one of my biggest fears use to be getting abused.
i knew i wasn’t strong and would probably go back if i really loved him.
thank God i got my tail in therapy to work those kinks out.
Abuse isn’t just physical.
and emotional black eyes hurt just as worse.
i am very sensitive to seeing abuse.
there was a scene in the players club as a kid that traumatized me.
it was a vixen getting raped and beat up but behind a door.
( x it was this scene here )
i never watched this movie again off this scene alone.
a foxholer sent me the IG of aaron drew tonight.
aaron documented his abuse and this is very trigger warning ahead…
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the blood on the walls!!!!
the black eyes!!!!
i legit teared up as it kept going.
i am so saddened by this but it is important to show.
i feel like it doesn’t matter who we are or how strong we think we are.
Domestic violence can reach any of us at any given moment.
The real test is if we stay or we leave.
Many choose to go back.
it doesn’t have to be with fists either.
other forms of abuse can break your spirit as fists can break your bones.
I pray for strength to any of my Foxholers that are dealing with any kind of abuse.
it’s better to be alone than to deal with the back and forth of abuse.
The Foxhole is sending love and prayers to aaron drew.
i hope he continues to heal and moves forward to a kinder love.
And this healing thing, it’s completely non-linear. But we will get there. If I can, let me remind you that love isn’t abusive, and no— you didn’t deserve what happened to you. You do deserve to be whole, happy, respected, believed, healed— loved. Just know that it’s completely okay to take your time. Most won’t understand— some won’t even believe you. But you don’t need anyone’s permission to do what’s right for you. Find your meditative space and feel the emotions. All of them. Reflect and ask yourself difficult questions—and learn to be okay when you don’t quite yet know the answers to them. See a counselor if you need to. Just… don’t let the anger consume you. Because If there’s one thing I’ve come to understand amid all of this, it’s that you have to go through the heartbreak. There’s no over or under trauma of this nature. Somedays you might regress into a depressive rage. And some days will be better than others… but eventually, you’ll learn to love the reflection in the mirror all over again.
Until then, be kind to yourself. Be brave— and do hang in 💛 – Aaron Drew