we never talk about grieving enough.
when you hear the word “grieve”,
you think it comes from mourning the death of a loved one.
“I grieved the loss of Star Fox.”
…but we don’t actually realize that we can grieve a living person.
we grieve the loss of people who are still alive in many different ways.
i’m grieving today…
…at the loss of a friendship that once was.
some friendships you think last lifetimes end up being seasonal.
it’s a long-term relationship that starts coming to an end.
like the relationship with the manz that needs to end,
friendships are just the same.
this doesn’t mean you both have to hate each other.
you can coexist in the same forests,
whether real or digital,
and still be cordial.
Friendships mutually ending don’t mean you have to throw shade and be petty.
just because we can’t let go doesn’t mean we have to be insufferable.
if we loved someone before,
we can still love them in the end with the same respect.
in your grieving process tho:
It’s okay to hurt.
It’s okay to feel sad.
It’s okay to cry.
It’s okay to be angry.
It’s okay to be indifferent.
It’s okay to not be okay.
if you wanna eat ice cream,
watch sad shit,
listen to break-up songs,
and wanna be left alone,
thats all perfectly fine too.
i’d think you were a psychopath or narc if you didn’t feel anything.
as i officially start my own grieving process today,
i’m grateful for the good times and the advice.
there was more personal fox talk about it here:
i’ll grieve so i can heal.
i’ll grieve so i can have my own closure.
i’ll grieve for moving forward without my hand being held.
i’ll grieve the friendship that came to an end.
lowkey: i’m thankful i have a community i can talk to personally.
what a blessing to have a community of foxholers i can seek for help.
i’m proud of myself tho and all i’ve learned in therapy.
i’m experiencing a different way to be sad about something.
Thank you for this entry. I had two friendships fizzle out. One friendship ended once I returned to school and He grew distant as if me returning to school was bad. We were friends for 6 yrs. However the one that hurt the most was recent with my girlfriend Yesenia. I’ve tutored her and helped her go acquire her GED. Helped her after she lost everything in a fire. She threw our friendship away after she ran and married this guy she’d talked too for like 3 or 4yrs via phone and letters while he was incarcerated. He was down for almost 20yrs and she originally met him via her adult children’s father (her oldest is 22 she had him as a teen). Ever since He’s come home crazy things happened. They were in a car accident and she was badly injured. I was afraid theyd put her on pain meds because shes been clean for over 15yrs and i didn’t want her to relapse. I even felt foolish because I notarized documents to help her attain her marriage license to marry Him, etc. She’s missed my honors ceremony and other events last yr. He came home in March and that’s when I loss her.
Now I only hear from her when she’s in turmoil from this relationship. I’ve been upset, sad because I’m about to make moves to leave Philadelphia and she’s no longer a major part of my Life. My Mom told me to move on for my mental health, peace and then you posted this. All confirmation from God. Thank you. It felt good to talk to someone about this. Friendships are relationships too and in most cases they last longer than romantic relationships. By the grace of God though I have a little village of love, some are nearby and others are around the nation and I’ve come to terms that they’re all need. You are apart of that village too.
With Gratitude,
Malcolm
^i’m sorry you had to go through these things malcolm.
it really sucks when you extend yourself and you don’t get the same energy in return.
i bet she will contact you when she realizes she is truly alone.
you are continuing to rise and be better for it.
they’ll learn the hard way because they always do.
but thank you for allowing me to be part of your village as you are in mine.
we are in this together!
I’m reading this book called Safe People and I think it’ll help you or anyone else who struggles with finding real ones. The next part of my journey is really building a community of good people that I can confide in and revel in. This book has been instrumental in me learning so much about myself and energy I’ve been putting out and why certain people were attracted to me. I’m only grieving the loss of one “friend” at the moment but it’s only because I love her child and I’m going to miss being a vital part of his life. Her leaving makes room for what I really need and desire so I take it in stride.