31 thoughts on “GET YOUR ASS OUT THE CLOSET! YOU COWARD BITCH!”

1. I have a couple of pet peeves. The main one is the generalizations people make.

   People on here have been doing the same thing a lot of straight people do, especially those who are ignorant of facts and those who hate us. They love accusing gay people of being pedophiles. Being a pedophile does not equate with being gay.

   Likewise, being “out” does not equate with being messy or being a hyena. Messy people can be gay or straight. They’re just low life, sick, miserable people who hate themselves and are jealous of those doing better than they are. People who are out can be as masculine as they come or very feminine and everything in between.

   I am out and there is nothing messy or feminine about me and the same applies to most of my gay friends. It simply means being comfortable who you are and not feeling the need to use a woman as a beard. We are on Capitol Hill, in the White House, partners (senior and junior) in law firms, CEOs, truck drivers, construction workers, athletes, etc., and our families and colleagues know and respect us and we don’t feel the need to put gay bumper stickers on our cars or gay flags outside our homes.

   Frankly, these trashy, messy queens out here don’t even know who most of us are.
   There are so many strata in the gay community, many don’t even cross paths.

   I wish more of us were out to be able to be good role models for our youth who would benefit knowing they don’t have to flame to be gay. Problem is, because most of us don’t fit the stereotypes, many gay youth don’t know we are there.

   Personally, whenever I can mentor our youth, I try to extend myself. Years ago when working with a group that included some gay youth, I was so touched when one of the young gay men said to me that he had never met any gay men who were as professional and supportive as my business partner and I had been in working with them.

   As for outing people: that is simply vicious. We all go through our individual metamorphosis at our own speed and that’s how it should be. Comfort level comes with time and security. I will say, however, that people who go out of their way to trash other people lose their right to privacy.

2. I totally agree with your assessment Jamari. I fit the description that you’ve set out, and I find it troubling that a black man can’t live in peace without everyone WONDERING what he’s doing, who he’s thinking about, or who’s he’s fucking. WHY THE FUCK does it matter? If I’m not pursuing you, then you need to keep it cool. Then the gay men are just like you said…they think that you’re afraid to come out and they’ll find anyway to pull you out. It’s just some sick sad shit. Leave regular people ALONE. Go bother some man that’s REALLY on the DL and living a double life.

   1. You know the black community is quick to throw a black man under the bus as being gay.You can no evidence whatsoever and it’ll be instilled in their minds that the man is gay.Especially the darker they are.If they’re light and rumors start about them being gay, then you will see them vehemently deny that that precious light skin man is gay.I think that’s why most black men are DL.Not only are they scared of being outed to their family but once it’s out there it stays in black people’s minds that that person is gay.I was gonna say black women but all women have it easy.They can fuck women in college and then go on to marry men and have kids.Or you have what they call Late In Life Lesbiams which kind of sounds like the woman was DL the whole time and then said “fuck dick, I never liked it anyway.”Unless they were genuinly clueless that they were a lesbian until age 45 and up.I doubt it though…

3. OMG I just listened to new Míster Cee interview from today .His sobbing brought me to tears.It was heartbreaking.I think he has made a breakthrough in terms of denial.Wish him the best

4. Everyone hates queens. Queens hate themselves.
   Nobody likes a liar. DL men are pathological liars. Ugly masculine men complain online. Ugly fem men complain online. Attractive people are out somewhere fucking. Hard and deep.

   Dicks don’t suck themselves. Asses don’t fuck themselves. Nuts miraculously bust.

   Where is the love? No room for wonder. No space for trust. Even when it’s good, it’s never enough.

   Such is life.

   1. There are just as much unattractive people fucking.Have you seen their videos on Xtube.They’re mostly anonymous cum dumps.I think most of the men they meet are DL.If those dudes knew they were being recorded they’d probably snap and kill themselves or the dude that secretly recorded.There was young boy, he was 17, he planned on killing himself because a tranny secretly recorded them having sex and his entire neighborhood, including his friends and family found out about it.I don’t know what happened to him but I don’t think he killed himself.

