I couldn’t help but wonder…
Is he fine AF or do we need to jack off so we can think clearly?

we’ve all been there.
that moment when lust overrides logic.
it has made many of us caught up in a never ending cycle of bullshit.
God forbid they sell sex work then we have made someone a millionaire.
it can turn a random male into “the one i can’t stop obsessing over“.

Facials
Muscles
Privates
Familiarity?

but is he actually fine AF or…

…is he just the best-looking guy in the office?
…am I lonely?
…am I stressed out, depressed, or vulnerable?
…is he triggering something from my past?

or

…is it just the fantasy of fuckin’ him the only thing keeping me interested?

it got me thinking about males from the past,
current interests,
and the ones from the nets.
we can take males from physical and get lost in the emotional.
suddenly a 5 has turned into a 10.
his facial and bawdy somehow makes him a good partner.
his sex work and the rumors behind it make him bigger than he needs to be.
that last one can be taken in many different ways.

whether it was a familiar trauma or i’m horny and want to fuck,
many of these males i’ve wanted were fine AF but “something too”.
it is always something.
so i made a pact for all of us in The Foxhole:

The next time we think someone’s fine AF and we start bringing them deeper in us,
we are gonna jack TF off about them.

once we cleared our heads,
we should ask ourselves:

“What is it that I really find attractive about him?”

if we still into him after we busted,
maybe,
just maybe,
he’s worth the pursuit of being a dope partner.
if the flaws outweigh the good:

Corny
Toooooooooo cocky
He is in a full blown relationship with “Gym”
All his exes are randomly “crazy”
His OF sex work
Straight
A friendly straight
Too many fuckin’ kids
Too many fuckin’ games just to get to know him
Confusing a sassy he-bitch with playing hard to get
Horrendous attitude
Social media is his self esteem
Dry personality
Reminds me of an abusive family member
Reminds me of a past flop of an abusive male
His dick report and stroke resume have miserable reviews
Triggers my daddy (and even mommy) issues

…he’s just another male we want to ride.

if that’s how we even became attracted to him:

Isn’t that usually the biggest red flag?

lowkey: a big sign is when we start to lose who we are because we think he is fine af.
i’ve come to learn they were interested because of who we were before we realized he is fine af.