in the gay forests,
i have learned one thing that i always find quite interesting:

In one community,
everyone has different experiences and reacts to them differently.
We’re also surrounded by others who either understand or are puzzled by those experiences.

….and for some weird reason,
many gays don’t give grace and be gentle to those who are confused.
they speak to others with the same aggression and hatred during their own confusion era.
i hate to font it but you sound like your mother.

its important to understand we are all different and many of us are confused af.
i got a DM from a Foxholer that i was allowed to share with everyone in the hole…

so i saw this on the neighborhood talk just now.
it was directed to vixens but you know ima turn it towards us.
so for me:

Physically:
A really handsome face
Butts
Biceps
The presentation in the way the clothes fit

i always find different things attractive on different wolves.
im gonna try something different today.
instead of looking at the horrible qualities of some of the past wolves i dealt with,
i want to try and highlight what made me attracted to them instantly.
i’ll throw in the physical too…

Attraction isn’t always “lets have sex right now”.
It isn’t always friendly or open.
It can be cold,
distant,
and unfriendly.
It can be protection of being exposed.

i was reading something today on reddit.
it was about things people do that they think others aren’t peeping.
it’s like we know you are high af in church,
sir.
you aren’t fooling anyone.
this was two of the comments about being attracted to someone…

Continue reading “same sex attraction can be cold” →

i’m very lenient on males who realize they’re attracted to other males,
unlike others.
don’t get me wrong,
some shit makes my head spin around in disgust,
but other things i don’t attack as fast as others.
i’ve been there as being someone who was attracted to other males,
but terrified in allowing myself to feel those feelings.

What will my family think?
What will the people in Barbados think?
What will people that are around me think?
Will I be shunned and ostracized?

no matter the age,
it can be a culture shock and huge life adjustment especially with all the “rules” within this life.
 it’s very scary,
but this is one thing i won’t tolerate…

Continue reading “i don’t do the “i like him, but i’m scared of my attraction to other males” types of headaches” →

you’re interested this guy in your real life.
i mean,
you realllllllllllly like this guy.
he might not be “the fantasy guy”,
but he is sexy af to you.
he shows you hints and clues into his interest for you as well.
there is a connection there.
so it’s in the bag,
right?
nah it’s not.
why…

Continue reading “boy if you don’t come get this good stuff and stop these games (but same could be said for me too)” →

everyone in this life has different experiences.
some of us are out and dealt with every male under the sun.
others are dl and its mostly sexual.
then there is the in-between who are waiting for “mister right” instead of “right now”.
we have all met various males who will break their rules for us.

The “I will only let you TOP me”
The “I will only be on the BOTTOM for you”

i was having a chat with a foxholer about a certain type of male in the life tho.
the one who will only deal with one male and that’s YOU…

Continue reading “it’s something about you that makes him harder than chinese arithmetic” →