i wrote an entry about a scene in the new “gossip girl”.
in the entry,
“opposites do attract and good dick/cheeks are out here with your name on it.”
in which it led foxholer,
Jamari have to disagree a bit. I don’t think there is any booty/dick with our names on it. No one really has relationships in the community. I’ve only seen one Ltr and they were white. We will die alone unfortunately. I’ve learned to accept that.”
i won’t lie,
the comment blew my top off.
when i really stewed on it tho…
John has a point.
it led to jumanji coming with this 3-pointer:
Some of y’all getting upset at what John said, but let’s not act like there aren’t several men in our community out here in they 30s, 40s, 50s, plus and still single af.
Let’s be real, the state of gay dating and relationships are tough and depressing. I mean where do I begin:
–The community’s obsession with sex
–No guide, rulebook, or blueprint on gay courtship and family building ‘cus you gay living in a straight world
–Would be viable men if they didn’t come out late and are still going through they hoe phase
–Men who never seem to leave they hoe phase
–Men afraid of any sort of commitment
–The open relationship/non-monogamy epidemic
–Racist and Fetishizing non-black gays
jumanji is absolutely right.
gay males are taught to fuck and die because of it tbh.
and die once that catches up with us.
we get to see it in real-time on onlyfans in this era.
a majority of gay males don’t know how to platonic friends.
i’m gonna font a controversial statement.
it might ruffle some fur today but:
It is hard to date while being BLACK.
don’t let social media fool you.
stop falling for carefully curated social media posts.
highlight reels aren’t a good life make.
i use to envy vixens but they have all revealed dating black and straight really sucks.
Most straights are out here settling and setting up the divorce play after the marriage and kids.
Most straight males have become more emotionally feminine while vixens have gotten more aggressive.
Most straights are promoting toxic relationships out of comfort and ignorance
Most straights want the kids but don’t realize how expensive they are pre or post-divorce
Most straight vixens are becoming the breadwinners and finessed into paying alimony
dating has gotten worse with the freer we have become.
everyone is a loud and proud “something” but isn’t decent enough to date and settle with.
you see all the “pro-black/happy to be nappy” settling with white partners in the end.
a majority of males suck.
sgl or straight af.
when the rapping wolves are tweeting this:
i’m so happy to see that black folk realizing we need therapy.
gay folks desperately need it to unpack and unload all the trauma we’ve faced.
i’ll font another controversial statement:
Some gay and bi males are mean,
and rude so it’s a no-brainer that they’re single.
imagine dealing with all of that anger and hurt in a relationship?
some gay males chase away good partners because of their attitudes every day b.
we are all not guaranteed “someone” although we shouldn’t doom ourselves to being alone.
i’d rather be single than put up with half the nonsense that i see irl and on social media.
it’s a shit show out here but someone you might fancy is viewing from the sidelines too.
lowkey: if you don’t find someone,
that’s fine too.
set your life up to be as amazing,
and luxurious as possible.
don’t die a loser.