i had an interesting discussion with my cousin hybrid last weekend.
he has had more experience on the dating scene,
but he has dated/fucked a lot more white males.
i can font that i’ve never experienced that side of the dating forest.
the closest i’ve “cum” to that was a dry hump hook up with a biracial wolf.
it’s not to font i’d never date a white wolf,
but black wolves are my top choices.
latino wolves a strong second.
so my cousin hybrid goes on to say on that phone call:
“Let me tell you something about some black males…”
and that’s when he sorta blew my mind with that followed…
he is currently dating an italian hybrid at the moment.
one who isn’t the “black woman” the white twinks desire to be.
he has casually dated a few black wolves,
but his last relationship for 2 years was with a black hybrid.
very “foxhole” type
during their relationship,
he was always unhappy.
he said the reasoning why was because…
“He would put me in the same box as his trauma.”
I had to tell him a few times that I was trying to love him.
He is oceans away from his home,
able to be out to the world,
but was still scared of being gay getting back to his family.
I’ve noticed a lot of black gay males suffer from some kind of trauma.
Whether in the closet or out,
black males will often treat you like their trauma.
Self hate is instilled within us.
We use that trauma as weapons on each other.
In the straight communities,
some black males will treat black women like shit.
turn very bitter and jaded and what does that equal?
Now they go into the dating world with chips on their shoulders.
Taking out all that trauma on black males who shows interest.”
he went on to say:
“…so when most of us meet white males,
they come from a place of love that we desperately want.
They have their own issues,
and some have this “BBC” slave/master fantasy,
but not as much as dating black males.
Their privilege has allowed them to understand “love”.
The white males I’ve been with want to be affectionate in public,
say “I love you”,
and do all the things I’d love to do with a black male.
Until we all face our trauma,
there will be limited representation of black love.
This is why I don’t really date black men as much anymore.
It can be abusive.”
it’s interesting how all the black communities share something in common.
the straights can be no different than some gays when it comes to trauma.
i do think many of us need to face what has traumatized us.
we will be in that same hopeless place trying to find love.