Daddy Don’t Love Me

Screen Shot 2014-02-12 at 1.30.16 PMstuntin on his daddy?
well it seems so.
michael sam’s father,
aptly titled “michael sam sr”,
is not really feeling his son’s revelation.
michael sent his father a text message on his father’s birthday to let him know.
that’s so fuckin’ classy…
michael-sam-father

Sam’s father had received the news several days earlier. His reaction wasn’t nearly as enthusiastic.

Michael Sam Sr. was celebrating his birthday at a Denny’s near his home outside Dallas on Feb. 4 when he got a text message from his son.

The All-American defensive lineman out of Missouri wrote: Dad, I’m gay.

“I couldn’t eat no more, so I went to Applebee’s to have drinks,” Sam Sr. told the New York Times. “I don’t want my grandkids raised in that kind of environment.”

He added: “I’m old school. I’m a man-and-a-woman type of guy.”

And so he is. The elder Sam said he took another son to Mexico to lose his virginity and grumbled that Hall of Famer Deacon Jones “is turning over in his grave” at the idea of an openly gay man in the league.

The younger Sam had a tough childhood as one of eight siblings. His parents eventually separated, so his father wasn’t always around. At one point, Sam had his own room at a close friend’s house.

“I’m closer to my friends than I am to my family,” said Sam, who started coming out to friends and teammates as many as two years ago.

Still, Sam Sr. said he loves his son and wants him to succeed in the NFL.

“As a black man, we have so many hurdles to cross,” he said. “This is just one he has to cross.”

yikes.
mad at the basic text.
equally madder at “he went to applebees for drinks”.
applebees tho?
well what a perfect birthday present.
i know he was thrilled when he read that.
in my head,
this was his reaction at dennys:

choking in my head,
the phone fell in the plate.
i hope this situation can help them get closer.
aaah who am i kidding?
that black thick “b” word will get in the middle.

lowkey: this is one of the many reasons i dont believe in outing.

news article courtesy: latimes

Author: jamari fox

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19 thoughts on “Daddy Don’t Love Me

  1. Well older peeps are stuck in their ways, so Im not surprised. His son is a man and a man type of guy, and it is what it is.

  2. He was brave to come out to his dad but since he confirms he’s not really close to his family, that probably made it easier to reveal he’s gay.

    “I’m old school”

    Gays are old school too, they just didn’t know we were there.In fact, we’re as ancient as Egypt and Rome.

    He really took one his sons to Mexico to lose his virginity?Forgive me for saying this but, what kind of perverted shit is that?

    He has the nerve to say he doesn’t want his grand-kids in that kind of environment but he’d be willing to drive his grand-kids down to Mexico so they can have sex for the first time.Huh?

    I’d be grossed out if my dad wanted me to fuck a random prostitute just so I could lose my virginity.

    1. ^i always imagined straight wolves had those kind of stories.

      “yeah my old man took me down to the hoe house on my 16th birthday.
      he let me bang the hoe that took his virginity.”

  3. I called my Dad right after reading this story. I asked him if he would have bought me a whore back in the day. He said, “HELL NO. Buy your own hoes! The fuck I look like?”

    LOL

    You can tell the difference between people raised in a stable family and those raised in anomie.

    Sam Sr. sounds broken. Buying a whore for your child is abuse. A gay child growing up with a Jehovah’s Witness mother and Baptist father…Sam is doing good to be here, hopefully in his right mind.

  4. Michael Sam, Jr. likely should have told his father of his sexual orientation in person or at least by a telephone call. All to often people send text message when such are not appropriate. (Such as a text message to console and comfort someone due to the death of a loved one.)

    Michael Sam, Sr’s reactions are not far from that of many parents upon finding out that a child is homosexual. It the end of the dream that parents have for their children–husband and wife and picket fence with 2.2 grand-chidren, etc. That he took one son to Mexico to lose the son’s virginity is whack! To me that is an improper action for a parent and my be child abuse, although taking a male child to a prostitute to lose virginity is practiced by men rich and poor all over America.

    In some respects, he’s better than some parents. He professed love of his child and he lamented that his child’s sexual orientation was an additional burdensome “hurdle to cross” (I think that he meant “cross to bear”). He’s not an educated man and his comments about Deacon Jones were stupid.

    If grading is on a curve, on the scale of 1-10 for support of your child in coming out, I’d give him a “6”.

  5. This shit right here is a big pool of fuckery. I should have stop reading when he said he had to leave Denny’s to go to Applebee’s for drinks. Are you fucking serious. That statement alone spoke volumes about Daddy Dearest. I already knew that if you have to send your Dad a text message he has not been the Father of the year. This man has kids who are dead, who have been to prison and God knows what else type of dysfunction, and his old non supportive ass is worrying about himself, typical selfish ass Negro. I dare to say that one reason this dude lives in a white world because the Black world he came from is so negative. The city and area he is from has a high concentration of Blacks but if you just met this dude on a surface level, without knowing his history you would think he is from white suburbia. I am sure that his Dad is at best a toxic person who he probably should only deal with from a distance once he does start to make big money if he is selected to the NFL. I have zero respect for this piece of shit father of his, especially when he said Deacon Jones would roll over in his grave. Who disrespect their own flesh and blood like that, so sad that is why so many of us are so messed up due to having parents and family like this. I hope that Michael has a strong will because the things I have been reading on the blogs and message boards have not been good from the str8 community, nor the Black gay community who are really upset that he likes white dudes. This whole thing certainly has people talking and putting gay life on front street.

