This is one of the reasons I am so GOOD in being an actual hoe.
Too damn risky.
Any Wolf that wants to get up in this WILL be tested.
I’m not even playing that…
Lately, I am meeting a lot of Wolves and Foxes who have HIV, that it is getting scary.
This one Wolf who was interested in talking to me,
I found out had it and recently gave it to someone else.
IS THERE ANYONE OUT HERE
WHO IS DISEASE FREE (and not an idiot)
THAT WANTS TO CUFF THE KID?????
I had to vent that real quick…
Anyway,
my ATL readers,
after reading this please be careful…
ATLANTA — 11Alive News is sounding the alarm.
Research shows African-American women, many living in Atlanta, are being infected with HIV — so much so that the new cases are being compared to African countries.
Data collected in 2009 from the health departments in Clayton, Fulton, DeKalb, Cobb, Douglas and Gwinnett counties indicates infection rates of HIV and AIDS, respectively, as follows: (This is for women and men combined, all races.)Fulton: 4,213 and 7,342
DeKalb: 3,257 and 3,983
Clayton: 847 and 943
Cobb and Douglas: 1,030 and 1,288
Gwinnett: 884 and 1,041
In another study conducted by the Centers for Disease Control, black women make up 60 percent of all new HIV cases among women. That’s 15 times higher than white women and four percent higher than Hispanic women.
But studies also show black women areno more likely than women of other races to engage in risky behaviors.
So what’s the problem? We went searching for some answers.“I sat back and it’s like he stole my life,” said Terri Gardner of Cartersville. “I wanted him dead.” Why? “Because now — you have not only taken my life. Who wants somebody that’s HIV positive?”
Gardner, 55, said she was robbed by the man she says infected her with HIV.
“He had my heart and it seems like he just got it and did what he wanted to do and that’s what he did,” said the mother of four, adding that it all came as a surprise.“I didn’t even know when I got infected,” Gardner said.
That’s until she was approached back in 2006 at an event in Cartersville
“And they said, get your free HIV test. I said, ‘Free?’ … and the dude looked at me and said, ‘You want to pay for it?’ and I said no,” she said.
True to her larger-than-life personality, she got tested several times, and the results came back positive.
“Was this someone you were married to, dating, sleeping with?” 11Alive’s DeMarco Morgan asked.
“It was somebody I’m going to say dating/sleeping with, and it had been that way since 2002,” Gardner said.Gardner said the man, who we’re choosing not to name, may have infected several women.
The CDC estimates that nearly one in 30 black women will be diagnosed with HIV during their lifetime.
The reasons could be attributed to social, socioeconomic and environmental factors.
Research also shows financial dependence may limit black women’s negotiation powers with their male partner when it comes to having safe sex.“We trust that man and we want to believe that he’s telling the truth,” Gardner said.
Even worse, the HIV Prevention Trials Network (HPTN) followed more than 2,000 women in several cities, including Atlanta, comparing the rising number of cases to HIV rates in some African countries.
That alone has Gardner using her own experience to hopefully inspire everyone to get tested.
“Is it your faith?” Morgan asked.“Yes it’s my faith,” Gardner proclaimed. “I believe in my Father in the name of Jesus. I pray to him. And I cry to him and I talk to him and he makes me laugh. He fills me with joy. He lets me know — girl, I’m with you.”
For more information about HIV/AIDS testing, visit:
African American Women Georgia: http://www.aanwg.org
SisterLove, Inc.: http://www.sisterlove.org
HIV Prevential Trials Network: http://www.fhi360.com
Centers for Disease Control – Take Charge. Take the Test: http://www.hivtest.org/takecharge
Georgia Department of Community Health HIV/AIDS Surveillance fact sheet
And I hear down there is so trife with that.
I thought NY was bad when it came to Wolves fucking Vixens, and then have a Fox on the side.
I hope everyone really starts keeping a condom box next to their bed head.
Just as a reminder to wrap it up.
