I wish life was like Facebook.
You meet someone and you get a general idea of who they are just by their statuses and friend’s list.
You can easily add them to your friend’s list just by a thought.
And when you do, their whole low down was in your access.
I would personally hide certain Wolves that I would not want the world to know about.
Most importantly, I can see who knows my mutual friends and rivals.
Something I think it VERY important.
If it were as easy as Facebook…
Would you talk to a Wolf who has fucked one of your mutual friends?
As you know, I am a very private Fox.
My life and who I date is very personal to me.
I may share some minor details, but not enough for the world to know.
I hate to see PDA (Public Displays of Annoying).
Most importantly, I personally HATE when I find out a Wolf I am interested has talked to someone I know.
It always ends up as an un-friend… especially from all parties.
For instance…
I met this Wolf a couple of years ago on an online site.
He happened to live in another Forest from mine.
I thought to myself, “Good I creep to his neck of the woods as my get away spot.“
We would talk every night and were slowly falling into the “Add As Friend” zone.
One night in speaking, I mentioned I met a new Wolf to a Fox, who later ended up morphing into a Hyena.
At that point, I didn’t know he couldn’t be trusted.
I also was ecstatic about how happy I was about adding this new Wolf to my real life friend’s list.
“oh wow what is his name?” Fox asked.
“Deejay (name changed to protect the stupid)” I replied.
“Wait… what he look like?”
Uh oh…
so like a fool,
i proceeded to tell him.“Ooooohhhhh I know him!”
Situation a fail.
“Oh really? How?” I asked.
“He use to date my best friend.
He is fine.
Just your type too!
He use to play football, but he hurt his leg and had to stop playing.
And he bow-legged.
Was in love with my friend too.
Never cheated and I still think they talk, but my friend is over him.
Do you want me to put in a good word for you?”
Um no.
“That’s okay.”
Next thing you know, this Fox Hyena is calling another Hyena to tell him I was talking to the Wolf.
They both were in my face talking about how great this Wolf is and how he was just my type.
I knew what was coming next.
Suddenly, the Wolf went from nice to nasty.
Started becoming overly sexual and wanted naked pictures.
He didn’t want to send me anything, which made me think, “SET UP“.
Needless to say, things got really weird and the next week he took me off his friends list.
After that situation, I vowed to NEVER tell anyone about who I am dating.
Star Fox, yes, because I trust him.
These Hyenas and Jackals always seem to go stalking or trying to sleep with your Wolf.
You don’t know who is your enemy portraying as your “friend”.
I always say the less you say about who you are fucking, the better.
It all got me thinking about mutual friends knowing your mutual friend…
Is it wrong to want to keep people out your relationships?
And why is it when you let strangers in, they try to disrupt your happy home?
Why can’t they just mind their freaking beeswax?
Furthermore, why are these grown MEN acting like BITCHES?
Like I said, I wish life was as easy as reading a Facebook profile.
Some people, like myself are private and appreciate that .
Others, however, want to open up to the world and let everyone in.
… until they see how annoying that can truly be.
From “single” to “in a relationship”, the world wants to know…
… and they want to talk or even stalk.
Bad enough you have to keep your Wolf in check.
Now, you got to deflect everyone trying to get in yo bidness!
Why does it all that shit have to be so complicated?
ERRRG!
When it comes to dating, being private, and big mouthes within your mutuals…
I agree completely with this. My friends are my extended family and if my friend were to tell me a legitimate reason for not dating someone, I’m gone let the person go no questions asked because I trust what they say and they haven’t done a grimy thing in our 8 years or so of friendship. So when you really got people behind ya back and not no fakes then this trust is easy.
Let’s be real for a second. For two dudes to really click and have the potential to build something real is rare. We are also aware that there a lot of unhappy, lonely dudes out here as well, some just hide it better than others. I’m sure some of us happen to be friends with these dudes.
So what I’m saying dudes will interfere with your shit to make you as miserable as they are, whether they know it or not.
They may not be bad friends, you just can’t tell them everything.
A wise person once told me you never disclose everything about yourself to a person.
So true, I live by the motto, “Never let you left know what the right is doing.”
I trust my friends 100%. I tell them EVERYTHING. I recognize that there is a need to get someone’s background information and mentioning them to the people you know helps and so does a little facebook research. You’ll come across some pretty interesting information and things this person won’t necessarily reveal. Men are indeed whores and will lie to your face. I don’t date men my friends have talked to or slept with. They are officially off limits. The question people really need to be asking themselves is why are you hanging around or talking to people who you cannot trust?
This has always been a really big issue with me.
Living in Atlanta during my college years really forced me to get hip to the game—and quick. Prior to coming here, I knew very little about the community. i was definitely in for a rude awakening once I got here.
A lot of men are bitches in nice Jordans. They love to gossip and spread people’s business and Facebook has become grand central for the messiness. I dread finding out me and someone else has “mutual friends”. Mainly because I know some of these friends have, in some way, “dealt” with that someone. And that translates as a potential HEADACHE in my eyes.
Men are whores. Facebook just highlights the activity.
And for that very reason, I keep everything to myself. The only people who ever know who I’m seriously talking to are my immediate family. I even wait to tell close friends.