first off,
there is nothing wrong with looking good with your partner.
you both present well and look like you smell like expensive ass fragrances.
absolutely nothing wrong with that.
the designer relationships look expensive,
but it’s all about overly selling a presentation like a luxury storefront.
behind the curated aesthetics,
and the “we woke up like dis” filtered everything,
it looks like an endless product placement of a relationship.
there’s often nothing real holding it together.even the sex on their OFs is curated.
it’s not intimacy; it’s marketing.
marketing to poor lonely souls who yearn for their own brand of designer too.
these designer relationships aren’t built to last…
They’re built to be admired,
envied,
and ultimately,
exposed to the highest bidder.
Sidebar: remember ^their “he bought me a g wagon” reveal?
This is the 3rd designer relationship kellon has been in that went bankrupt.
Let’s not make a 4th Kellon!
the inevitable “so we broke up…” post is just another part of the performance.
they actually start dropping hints first and then the post follows.
the real problem tho?
The followers who eat it up and try to recreate the look with budget materials.
they see their favs doing it,
assume that’s the standard,
and end up in counterfeit versions.
we know what happens to knockoffs; they fall apart.
when many of the straights do it,
like the rappers and baller wolves,
we already know it’s a countdown to a cheating reveal.
a real relationship isn’t a business venture for social media capital.
This is why many of them always end up going out of business.
we already know what a real and natural relationship/marriage looks like.
half of these social media relationships are in relationships with their audiences too.
“OMG our joint audience is LOVING this post.
Look at these likes!
UGH!
We HAVE to post something tomorrow!
Stories,
maybe?
Give them a little tease of what we ate for dinner?
How about we do that dance trend on Tiktok?
End it with us kissing?
YES,
perfect!
I love US.”
lowkey: whats interesting to me with designer relationships is they just ends.
both people move on like they never met each other.
has anyone noticed that?
I can kind of see your point about designer relationships, Jamari, but can I go deeper and make a somewhat controversial conclusion/question/observation? Are same-sex relationships even a real thing based on anything substantive other than sex?
A lot of people in the United States want to pretend that Black people are just chocolate-covered White people, while there may be some similarities, there are also huge differences, distinctions, and nuances based on histories, structures, and systems. In the same way, there are huge differences between heterosexual and same-sex relationships.
Sex can’t be the foundation nor sustain a relationship. The reality is that at some point, sex becomes stale, boring, and monotonous; and when the sex fails, these relationships in the gay community collapse. You could make the same argument in the heterosexual community, but in their case, there tends to be more to cling to when you are in those relationship lows.
There are entire systems and structures that support heterosexual relationships from the tax code all the way to church and religious doctrine and dogma. When you are straight, you can buy into so many different outlets to sustain your relationship; for some, it’s religion, the ability to build and grow, family, and legacy. In a same-sex relationship, many of these avenues are closed to you like religion, and family and potential legacy become far more complicated.
When you look at Kellon, Steven Beck, or Jermelle Simon; these are young, highly attractive guys, I’m assuming when the sex gets stale, they’re gone because there was nothing to build and grow with. Then, you tack on the fact that many in the community don’t want kids, then the reason to stay becomes less and less. I find that the gay couples who get married and have kids either through adoption or surrogacy tend to last longer.