I am by far no angel… but what gets me how everyone is blaming the DL man for the reason the hiv infection in the black community is the way it is….In my past I did get around and all the brothers that had gf/wives/baby mommas always protected themeselves… It was the ones who didn’t have anything to lose that when hitting it from the back always tried to sneak that rubber off…. Maury Povich show should of been a big hint years ago of what was to come (you are not the father!!!)…. an std is an std…. hiv is an std.. just like gonerrhea..herpes..syphliss.. etc… and all those std’s is just as rampant in the black community as hiv.. The problem is everyone wants to believe it is a gay/dl disease that our sisters are getting… but in reality it is everyone’s disease… just like herpes, gonerreha etc
In the “A” you go to every corner store the arabs own and you see porn magazines eye level to a 3 year old. Listen to rap today every other song is about hitting it raw…
People have to start using protection more often. I just don’t get why using protection is a hard thing to do, especially for gay men. Sure raw sex is good and fun, but it’s not worth risking your life for. A person does not know whom a person has had sex with before they got with them. Downlow men are the main reason why HIV is where currently is. Downlow men prefer not to use condoms because putting on a condom makes them think about what they are doing, and they think that it makes them gay. NEWSFLASH, if you have oral or anal sex with another man you are gay. I don’t care if it is raw sex or protected sex.
As I said before, I could not be in a relationship with someone positive, I just can’t. I would be paranoid about the condom breaking during sex, and if the condom breaks that could be it for me. I will take necessary precautions to make sure I do not catch the monster.
You’ll be alright, Jay. By your 23rd birthday (if you are not there yet), things should start clicking; once you move away from your family for awhile and realize that you are enough–just because you are–and not because of what you can do. I think you’re an Aries, my brother is an Aries, took him a long while to realize that he was enough just because. Aries really want to be liked–valued–and when they are not it gets real ugly quick. Life is never going to be rainbows and glitter (donovanosis proves this alone!) but happiness is available in some form to all–it’s just fleeting.
I am an Aries and I just turned 23 and I am seriously contemplating a move further away from my family so this comment spoke to me.
Not the point. Gonna sound cruel, but I don’t care. I’m well aware that you can live a healthy life with HIV. I’m also aware that undetectable doesn’t mean un-deliverable or disease-free. And that there is a bit of work involved in keeping T-cells & viral counts low. Bottom line is I’m not trying to become a person living w/HIV (which is now living as opposed to slowly dying in the 80s & 90s) or any other STD.
The issue I was talking about is public perception & how the challenges it presents in getting people to use protection. Used to be scare tactics – for better or worse. Just a new challenge.
Yes, you dont want to have STDs or HIV. Thats wonderful. But to tell people that contracting the virus is a death sentence would be more or less a lie. Scare tactics dont work. Thats been the consistent theme when it comes to HIV prevention and subsequent campaigns. Because people can live a healthu life with HIV means we must change the conversation around the virus and its prevention. And on the other side of it, its good to get to know those who have contracted HIV to put a human face to it and understand the lifestyle of those who have it.
Speaking as someone who has come in contact with some unique individuals, let me tell ya’ll (in my Texas accent) there are some soul-less men out there who could care less about any of these diseases you are talking about. Call it sex addiction, self-hate, whatever, but they are in pursuit of their next nut.
I’ve seen them at parties and met a few of them on a one-one-one basis and you can look into their eyes and see no one’s there…at all.
I’ll be the first to admit I sometimes lack good judgement when I’m in pursuit of a nut. I don’t stop and think about any of this stuff. I’ll even go as far to say I’m a completely different person and better judgement usually doesn’t kick in until afterwards and then it hits me like a truck load of cement…at least it kicks in though.
I’m no where near as bad as I used to be about it.
Every time I get horny at 3 a.m. and I am about to text some no name number in my phone, I’ll just come here and read some of the comments. Guaranteed to soften any hard penis!
Anyone have any pictures of infected asses and penises I can save? I plan to keep them in my phone as a deterrent. Lol
Google is your friend…lol
Jay,
One book kept my hoe shit in check when I first started out:
Color Atlas and Synopsis of Sexually Transmitted Diseases by Hunter Handsfield . Full color photos of all known STDs and STIs. You can tell the difference between genital warts (bad) and pearly penile papules (unsightly, but good).
