it’s “therapy thursday” and i’m back at it.
this week’s chapter in “no more mr nice guy” is:
reclaim your masculinity
it was a pretty short chapter,
but these are my answers to the “break free” exercises…
i never try to be different or better from other men.
i want to fit in with other men.
i’m actually more disconnected from gay men.
my site connects me to all types of “us”.
it helps.
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i don’t know any straight/gay i want to get to know better.
maybe a celebrity?
a personal trainer wolf?
someone i can work for?
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i don’t neglect my body.
i’m not super health conscious,
but i try to limit junk food and a lot of sugars.
i take multivitamins and fish oil daily.
i don’t smoke and i drink socially.
i also try to get enough rest every night for my long days of work.
i’m doing pretty well in the health department.
i would say i am mentally neglecting myself so i can work on that.
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a healthy gay male,
imo,
is someone who is:
responsible
loyal
aggressive
goal oriented
intelligent
fun
healthy
low-key
wise
a lot of my readers are like the traits above.
i take the advice of my readers as i see fit.
i haven’t met a gay male in real life with those qualities.
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he is dead,
but my father was:
passvive
could be a “yes” man
was disconnected from me because of work
didn’t take time to understand who i was
i could see most of those things within me.
not as strong,
but i see how alike we were doing this exercise.
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i don’t know any cubs,
but i have a ton of little brothers who read the foxhole.
many animals have said my site has provided support to them.
it helps me to know i’m helping someone out there.
that’s the blessing of the foxhole.
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another chapter done.
i liked that one because it helped me see how “weak” i been acting.
still a work in progress,
but improving day by day!
see ya next thursday!
Can you keep secret? You promise? Do you pinky swear on it to sell your soul to the devil and never go to heaven? Okay, you pinky swear on it.
So to break free from my Mr. Nice Guy antic, I punch a baby in the nose. Yea right there at the store. Normally I would smile at the baby and wave hello. But I remember the No More Mr. Nice Guy and sock the baby right the face when no one was looking. And you know what the baby did? Cried for it’s mommy, yea, that’s right go cry to your poor mommy, Cabbage Patch bitch.
#24
I can’t be myself around other men. That’s what keeps me disconnected. I’m not trying to be different, it’s they who expect me to act a certain way.
#25
I can’t think of three men who I would like to get to know better. Maybe reconnecting with my cousin. We used to be best friends but now we barely talk.
#26
I eat a lot of junk food, sweets, and candy.
I don’t exercise at all.
I could start watching what I eat.
I could start jogging regularly again like used to.
#27
Someone who knows who he is and isn’t apologetic about it. I wish I could be as firm and direct without backing down.
#28
My father was
loud
lazy
and insecure
I’m not loud or lazy but am very insecure. That’s the only thing we have in common tho are reasons for our insecurities are extremely different.
#29
I do have younger male cousins but they’re all bad as hell and get on my nerves so that’s not happening.
^thank you for your answers zen!
You’re doing the work Jamari! Iyanla would be proud of you! 😜
^thanks billy!