he ain’t gay! he just has a male crush, that’s all

i’ve always said males can have a crush on another male.
i know you’re like “huh?”.
it’s actually more common when you think.
lemme explain…

i usually watch “the joe budden podcast” when i have a free moment.
they had a topic last week about male crushes aka “dude fuck a dude”.
many thought the confessions was “gay af”,
but as usual,
society likes to put males in a “males don’t do this” box.
it’s okay to be a “caveman” unless we act like one and hurt feelings.
so this is what joe and company had to discuss

starts @1:03

so basically,
it’s not about wanting to “fuck” a dude so to speak,
but how cool another male comes off.
a lot of straight males crush on “ghost” on power,
or even lawrence on “insecure”.
it could be their power,
the way they get pussy,
how hard they go in the gym,
or just how flawlessly they execute their lives.
this is the only way they can be suspect without going full gay on us.
i’ve seen it live with male groupies who will do anything for “the star”.
he’ll fetch hiscoffee,
find hoes for him to fuck,
or will tolerate his disrespect just to stay in their good graces.
some have even gone as far as to kill for them.
those types usually make a loyal & straight boyfriend.
you know where you’ll see it a lot tho?
on ig with the attentionistos.
you can see male crushes in full swing in these comment boxes.
it often looks like this:

“yo we gotta work out sometime bro”
“i gotta get like you”

it what leads to straight males looking almost homoerotic in the gym together.
you’re thinking they probably broke a bed shortly after,
and for some,
it’s totally plausible.
others who are 100% straight,
it’s the infatuation of trying to be like another they deem as “better”.
the “cousin” or “brother” who got all the pussy they wanted to be like.
it can be very shallow tbh.
so the ones we think might be secretly gay are simply just having a male crush.
it’s only gay af when the dicks start to “cum” out.

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Author: jamari fox

the fox invited to the blogging table.

14 thoughts on “he ain’t gay! he just has a male crush, that’s all

  1. White men are allowed to bond and not be called gay. White men can have bromances. Black men can’t.

    Hugging another man is gay. Getting him something from the caf on your lunch break is gay. A boy’s night is gay.

    This is what creates homophobia. Men aren’t allowed to feel a platonic bond so we push each other away, trying to be hard.

    I have platonic straight friends. I let them do the affection, though. When they hug me, play fight, tickle me, let them start so they don’t feel I’m coming onto them.

    A real man who is comfortable with himself can hug you, lean on you, fall asleep on you and it won’t be a thing. Let men bond.

    If you get hard….. Though, it might be more than a man crush. I’m gay and know brotherly love is not gay love.

    1. ^its really interesting just how high the standard of being a black male really is,
      but it’s really the most destructive as well.

      we are basically still slaves,
      but with more freedom.

      1. Then people get mad when a Donald Glover or Michael B Jordan date outside the race. There’s no right way to be a Black man. We have bigger fish to fry.

  2. I personally feel that’s why we as black men are fuck up. because we too busy worrying about how other black men and women think about us. If you do not like what I’m doing and how I’m doing you can kick rocks.

  3. I thought this was going to be about Jaden Smith lol..

    Also, men can also admire another man for his aura & good looks. Its not always about what they do. Men can spot a handsome man.

  4. I agree with all of this but tbh I don’t feel bad if they get accused of being gay or any of that because that is the way THEY made it for themselves. They made this world for themselves where anything feminine adjacent is gay. And even worse the DL men have started the “no homo” trend making it even harder for the rest. Girls are sluts and guys are gay this is the world THEY built meanwhile us homos are caught in the middle dealing with their mess.

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