Donovanosis aka Granuloma inguinale is probably the ugliest STI known. Your lymph nodes swell and bursts through the skin permanently scarring any remaining tissues!!! If that shit gets here in the states heavy, it’ll be a wrap for casual fucking—pronto.
Here’s a link: http://www.google.com/search?q=Donovanosis&oe=utf-8&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a&um=1&ie=UTF-8&hl=en&tbm=isch&source=og&sa=N&tab=wi&ei=-6SqT6-vLKKc2QXM2Km0Bg&biw=1280&bih=642&sei=cKWqT_e4G-aW2QXAu42mAg
Link to the book, second edition is cheaper: http://www.amazon.com/Color-Synopsis-Sexually-Transmitted-Diseases/dp/0070260338/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1336583145&sr=1-2
Hell yeah! Im gonna keep some of those in my phone. Ill be asexual in no time since im pretty sure my attraction to men is mostly sexual. Lol
^i screamed so loud when i clicked that.
These pics remind me about what we were shown back in school. They made me shiver.
OMFG. Those pics were fucking nasty as shit. EWWWW. C’mon guys use protection, please.
I’m heavily hating you for this link right here…
Each of you brought up excellent points. When I do settle down, the condoms will still be worn. We have surpassed the issue of trust. It is now about protecting each other.
3B, condoms, lubrication, and communication will be your friends. Also watch out for uncut dicks. They are not bad in and of themselves but sores do not have to be present on the foreskin for viral and bacterial infections to attach themselves to it. The foreskin, the vagina, and the anus all act as sponges. This is why vixens and bottoms may not know they have a bacterial infection inside the lining of their walls and makes all other viral infections easier to spread–cuts and tears (caused from friction or sores) makes the process that make easier.
It’s real in the field.
Don’t even trip NYC is just as much as a hot zone as is ATL, DC, Norfolk, VA and Miami, FL. HBCUs are hot beds of activity too, especially in the deep South.
A confluence of poverty, high incarceration rates, low self-esteem, depression, social stigma, condom fatigue, health illiteracy, uncircumcised penises, concurrent long-term sexual partners, and undiagnosed STIs fuel this epidemic.
For gay/bi men specifically, syphillis, hepatitis B, and human papillomavirus (HPV) are getting way out of control. Syphilis is the great imitator which looks like other bacterial infections–the sores from syphilis leaves the gate open to pass HIV easier. Also, chlamydia got an upgrade from mother nature–LGV or lymphogranuloma venereum is a strain of chlamydia. LGV starts out as painful sore in your ass or mouth and then 30 days later you get painful bloody-pus filled sores at the site of infection. Most bacterial infections are curable, but they are increasingly becoming multi-drug resistant. Viral infections—I can’t think of one that ‘s curable but there are some vaccines against them.
I don’t think there is ever going to be an HIV vaccine made with a weakened live strain of the virus–it’s too dangerous to create–HIV mutates to quickly to pull it off.
Try not to go to prison long-term. Tuberculosis (TB aka white death) and HIV when they meet work together to cause havoc and both are prevalent in prisons. Latent TB is activated by HIV and dormant HIV is activated by TB. There is no one health council looking after these diseases in our nation’s prisons! A superbug of multi-drug resistant TB & HIV would cause the next pandemic as it will quickly becomes airborne. TB is the leading cause of death for those infected with HIV worldwide.
I recommend everyone to get the Hepatitis A and Hepatitis B vaccine from your doctor or local health clinic and if your are under age 26 get, Gardasil, the vaccine for HPV. Don’t want have cauliflower (genital warts) peeking out from your asshole today or get throat or anal cancer in 20 years from now. Everyone who is sexually active WILL get HPV, most times the body handles it, but if you have weakened immune system or you get a particular strain of the virus, genital warts or anal/throat cancer is guaranteed.
Glad you included that last part about HPV because most people don’t even know what that is. Your body can fight off HPV to the point that it’s no longer detectable. But that’s provided you have a healthy immune system.