    1. Tajan, take a look at my comment about the father. Sometimes things are not just about right and wrong. Sometimes it’s about understanding. One of my favorite expressions is “discretion is the better part of valor” meaning that we should be considered in our actions and re-actions. I also believe that if you’re not part of the solution, you’re part of the problem. Now, what do these things mean for Michael Sam, Jr. and Sr. To me it means to understand and love his father and not “go off” like a rocket on the Fourth of July (which is essentially your response). It means to build on what they have and understand his father’s limitations as an uneducated African American man.

      1. Dean your absolutely right, because at the end of the day that is still his father, that is one thing that is not going to change. I was just coming from the angle that the father probably didnt play a significant role in his life anyway, but I dont know this for fact and Im only speculating from his response which I thought could have been worded a little better but hey he is a product of his environment and is speaking his truth no matter how me may take it. I will wish them the best regardless and hope they are able to have a healthy relationship and maybe Daddy can understand the pain and struggle his son is dealing with.

  6. I just read the NYT article Michael’s parents separated when he was young.Sr left his wife and 8 kids in Hitchcock.Sr moved to N Texas to work as a trucker.Over the years his parents got together and broke up .They married two times and got divorced twice.Michael had four older brothers.One was killed at 16 gang related.One went missing in 98 presumed dead.Two are in prison.One older sister was pushed off a pier, and drowned,by one of the kids.
    Michael’s mom never approved of him playing football it took away time from Jehovah Witness service.
    Michael lived with a white classmates’family off and on in high school.Sr year he had his own bedroom in their house.The father of the family,a bank president,drove Michael to U of Missouri.
    Michael is the only child in his family to attend and graduate college.I bet his father has more respect for the son who he got the hooker for, who is in prison than his Gay son who is a college graduate.I may be wrong

  7. Like… really? Maybe it’s because I’ve been working with a lot of patients today, or because I still need more sleep, but right now I’m like… really? What kind of reaction would you expect from a man that takes one of his sons down to Mexico to lose his virginity? That’s some “real classy 1950’s misogynistic type” shit. Dude really shouldn’t bother with seeking the approval of someone who wasn’t “around” anyway. “I hope this situation can help them get closer” Uhhhhh…. noooo!!!! If anything, the possibility that dude will be making NFL money will make them closer. Furthermore, THIS is one of the reasons you don’t believe in coming out J?!!!!!!!! because parents may be disappointed? I’m sorry, but that’s every person’s reality on the face of the freakin’ planet. If you’re not out their house by a certain age, they’re disappointed, if it’s not that, then it’s your career, or your mate, or your lack of a love mate, or the fact that you don’t have any kids yet, or that you have too many kids, the house you live in, your bad habits, the people you hang out with, the fact that you don’t call often enough, etc… the fact is parent’s are always gonna find something, because you are not and never will be what they imagine. You are a living breathing INDIVIDUAL. Grown men and women need to stop being afraid of their parents finding out what is pretty damn obvious to begin with. Parents KNOW their children… especially if they played an active role in raising them. Both my mom and dad knew I was gay. I didn’t have to come out to my mom. She just straight up asked me, “what kind of porn do you look at?” Like… WTF? whaddayoumean what kinda porn I look at? “Is it porn with a man and a women… two women… or two men?” I was like, if you gotta ask that last part then you already know what the deal is. When I told my dad, he was shocked that I just up and told him, because he comes from an “old school family” that sweeps shit under the rug, but he said he always knew, because I didn’t show any interest in girls or women. AND I DATED WOMEN!!!!! Our parents know us, so there is no point in lying, or keeping it all secret, especially when you are old enough to provide for yourself.

      1. LOL! There is no reason to be paranoid. Love yourself unconditionally, then love others as you love yourself. If they have a problem with you and your sexuality (which is such a small fraction of who you are as a being) after that… then that’s between them and their higher power.

  8. I knew something was a little off about Sam after that post you made about that his old thing saying he was a douche. I couldn’t point out why I thought something was up but I finally know why. I didn’t know he was from Texas. In all honesty dude is probably really fucked up in the head because Texas is the most racist conservative state in our nation. I can imagine all the ignorance he’s witnessed and that has probably been instilled in him and his siblings since childhood. You don’t think something about him is a little off? Seriously.

    1. Did I miss something? What is off or strange about him? I think its impressive that he not only survived but excelled despite his family situation.Many college football players dont even graduate.
      BTW I’m from Houston ,forty miles from Hitchcock its not that bad here.Hell we have a Lesbian mayor and Michael’s aunt used to be mayor of LaMarque which is next to Hitchcock.
      Don’t Mess with Texas 🙂

  9. I’m sorry, The father’s reaction is typical of most Black men I know. The Black community can tolerate their sons going in and out of prison. Can tolerate 14 year old girls getting knocked up but let your son be gay and all hell will break loose. I’ve seen mothers turn their gay sons out quick.

    People really are buying this media gay tolerance stuff hard. Gay tolerance really is mostly applicable to White highly educated liberals. The rest of the country isn’t there yet nor will it be.

    They say his mother has refused to even take his calls.

  10. His mom is Jehovah Witness she doesn’t believe in organized sports,birth control,There is no way in Hell she is going to accept a Gay son.Well maybe in time but not five days after she was told.I read she wont talk to the media I didnt know she wasnt talking to him.His friends are his family .

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