you click with someone,
the sex is amazing but after some time together,
they want kids/marriage but you don’t.
you told them before the relationship so it isn’t a surprise.
a breakup is on the horizon because 1/2 didn’t understand english.
^the couple above are divorcing because of that dealbreaker.
for gays,
it could be open relationships or roles changing.
it all made me wonder…
Why do people still get into relationships/marriages when there is an obvious deal breaker that will go into effect in the future?
when i meet someone and i tell him i don’t want kids or marriage,
or i don’t see myself taking him to pound town,
i hope he knows i’m being 110% upfront.
if we are together for some time they start nagging,
i’m gonna be really fuckin’ annoyed.
why?
I told him what I wanted in the beginning and he agreed.
If I change my mind in the future,
it will be up for discussion.
these are deal breakers in relationships.
these are life-changing decisions that can make or break relationships.
people try and change someone’s mind and give ultimatums.
the real underlying truth is:
Sometimes,
we have to walk away from deal breakers.
…because people love to play the victim when they don’t get their way.
i see too many couples irl ending because of certain deal breakers.
when the “what are you looking for” isn’t what they’re/you’re looking for:
C-YA!
there are thousands of gay or bi males out here,
all of which are looking for what i’m looking for.
lowkey: i’m telling all wolves of interest going forward…
I’m looking for a discreet gay partner but I would like to take it slow.
Bisexuality can be tolerated when applied in the bedroom.
I won’t be entertaining other males while dealing with you.
I’m also expecting the same from your end.
I’m not looking for any open relationships.
At this moment,
I am a fox and don’t see myself changing that.
At this moment,
I do NOT want kids or marriage.
If any of those things change in the future,
I will circle back to see where that may take us.
if they can’t get with that then they won’t get with this.
When I was a baby cutting relationship teeth, in the throws with my first love, who was bisexual; I recollect thinking that I loved him enough that should he change his mind about us and wanted a woman, I was fine with it. Ultimately that is what happened. I was very mentally mature for a 22 year old. It was very difficult emotionally disengaging, but I made it through it. I remember how unhappy I was because I didn’t clarify what I needed emotionally or what I needed physically, separate from the sex.
As an “Elder Statesman”, I cannot stress how important it is to be upfront about expectations. It is a plus and a must to make it PLAIN.
^ in this day and age,
i’m realizing the importance of being honest and upfront.
next thing you know,
you start hating the person because of expectations.
Just curious, why is it always “foxes and wolves”? Seems weird. I guess top and bottom isn’t that much better…..but foxes and wolves carries some kind of weird implication with it and idk what it’s trying to say about those roles.
^ you must be new here.
LOL