seemed pleasant. I was at work so I didn’t have time to play on the apps long. I check them sporadically, sometimes twice a week, other times once every couple months. Anyway the next morning I logged on and saw he sent me his number so I replied with mine. Yo how about this asshole texts me back with “send me some pics”. That was strike one. Then on the app he pops off with “let’s be more frequent”. I straight blocked his wack ass. Those types think they can talk at people. They think they’re just so desirable. Haha not today my dude.

      I’m streetwise af and I know when someone thinks they can get something out of me. Jamari went wrong blowing up that jokers phone instead of flipping the script and just using him for all what he was good for.

  6. I think a big play on this (tho no one really likes to talk about it…) The nature of female and male relationships vs the reality of two men being together. The need for affection is a natural response for all living things.

    However, gay men need not have to worry about the things the straight people do .The straights only function to keep the world populated while we are one way to curve it and keep it from being overpopulated (at least that’s why I think there are gay people.)

    I don’t know if gay men like hearing this but “bussy” will never be better than pussy. Leave a straight man be because like men, women also have assholes that are just as tight. They have the edge…titties, shaped asses and naturally lubricating sexual organs…but there are those other things…

    Those really nasty habits or degrading things that some women don’t want to subject themselves to but a gay man gladly will.

    Those types of straights can see the desperation & it’s an easy way to get a nut without having to work for it. Most genuine women don’t give up the cooty-cat so easily. You gotta prove you want the pussy because there is power in the pussy & it makes straight men do “strange things” for it. A straight wolf will fuck up his entire career over pussy & she will still come out with glitter. Let a gay man try that and he’ll be coming out in a body bag.

    Females aren’t stupid. If they want to, they can surely ensnare a man in their web & subdue him for life. Seduction 101.

    Gay men’s legs fly open as soon as they see bicep or a hint of abs…

    Sometimes you have to think about what you’re dealing with here. Someone that will fuck your brains out on Tuesday cause they horny and then blow your brains out on Friday for their secret getting out…

    It may be surprising (though it never should be) that most of those DL/straight dudes are in fact bottoms. It’s one of the main reasons why I don’t believe in the logic of a straight woman fucking a man with a dildo & him claiming straight.

    On the surface people see it as a woman with a strap-on, however, I see it as a blundering bisexual bottom that is using a woman to express his deep desires of getting fucked by a man subconsciously.. “cause he don’t want “the title!” Nothing wrong with this if that’s the way you want to pretend I suppose….However, it’s one of the reasons you see a lot of your fine looking straight obsessions getting bent over by trannies.

    Just as bussy will never be better than pussy, a woman with a strap on can never slang dick better than a man with a real stroke. Either she ain’t fucking him right or not at all and once he discovers how a real man fucks. He’s hooked. He may continue to fool with trannies to convince himself he’s straight tho. Say what you want about trans females. They be pull some good looking men.

    It really makes you think on things. Even as far as lesbians fucking each other with strap ons.

    So much to talk about. I can tell this post was well put together cause it really got me in deep thought.

    Jamari bout to make me make my own blog so I can get on his level one…

    1. can we get post notifications for jammy and a few other ppl? LOL. the game you be dropping is on point

  7. Jamari, I apologize.

    This is apparently a thing. (I asked around) I was applying my experience to everyone else. I guess I give off a “Don’t ask me for sex within the first week” vibe. Guys just know I want something more and most don’t bother with the games.

    1. And there ain’t a damn thing wrong with that Carlton! I’m like you. Don’t play games ’cause your feelings will get hurt, and I don’t have time for that BS. I really don’t.

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