i’m gonna dedicate this entry to the straights.
our poor and simple straights.
you gotta hold their hands as you lead them to a dragging.
so as the above tweet stated:
“We been knew…”
i have a problem with that statement…
when gays and anyone in the community come out to the straights in their lives,
it is a very personal decision.
a lot of thought goes into it like:
“Will they accept me?”
“Will they stick around?”
i did it with people i thought loved and appreciated me.
i felt comfortable and wanted to be free.
Some of those fake-ass negroes and negresses left my life.
they didn’t make me feel loved and supported at all.
they hit me with “we been knew” and then bounced,
almost making it feel like the big secret that has been solved.
it made me feel like i gave my virginity to someone i thought i could trust.
they hit and then ghosted.
when someone is hit with a “we been knew”,
it feels like those past moments in my life.
i watched how some of them carried on about gays while i kept myself guarded.
the signs were there but i was being ignorant and trying to go with the flow.
i’ve realized they were all trash humans that showed me who they were.
when someone comes out to a straight,
the best response is:
“Thank you for sharing that with me.
I know that took a lot and was probably very personal,
but I’m grateful you let me into your world.”
…and mean that shit.
“I already knew and I wanted you to be able to tell me when you were ready.”
…is so much better if you genuinely knew.
always make someone feel welcomed and comfortable when sharing a big moment.
for some gays,
it is a big moment.
“we been knew” makes us feel they were being talked about and judged.
we watched them be weird about others they suspected were gay.
we wonder if this is why some straight males bounced because of rumors.
why we felt deep inside that some folks weren’t comfortable with us.
Why one (or both) of your parents shows they don’t like you because they been knew.
that statement is problematic and i need it gone.
lowkey: if we said “we been knew” they were hoes and dusty losers,
they wouldn’t like that.