he wants to move you in so he can kick you out?

a few years ago,
a “baller wolf” suggested i move in with him down south.
at the time of that request,
i was jobless and needed something quick.
he knew about my situation because he reads the foxhole.
he wanted me to move in with him and be his “stylist”.
my answer?


it all sounded sketchy af.
the following story reminded me of my own.
^he allegedly makes gay males move to atlanta,
but then kicks them out shortly after.
this is what flew down my timeline just now…


Why are you moving to Atlanta with some jackal because he was in your inbox?

that’s already a red flag for me.
a baller wolf couldn’t even get me to do that.
i don’t even know you sir.
i have some other questions:

did they even chill a few times,
fly down and spend a ton of weekends together,
and learn their negatives and positives before making such a big step?
why would you even move to atlanta with no job prospects?
in some stranger’s crib who is in control of your comfort?

this part made me roll my eyes tho:

“Some of us are looking for love and will take a risk.”

moving in with someone you barely know is “love”?
that’s called “stupidity“.

lowkey: i feel there is more to this story.

Author: jamari fox

the fox invited to the blogging table.

11 thoughts on “he wants to move you in so he can kick you out?”

  1. I hope this isn’t true. But if it is, I pray for those who fall victim. Some people did not or do not have the right people loving them and will do anything to seek it.

  2. Who in the world would repeatedly invite broke and jobless men to live with them just to kick them out? I think you’re right. There is more to this story.

    Maybe he started pimping these dudes and they got tired of it

  3. I know some guys that have quit their jobs, goods jobs to move to Atlanta. They get caught up in the nightlife/gay population/attractive men without thinking it through. Don’t get blindsided by body/dick, think it through before you move, and get to know the person you’re involved with. They’re many scammers in ATL so proceed with caution.

  4. I can’t with the gullible, small-town queens who fell for his scheme.

    That brotha just looks messy and unavailable!

    I wonder what Walter has to say lol.

  5. Atlanta is a trap. I live here now but people move here and lose the smallest bit of common sense they ever had.

    That being said, I’d love to read a post about other folks’ experience in the city. I have a love/relationship with the place. We have plenty of potential but a lot of black folks are hustling backwards out here.

  6. I think this is one of those things where a half-truth is a whole lie. At some point, someone is going to have to start telling the truth about Atlanta. If you are homeless and Jobless the last thing you need to be doing is looking for love; I’m just saying where are the priorities. I don’t know if it was a pimping situation or if he was just looking for a sugar daddy, but therein lies the problem the one with the money holds the power and therefore sets the rules. One minute you’re in season then the next minute someone new comes along and now you’re out. I would have to wonder, and this is no direct judgment, but if you are homeless and jobless what exactly are you bringing to the table, are you cooking like that, are you cleaning like that, are you able to provide emotional support like that? It sounds like he was looking for someone to take care of him and support him, and it didn’t work out….how are you a victim?

  7. These people need to learn how to sniff out the BS. Like J said, they didn’t have a few weekends together first? Didn’t spend some “QT” time together first? And just like everyone is saying..this all sounds strange and doesn’t pass the smell test. Why would someone give up a perfectly good job to move in with someone they barely know, who is offering them a place to live, etc. I’d be checking for jobs and trying to set up interviews BEFORE I go anywhere. Try to have all my ducks in a row, first. That’s just me though, and I know a lot of people don’t have that mindset.

  8. @jamari… this happened to a friend of a friend that I know. Dude moved from NYC to Washington state to be with his “boyfriend” within 2 months he was stranded and homeless.

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