i’ll never forget an incident as an 8-year-old in  barbados.
one of my father’s friends commented i was “soft“.
it really hurt my feelings and of course,
he blamed it on being raised by my grandmother and mother.
when i told him how it made me feel when we reconnected,
and how he never defended me at that moment,
he legit brushed it off but told me how hurt he was that i was gay.
the same father that said he didn’t want to call my phone because:

“I didn’t want the man you might be with to beat you up because another man was calling you.”

If only we could have fathers like Judge Mathis

he has a new show on e! called mathis family matters.
when you watch stuff like this with his son,
greg mathis jr…

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everyone wants to be on reality tv until your huzzband gets in a scandal.
then it’s “don’t talk about my huzzband!!!” as the new storyline.
drew sidora’s huzzband,
ralph pittman,
has been under scrutiny for his alleged gay lifestyle.

i know,
that sounds weird,
but lemme explain.
a stylist claimed ralph was gay which kicked off the rumors.
( x see here )
it was ralph’s answer in this recent interview tho…

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“HI!
I’M STEVEN AND I’M GAY!
YUP!
I’M GAY AND I NEED RESPECT BECAUSE I’M GAY!”

…but steven has no respect for anyone else which is interesting.
this is what drives me crazy with some folks.
they will introduce themselves with what they identify themselves as,
but they refuse to introduce us to who they are behind all of that.
i’m a black gay man and when i meet anyone:

“Hey!
My name is Jamari,
nice to meet you.”

that’s it.
my sexuality isn’t the defining factor as a whole.

I cannot deal with identity politics.

the new press secretary,
karine jean-pierre,
did it with her briefing yesterday.
she said…

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i’ve had many jobs in my life.

Therapist
Social Worker
Stylist
Personal Assistant
Driver
Prostitution Whore
Trash Collector

…but the one job that i never did successfully was to be “me“.
i know you are wondering what i’m fonting about.
i have been all of those things to males that i really wanted to be with.
i saw one i took a liking to,
or realized that he was attracted to me,
and…

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i’m addicted to dead by daylight.
i’ve been playing that game for 5-ish years now.
dead by daylight is a horror “hide and seek” survival video game.
you and 3 other players have to fix 5 gens while avoiding a killer,
who could either be freddy krueger or michael myers.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xoPzYlo0D5g

so i don’t be paying attention at times.
i was wondering why when i was playing recently,
i saw gamer titles such as:

“David Bussy King”
“I TOP U TOP”
“FUCKDADDYDAVID”

…while playing david king,
who is pictured above.
the makers of dead by daylight decided to pull david out of the closet…

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from what i remember,
jussie smollett was one of the favorites on empire.
next to cookie,
who was played by taraji p. henson,
and andre’s butt which was attached to trai byers.

jamal was the gay brother who was the underdog on the come-up.
jussie was also lee daniel’s golden child too.
the straights were rooting for him.
so when his brother,
jocqui smollett,
said the black community didn’t save jussie because he is gay…
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