Its so sad that we play Russian Roulette with our health and lives just to have companionship. I’m old enough to have experience someone who I was extremely close too, dry up and whither away, and it hurts me to this day, that he told me that he wished he would have listen to me and wrapped it up because aint no love worth it. I begged him to use protection, but he said they didn’t worry about it because they were both fine, both are gone now.
I actually get disgusted seeing all this raw black gay porn on the internet now, because even though everybody is grown and can do what they want, it sends the wrong message to young men, who are already lacking on basic information about their health. Most of them have never seen how AIDS use to affect people because of the new medication, and that’s the reason they are the fasting growing population. I don’t care how good the medicine is, I don’t want no deadly disease that I can personally prevent. I know people who are living with this disease and it aint no damn walk in the park that’s for damn sure.
I do get tired of Black women not caring about their health and well being and then want to blame it on someone else. Their was a article yesterday on a popular blog about Black women and their weight. The comments were off the charts, just a lot of excuses, and it seems to be a lot of excuses about as to why HIV is so rampant, at the end of the day, you got to take care of you, no matter how good he looks or how good the dick is.
Now it seems like we also have to worry about HPV as men now with oral sex. Damn, its like we are literally FUCKED if we engage in any type of sexually activity except masturbation. At least my hand aint got nothing.
I feel you pain, it hurts to sit back and watch someone die. It hurts even more when it could have been prevented.
This is beyond HIV. All STIs are starting to comeback stronger…more people have herpes than HIV right about now. More cases of STDs are being found (partly because more people are tested & better tests), yet you can see the abundance of companies like Black Breeders & BreeditRaw; not to mention the kats on Twitter/FB/BGC/A4A talmbout raw sex, swallowing cum and the like.
I figure it’s similar for women – partly because they don’t insist their men wear condoms (a ratchet dude is not likely to do so unless forced); falling for the guilt trip (“you don’t trust me?”) and we have it continue to spread…along with pregnancies. I’m not sure what the answer is – why people aren’t using condoms is beyond me. Do they feel invincible? Fatalist? Or do they see people like Magic Johnson & others looking healthy & leading robust lives & figure I’ll just take some pills & I’ll be fine? No, HIV isn’t a death sentence as before, yet I’m still not tryna get it
Any thoughts?
YBW, I think for Black folks specifically, there is a lot of low self-esteem, low self-worth, and low self-estimation. A lot of Black people do not value themselves period. Forget STIs for a minute, homicide and heart disease kills more Black people than HIV. Just let that sink in for a minute.
Magic Johnson is probably the best and worst thing to happen to the face of HIV/AIDS. Magic Johnson is rich and assumed to be heterosexual. The stigma is still crazy for poor, dark, non-heterosexual people; even well meaning individuals (myself included) still make inadvertent comments that marginalize those infected with the virus on a daily basis. These microagressions add up over time. Raised cortisol levels (stress) and HIV do not mix. HIV may not be a death sentence, but all chronic illnesses lowers your quality of life.
I don’t want nothing that I cannot cure with a good night sleep, two low dose aspirin pills, or Benadryl.
You phrase it as if people like magic johnson and others who take pills & are fine; living healthy and robust lives… The exception to the rule.
What I am saying is what Icee (and even Magic himself said): he’s the best & worst thing to happen to HIV. When we used to see images of people wasting away, there was a bigger effort to protect yourself; at the cost of demonizing those with the virus.
Now – at least publicly in many people’s eyes – HIV isn’t that big of a deal. You take your lil cocktail, and go on with your life. It’s not that simple of course, but that’s what people take in when they see Magic doing just fine for over 20 years now…and he’s not the only one. It’s great that HIV is no longer a death sentence…it’s still not a walk in the park or like taking aspirin for a headache. And for all I know, they could be the exception – iont know how much the medicines cost, and if everyone can afford them…
I think it would be best for u and everyone else to find people living with HIV and ask them how they’re doing as opposed to guessing.
I don’t think it’s enough to just tell people to wrap it up. We’ve been saying that for generations and people still aren’t using condoms. So, it’s not that they don’t understand that condoms provide protection. I think we need to start looking at HIV, not as just a disease, but a symptom of a larger issue.