5. I don’t care who likes this, but I have to say it. Downlow men are evil man, they have no good in them. Men who are sleeping with men and have wives and girlfriends at home need to be exposed, period. They shouldn’t be exposed to the world, but their girlfriends and wives should know.That is deceitful, not to mention that it is the worst kind of cheating. How are you going to lay next to me in bed and you have a wife at home wondering where you are? I don’t play that shit. Some of them don’t even tell you that they are committed relationships and you have to find out the hard way. I never want to be with another woman’s husband, or someone else’s man period. If a man was married and he lied to me about it, I’d tell his wife. I would do it because she needs to know how dirty her husband is. That’s not right. It’s the same in the straight world. A woman thinks that she has her man all to herself, and after six moths she finds out he is married. Everyone doesn’t want someone else’s man. I sure as hell don’t.

   Kerry Rhodes is not a downlow man, he is discreet. Throughout his scandal, we have never heard of him having a girlfriend while he was with peanut. He wasn’t being deceitful to anyone and I respect him for that. Discreet men just want to sleep with men privately, and nothing is wrong with that. They don’t deserve to be outed. They are not the type that flip flop back and forth between women and men.

   1. I kinda feel that same way about curious men. I had meet this doctor who has a wife and a daughter and I said I’m sorry I’m no home recker. But some men are so scared that they’ll lose everything they have and worked for if their lil secret comes to light.

      And as for Kerri…. Let the peanut talk he’s getting what he wants.

   2. i agree with you the man as allways lol.

6. The way i see it, every gay has a different way of growing up, different insecurities, and different surroundings. What maybe easy for you may just be hell for the next. People need to recognize their situation and proceed. Some DownLo men find themselves in fucked up situations because they let their insecurities take over. They find themselves getting comfortable sneaking around, but still are uncomfortable with their sexualities so they think a woman will help kill rumors. Personally they make it worse. People need to take a moment and figure out who they are before jumping into any role or out any closet. For black celebrities, lets face it, who gets taken seriously out the closet? Every celebrity are fantasy and they are playing a role for the public. When people get that, they will stop putting these imperfect people as their role models.

7. Homophobia is why men are on the DL. Folks need to understand that it’s not your right to know someone’s sexual preference. They don’t have to explain it to you, they don’t have to help you understand. It’s not your business. They have a right to define their own sexuality however they want. If you’re not in a sexual relationship with that person…..you don’t need to know. Period.

   Homophobia is real. Many of the DL men out there with wives and girlfriends are being deceitful, yes. However, in a society where you’re deemed less than, unmanly, can potentially lose jobs, lose money, friendships, familial relationships BECAUSE of your sexuality, it’s no surprise why some men would choose to be deceitful. You can’t continually berate gays in one breath, then start chanting “be free” in another. How are you contributing to a welcoming environment?

   End homophobia.

   SideNote: Jamari have you heard the Mr. Cee interview on Hot97 this morning? It was hard to listen to, Mr. Cee is HURTING. I’m sure many of us can relate…. https://soundcloud.com/hot97ny/9-12-13-hot97-morning-show Interview starts at 33:30

8. I’m out… no closed closet doors over here. I can honestly say that I have not experienced the things you have put in this article (Thank you Jesus). Vixens respect me, and see me as a brother figure, ya know, I’m still a dude to them, but romantic stuff is out of the question. I also have straight guy friends and associates, and they really don’t see me any different from any other guy. They even ask me about relationship advice. I guess, because I’m an androgynous personality, I can blend with chicks or with dudes, without seeming overly masculine or feminine. D/L dudes in my opinion are men who find men sexually attractive but pretend that they don’t or deny the fact that they do. I’m mean that’s what the term “down-low” means… you keepin’ secrets. That’s why they are usually demonized, because people don’t like to be deceived. If you like men, you don’t have to shout it from the roof-tops, but you shouldn’t lie about it either. I’m just saying, keep it honest people!

