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Hey Jamari,

I need some advice I know this wolf that I’m cool with that’s straight. He calls me his best friend/bro and he is also a ex co-worker of mine. Long story short I wanna if this wolf is gay or bi curious,DL, ect. He knows I’m gay and has no problem with me and my sexuality. He told me how he likes transgender model Sydney Starr and what not. I told him that she was a he and he is not phased by it.

(I heard of straight men that would mess with transgender women as long as they don’t have male parts)

When we text I say stuff to test him to see if he going to say “no homo” or “ayo” “pause”… Anything that may indicate that he is uncomfortable with what I said and he doesn’t. He goes with the flow and at times he sends me various emojis that the average  male wouldn’t send to another male.

Now he has a son and baby mom(that doesn’t mean anything now a days). And recently his female coworkers went to gay bar and he went along. I had a crush on him for the longest time and I like the back and forth.

How can I find out is he trying to play for the other team or not?

Should I leave it alone ?

MY ANSWER…

 well doesn’t this sound familiar.
take away a few things and i was gonna if you knew my wolf.

well as you know from my many entries,
i was also in the struggle.

“was” because i’m choosing to bow out gracefully.
i’ve pretty much done everything i could.
i’m going to keep it as “friends” and keep on establishing a foundation.
we are still good friends.
well i have faith that we still are.
it was me who got caught up in hoping i was “right”.
plus it didn’t help how work wolf acts towards me.
saying he treats me like his “girlfriend” and other ambiguous comments.
i could post 10,000 stories,
but if no one is there to see how we interact,
they will think i’m off my rocker.

see the issue with these wolves is they are very comfortable with you.
with us.
they are straight and accept us for who we are.
very hard to come by these days.
we are all so use to foolish and homophobic wolves,
that when one comes along that goes against the grain,
there is a certain appeal there.
when they drop subtle hints and have you questioning things,
thats where it becomes tricky.

i say leave it alone.
yes.
you read right.
jamari fox is saying leave it alone.
now i’m not saying end your friendship.
i’m saying maybe he is playing games.
he may not be ready to even acknowledge “that side”.
he knows you are gay and if he is interested,
he will let you know.
it maybe time for you,
like myself,
to bow out gracefully and like my readers have urged:

let him cum to you

the key is still remaining a friend,
but also keeping a healthy distance.
once he sees your distance,
it may or may not cause him to react.
you don’t have time to wait for him to figure his life out.

if all else fails,
and you really want him,
you can admit your feelings to him and see what happens.

i hope you are able to get the wolf of your dreams.
be happy you have a straight friend who isn’t like these other assholes out here.
sex and relations can either make the foundation strong or make it fall to the ground.

i hope that helps.
keep me posted on any developments!

best,
jamari fox

lowkey: i should be taking my own advice.