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sup Jamari?
I read your blog all the time and love that shit. I was writing because I need a bit of advice. I’ve been messing with dudes for a few years now and have had no luck in the relationship department. I’ve had some one night stands, but nothing that lasts. Most times I get flat out rejected. Definitely bruises my ego. Every once in a while, I’ll encounter a dude that’s interested in me, but he’s usually unattractive or way too fem. I can never seem to pull a nice, attractive, masculine dude.
It seems that other dudes have an easy time getting the dudes they want. I’ve been looking at myself to see what it is I could do to improve my chances. This is my current situation:
– 23 yo, 5’8, 208 lbs, 37 w, dark-skinned, low fade, cute face
– got my own car, job, go to school from home (about to graduate)
I know my weight is holding me back and I’m working on getting rid of that shit. What else do you think I should to improve and start pulling the type of dudes that I want? Please give me any advice you can on what I could do. Thanks for taking the time out to read this shit.
Signed,
Mr. Single… and Hating It
Dear Mr. S.A.H.I,
Well, you know what’s up and it is definitely a weight issue that is holding you back. I also sense a touch of low self esteem because you made it clear that is does effect you when you get rejected. There are the “Jolly and Golly” crew of big folks who love being big and have that “Fuck It” attitude. They attract people like a magnet because of their persona. I didn’t sense that when it came to your inquiry.
This lifestyle is very superficial. They almost want you to be perfect. Weight is one of the major factors in meeting people. Why do you think so many gays are in the gym? I say get on your one-two work out step and maybe you might meet someone in the gym. Alot of gay gym rats do lurk in the steam rooms.
-.f0x
AND ANOTHER THING! STOP FUCKIN THEM SO SOON. HONEY IF U CAN GET THE MILK FOR FREE! WHAT GOOD IS TAKING THE DAMN COW TO YOUR HOUSE! SHIT..LEAVE IT WHERE ITS AT AND KEEP COMIN TO GET THE MILK! HONEY U GOT TO LEARN TO TAKE UR TIME TOO!
I love the advice you gave him…
To Mr. Fox, thanks for the reply. Definitely gonna take those words to heart and hit the gym like a demon. I don’t want to miss out on the dudes that everyone else is pulling easily.
To Manchild, thanks for the words. How would you suggest I go about locating the niggas that like thick niggas? I’m a bit clueless on that.
No problem bruh…
lol@ hit the gym like a demon.
some kats like thick niggas…maybe u should check some
chat hitups and post ur true issues,…ie “thick nigga
in search of…etc,etc,etc”…seek and u will find.
I like the way you put that manchild!