…or is it?
There comes a time when you realize “this thing we have” is over.
There are many ways to tell:
Looking at the other person and realizing they don’t make you smile anymore.
Seeing every flaw and negative thing they do.
That face you once loved starts to bother you.
The thought of their existence makes your blood pressure start to rise.
So, why do we hold on?
Why do we still keep that grasp on someone that we know we should be letting go of?
Why do we allow them to cause us pain, when they are to selfish an self absorbed to realize?
I started to wonder…
Why do we make it so hard to let go,
when the other person is already gone?
I get it.
You grew attached.
You let this person into your life and they matched your ideal characteristics.
But, they did something that hurt you.
It hurt you bad.
It made you shed tears almost.
Yet, you still entertain them.
I don’t think you get why you need to let go.
One, It isn’t healthy.
Two, you are “person hoarding“.
Person hoarding is holding onto the shell of someone who has long gone.
All that is left is hurt and pain.
But, it isn’t so much the act of letting go that is the hardest.
It is the “what if” that keeps that shell around.
“What if they change?”
“What if they finally notice I am great?”
….but here is some hard truth,
if they haven’t realized you are a good person so far,
they probably won’t.
The idea of keeping them in our contact lists and social media sites is silly also.
At any point when they finally say “bye“,
it will cause us to react.
I started to think about letting go of human shells who take up space in our lives.
Why do we keep them around?
Is it to stalk their social media to see if they are happy?
Is it a comfort thing?
Or, are we just hoping, wishing, and praying that person finally sees “us”?
We need to think of them like the day before.
And on that day, it was trash day.
We are letting this person stay in our “today” for way too long.
But, like the Boyz 2 Men song…
Why is it so hard to say goodbye to “yesterday”?
- Jamari Fox’s Revenge (insidejamarifox.com)