9. Makes it real hard for us masculine gays to get anything. We all see the dudes looking at us but instead of thinking damn he sexy we all think this nigga might put my business out. But I still cling to the thread of hope that there is someone out there that like to work out, watches sports, playes assassins creed, and not a damn Beyonce fan

   1. I work out, watch a little basketball and a little football, I’m more of a Batman Arkham City player but it’s still stealth and running around on top of buildings like Assassins, Beyonce is ah-ight, don’t really care for her “I’m a woman, hear my pussy lips clap for glory” music, so… what’s up.

10. So………………. Queens are the enemy?

    1. I don’t think queens are the enemy, but they are extremely sensitive, especially the young ones, so if you’re gonna get involved with one, you better make sure you do right by them.

    2. Yea they are, they all are. They hate discreet men as well, not just downlow. if you are not flaming like them they don’t like it.

       1. But the “queens” say they want a manly man….hmmmmm…which one is it?!?!? #confused

       2. LOL. They don’t like them, but still sleep with them. It’s like a love and hate relationship. See what I mean now?

11. I was actually sent this website during the whole Kerry Rhodes drama yesterday and as a woman, the message in this blog was really eye opening. I had to forward it to a few of my girlfriends. I am so use to the queens of the world, I never looked at it from this point of view. Keep it up Jamari Fox!

12. I agree with Jaamri. Until straight people stop associating gay people with either monsters or overt femininity, masculine men will comtinue to stay in the closet. The normal is seeing an overly gay man, but everyone is considered down low if they aren’t doing that.

    1. Let’s be real, masculine men don’t stay in the closet because they don’t want to be associated with femininity, they stay in the closet because they’re SCARED! No one questions my masculinity or treats me like a “queen” because I am unapologetically ME! The only way the stereotypes will be broken is if people stop being scared and show others that there is more than one type of gay.

       1. Well said LoveFox!

13. I couldn’t agree more with Jamari! It angered me the way everyone has dogged Kerry Rhodes and Mr. Cee! IT’S OBVIOUS THEY’RE GAY! Too much has been exposed! When will the messy ones stop? Annihilation is all that’s left after humiliation! They’ve done that…leave it alone!

    1. You know what would be great? If some of these celebrities knew that you are only as sick as your secrets. This whole thing with Kerry Rhodes could have been turned around if he would have just said this after peanut outed him, “Yeah, I’m a man, and I like men… and… so what?” You don’t let someone hold a secret over you. That’s giving them power. People are still harping on the situation, because homeboy is still sitting in the closet like folks can’t see him.

       1. ^i really think its wrong he is being pulled out tho.
          it’s like vixens and the others are applauding bad behavior.
          if kerry was mentally unstable and went and offed himself,
          i wonder what the talk would be?
          it’s going to take some celebrity to kill themselves for being outed for people to see its classic bullying.

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       3. LoveFox you are preaching the truth! Kerry should have followed this advice.

14. Brilliantly expressed. Queens are like zombies or the living dead. They’re not going to stop until they bite and turn everyone into them…bitter, angry, lonely, hateful, and dead inside.

    Hate the term “DL” being used as an umbrella term. My definition of DL is a man (or woman) who gets down in secret but lives a heterosexual life with wife/husband. Queens hate that they can’t have that secret identity. They hate Clark Kent for being Superman.

    A neat masculine guy who like men is a threat because he is not social napalm. These kind of guys just want to mind they’re own business and live and love like anybody else.

    Lets be real, no one wants a queen for a friend but a angry woman because they’re on a mission: Kill, Maim & Destroy.

    No there is no closet. That’s where some folks run to hide from the scary things in the world, true but for most it’s a matter of decency. My your biz and let me mind mine in peace.

    1. ^brilliantly expressed!
       😉

    2. I love the “Social Napalm” comment! I busted out laughing!

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