there was a vixen who i knew that was talking to wolf of interest.
he was cute and playing the “distant wolf” thing.
you know the types.
he creates a mystery about himself and usually nothing is there.
so i asked her what has she learned anything about him.
she gon’ say:

“I don’t know.
I don’t ask him questions.”

head went on instant swivel.
tf you mean you don’t ask him questions?
you know why dating sucks nowadays?…

Everyone is trying to look like or act they are too good to date.

God forbid we show interest or ask questions,
that is a turn off and you get ghosted.
i heard people complain about someone trying to get to know them:

…but will turn into the ultimate simps and pick-mes for someone else.

i’ve come to the conclusion that for me going forward:

Fuck all that bullshit.

I don’t want to be scared to send a wolf a text.

If I’m thinking about him,
I’m gonna send him a message.

When I’m trying to get to know him,
I’m going to ask him questions about what I need to know.
This pineapple could be the killer.

If he hits me up,
I don’t want to play this game that I was so busy that I couldn’t check.
My phone is literally always arund me.
if not,
I’m wearing an Apple Watch.
If I’m not available or not in the mood,
I’ll let him know why when I hit him back up.

CLEAR.
FUCKING.
COMMUNICATION.

…because when we actually date these people,
we will see each other for who we really are once the masks fly off.
the crazy.
the lazy.
the insecure.
the cheater.
the moron.
the secret sex worker.
the “i need an open relationship because i don’t like you“.
the “i see why your supposed crazy ex is supposedly crazy“.
so it makes no sense to play pretend.
also,
if he is cool but i’m not attracted to him,
we can be friends.
i know!
friendship without fucking!
scary concept!
i don’t ghost people that haven’t done anything wrong like these others.

so i have to ask:

Aren’t we tired of treating dating like a job interview process nowadays?

…because how many times have we realized the truth after 6 months?

lowkey: let’s say i do meet the baller wolf or someone of status,
i don’t want to create a habit i gotta be a certain way to impress them.
these are regular ass males looking for good company and a good time.
i’m looking for the same as well.
remember: it’s less about him and my needs/wants as well.