I had to wonder:
Is it hard to gain back self respect once we lose it?

I was having a discussion with a Foxholer about a “straight” attentionsisto he knows.
You might know him.
He is straight publicly but actually gay for pay privately.
So 98% of them?
The issue isn’t the gay for pay but how desperate he is for money.
Once he sucked the peen of someone with big money,
he was tested to see how far he was willing to do.
He has been slutted out,
got a deposit in every hole,
those butt cheeks got pounded into oblivion,
and pretty much will allowed himself to be known as “a good little slut”.
He is now being passed around to other with big money and that never ends well.

remember that scene in “coming to america” when he made her bark like a dog?

i would have cursed him TF out and left.
she barked.
there are people in the forests who will bark.
those who bark end up being like the attentionisto in the above story.
losing respect is the kiss of death.
if someone knows you will do anything for success/companionship/friendship,
they’ll exploit you in every which way.
there is no challenge with those who’ll bark.
there is nothing to fight for or be excited about.
my thing is…

Aren’t we taught that barking aka kissing ass gets us in the door tho?

when people don’t bark for their self respect,
they are usually painted as the villains.
we are taught it’s better to bark than stand up proudly.
if you kiss ass to everyone with a little money or clout,
we’ll be let out of the dog house and into the main house with the movers and shakers.
now i think there is a way to play the game but i think the problem is:

When someone knows you are easily bendable,
or they can disrespect you and you’ll still keep coming back,
it is very hard for them to see you in another way.
If you don’t have respect for yourself,
how can someone have respect for you?

i’ve learned in life you need to have a “nah i’m good” limit.
if someone thinks they can disrespect you,
or they know you need them in order to survive,
they will more than likely always take advantage of you.

I see it all the time with exes.
Folks will break up and then get back together in a week or three.
It takes one text with some word candy and just like that,
another soft debut on IG.
I see it with gays getting played by straights on OF.
Scammed but still paying to see more because your lust overtakes common sense?
Yeah!
That’ll teach him!

Foxhole,
you gotta have respect for yourself.
know when its time to go and never look back.
it never gets better tbh.
regardless of what someone has,
we shouldn’t tolerate disrespect just to be put on or to keep someone around.
this is how folks start getting abused out here.
you get slapped for breathing wrong and that will still keep you around.
so i had to ask:

Are you willing to bark like a dog on command…

…or are you willing to walk away?