so its official.
the news outlets have picked up the derrick gordon/gerald mccullouch love story.
the “25 years his senior” love story.
i mean finally.
the foxhole “been there;80-ish comments later” tho.
we get it first and then give the scraps to everyone else.
so gerald spoke to enews! about how “this” all came about.
no it wasn’t because of a hook up on grindr.
it actually started when derrick watched one of gerald’s movies,
bearcity,
and contacted gerald about it via twitter.
gerald had some more to say about it…
Continue reading “Derrick Gordon and Gerald McCullouch: Spark, Pipe, Or Publicity?” →

everyone comes to me for advice.
i love helping people and as always,
my advice is spot on and should be used immediately.
the year is already starting off to some fuckery.
the gay world and dating is a hot mess,
but the straight world ain’t no better.
two vixens i am extremely close with called me about their woes with wolves.
during their stories,
i had to wonder…

Are men just idiots?

Continue reading “The Tales of Two Dickheads” →

….well according to some of the sistas out there.
all because idris elba allegedly knocked up ^ vixen (name naiyana garth),
she happens not to be his wife and maybe having their semi bi-racial child.
basically she isn’t black (light skinned-ed),
its an OOW cub,
and they think he is being messy.
they saying his career with black woman fans is over because of this.
god forbid he is one of the handful of black actors who is great at what he does.
add the fact that he is playing ( x mandela ) in his new movie.
oh nooooooo.
nope.
i love them dearly and will defend them to the day i die,
but im starting to see a trend in some sistas.
i have to wonder:

Is it really that serious tho?

lowkey: hell denzel is married to a black woman.
that hasn’t stopped him slanging his pipe all over harlem and manhattan.
all alleged btw.
congrats on ( x your new situation ) idris!

x read more about it here

choices.
we all have choices in life.
in the concrete forest,
you get the luxury of variety.
you can choose between what you want for breakfast,
what type of transportation to get where you are going,
or what things you choose to associate yourself with.
that’s the beauty of life in general.
when it comes to wolves,
i find that some of us don’t apply that rule.
we meet one wolf,
in one great situation,
and hold onto that hope he will be the one.
what we don’t realize is he met you,
in one great situation,
and he has twenty others in rotation for “the one”.
don’t think for a second when he isn’t talking to you that he is alone.
so when it comes to dating…

The more more choices; the better?

Continue reading “Riding On The Carousel of Penis Looking For One Comfortable Seat” →

FOXMAIL

Hey Jamari. Hope all is well. I figure I try this receiving advice thing out. You always have something insightful to say. Would like to get you opinion on this. So here goes:

How did I Turn into the enemy?

I’m a wolf. D.L or discreet wolf if you give me a label. In plain terms a bisexual male. After conversing with a very close friend, something unsettling came up. My friend is an openly homosexual male. Having one of our ever so often “real” conversations he called me “the enemy”, a “guys guy”. My look of confusion must have invoked a explanation. He explain to me that I am the guy that “wants my cake and eat it too”. My friend explained I say I want commitment but do not really want it, end up in different beds “looking” for it and breaks hearts while I look for someone I know is a “dream”. I knew his statement came from a honest place so I did not take offense. This is honestly a very close friend. One of the very few who know the lifestyle I live. I just laughed it off. I denied his accusation  and we moved on but it caused me to really reflect.

Am I now the enemy?

I remember when I decided I was going to be honestly with myself at 21 yrs old . I was bisexual and no matter how much I denied it would not not go away.  It was not just a phase.  And suppressing it was making the urges stronger and me go silently insane. So I decided I owe myself the chance. I told myself that “I rather have one person of substance than many of no value” living this lifestyle change. I wanted one fox or hybrid and just enjoy it, give my best. I said I would not have pointless sex or many partners. I would be as honest with them (as I can be). Not play games. Just give it my all and would not settle. I will just concentrate on that one . I will be in search for that one.

Needless to say I have drifted from my goal. My friend’s statement  made me realize something I saw but tried to deny. I’m 23 at the moment and still “in search”.  I have done everything I did not want to do. I settled, body count on the raise, pointless sex, meaningless interactions, “talking” to more than one, being honest but withholding information (still lying),  playing the game before I get played and now unsure if I want “that one”.

How did this happen?
How did I become the dudes that did me wrong in this process?
The irony.
Am I the only one this happen to?
Is there any turning back?

MY ANSWER…

Continue reading “f0xmail: Am I The Big Bad Wolf For Being In A lot of Foxhole?” →

it looks like peanut has gone from baller wolves to actors now.
i guess he is going on a world tour of outing everyone he dates.
superhead much?
he someone just outed his alleged relationship with mehcad brooks on baller alert.
is this a step up from kerry rhodes?…

Continue reading “So Peanut is F*ckin’ With Mehcad Brooks????” →