And I think it’s important that by educating about HIV, we try not to marginalize those who already have the disease because that’s part of the problem. People get infected, believe their life is over, and willingly spread it to other people. It runs the same mentality of a gay man who’s been told all his life that homosexuality is wrong, despite being a homosexual, so instead of living that truth, he pretends he isn’t and instead dates and settles down with women.
I also think it’s important that we get away from this idea that “sex is just sex”. There are establishments in Atlanta specifically geared towards sex. You go in, they give you a towel, you walk around naked. There are rooms to fuck in and condoms everywhere. Why is that okay?
I’ll never forget some time ago when me and my friends went to a strip club and saw there were rooms (with actual beds) in the club. The whole purpose behind it was so that a patron, if he chose, could take a stripper in a back room and fuck for a fee. Shit was crazy to me. But it happens.
My best friend was diagnosed with HIV. Took his medication and now everything is back down to almost undetectable levels. So it isnt really a death sentence anymore. We’re told the issue with why people dont get tested is because we demonize those who have it. Who wants to be regarded as a pariah and possibly never date again? Especially with hoe tough it is to date already. I just think we need to change our perspectives on the whole thing. I know i have.
In regards to the article, we assume that the man she had sex with caught it… From another man? There’s a book out abiut prison and what really goes on in there and how that may be a factor as to why HIV is spreading amongst heterosexuals. But if thats the case, then we cant get upset at the hysteria about the ‘down low’ man when there are numbers out like the ones in the article.
Preach it YngBlkWolf!!! society has been saying the no sex before marriage for generations, and there is definitely good reasoning behind it now more than ever
HIV is STILL HIV and people of all sexual orientations is STILL dying from it! It’s not a gay disease, it’s not a WHITE disease. It’s not a BISEXUAL disease.
These whole bareback craze seems to be the thing in gay community. The XXX movies are starting to get into that shit all over again. And then you have men who sleep with women but sleep with men on the side and they are not using protection. The women aren’t saying anything because nine times out of ten, the dude is not having it with the condoms in the first place.
Then you have WHORISH men who sleep with EVERYTHING that walks and brings it back to his woman. The same with women.
I have gotten in the habit of googling boys I date and catching them on Xtube, engaging in bareback sex. It’s their business but at the same time, while you may not be positive, you are practicing risky behavior.
And then you have that ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’ shit. I am not going to ask you if you are positive and you aren’t going to tell me. Since you don’t ‘LOOK’ like you got it, we are cool. That kind of logic is dumb as fuck but it’s real.
I can’t speak for other cities but the kids here in the A, are off the charts with that shit. I don’t know how many times I get messages from dudes asking me to hit it raw…..WHAT?
I assume EVERYONE is positive until proven otherwise. We have to educate our love ones about this.
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A lot of people just want to be in denial about it. They don’t WANT to know that they may possibly be positive and getting tested can be intimidating. I say it’s worth your life. If you have kids, love ones, you should be doing it for them.
Sometimes it’s best to just buy a dildo or fleshlight (left hand) and leave it as it is. Abstain from sex all together.
Another thing too, you can’t blame the other person when you contract HIV. It was your OWN choice to engage in unprotected sex and you have to take responsiblity in that!
Shout out to SisterLove Inc!
I agree in part with YngBlkWolf, but I don’t think I’m going to go as far as to only have sex with myself until I find the ‘one’. I may not ever have sex again if that were the case.
One of my very best friends has been living with his lover who is HIV + for over 10 years, they have safe sex, and my mate is still HIV – and plans to stay that way. They discussed things with their doctor, and seem to have a happy life together.
I don’t think I could do that, but I do think its possible to have a happy loving relationship with somone who is HIV +, but those new strains of STIs that are popping up everywhere are another issue! So just wrap it up.
Wrap it up, wrap it up, wrap it up!! This raw sex thang is crazy; HIV & all other STIs haven’t been cured…in fact some are developing super strains. It’s gonna have to be me & my right hand until I put a ring on it…