FOXMAIL

Hi Jamari,

I’ve been reading your blog for a few years now and wanted to vent (and ask for your opinion) since I don’t really have any gay friends and I consider you a friend in my head (as Wendy Williams would say.)

I go to the gym in downtown New York during the week and usually go in the sauna after my workouts. As you may or may not know, it usually gets sexual once the straights walk out. I usually go to the gym by my job but the last two days I have tried one in a different neighborhood. Yesterday I had a good experience, but today when I went it was my first time having a negative experience.

This new location had both a steam room and a sauna. I walked into the steam room and there were about 7-8 fit white men. Usually, I am used to seeing a diverse crowd, but I sat down like I usually would. Within less then 5 minutes all the white men walked out. So, I stayed in the steam room for about 10 minutes and decided to see what the energy was like in the sauna. There were like 4 new (white faces) and like 5 of the 7 men that were in the first room. Again within 5 minutes the majority of the men left and based on the direction they all went back into the steam room. I then saw a black guy go into the room with all of the white men and they walked out. When the black guy came into the room I was in, the white guys walked back into the empty room. There was 1 overweight white guy who came into the room me and the other black guy was in, and once any fit white guy looked into our room they wouldn’t come in.

Part of me felt it was racist, but another part felt like it was also because I don’t have a perfect body (I have an average body – flat stomach but no six pack). Regardless of the reason, this experience felt super catty, racist, and just inhumane. I understand everyone isn’t going to be attracted to you, but it felt very “you can’t sit with us.” I have had guys I wasn’t attracted to hit on me in the saunas before, but I still treat them with decency. I’ve heard stories about how white gays can be, but this was my first real experience with them in a group. I try to not stereotype groups, but this has really made me not want to deal with them in the future.

Do you think I am overreacting to this situation? What has your experience with white gays or gays in general been like?

P.S – This has motivated me even more to get the body I aspire to, and once I get there to remain humble.

MY ANSWER…

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^that is what i call grabbing a handful of his tail.
sheesh.
oh hi,
my name is “grabbing a handful of his tail“.
i find it funny when straight males do gay shit.
i guess it’s the thought process of:

“I’ll do something gay unless it’s with actual gays”.

i guess that’s how dl is born?

“I just want to put the tip in my mouth,
but you can’t tell anyone.
I just want to know if it tastes like a meat straw…”

…or whatever excuses straight males come up with these days.
the foxhole has been sending me this new challenge the straights are doing.
it’s called “the boys cake check challenge” and well…

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disguise.
i’ve noticed some folks don’t wear disguises anymore when doing their crimes.
i’ve seen quite a few videos where the hyenas and jackals look into the camera.
not with the following jackals down in atlanta.
their wigs are freshly laid for a life of robbery and fraud.
a foxholer sent me this and well…

Continue reading “lemme make sure my wig is laid before i stick him for his paper” →

so tremaine is about to come hard.
that sounds very promising.
seriously tho,
new music seems to be in the forecast.
you know i enjoyed tf out of his last album,
“tremaine”.
i have this thing for concept albums.
see: marina and the diamonds, “electra heart”.
well when tremaine starts to work out heavy…

you know an era is on the way.
this recent work out video with the crotch action tho…
Continue reading “tremaine gives us “print leakage” with a side of new music? (how dat sound?)” →

so everyone knows i love “insecure”.
i love the wolves of “insecure” as well.
when you add in my strong affection of “gq” magazine,
you get a shot of testosterone that may knock you clean out.
well all of that came together for a shoot titled:

When the Thirst Is Real: The Dudes of Insecure Go to the Gym

y’lan noel,
wade allain-marcus,
jay ellis,
sarunas jackson,
and neil brown jr laid some thirst traps down for us.
this is the finished product…

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the gym is the perfect place for the dl to get fucked.
what?
it is.
i’ve heard the stories of some of the infamous gyms in new yawk.
planet fitness on 125th street.
folks be having full orgies in steam rooms.
a f-bi told me of a certain attentionisto who was fuckin’ in a new yawk gym recently.
legit fuckin some fox with no fucks to give.
well one wolf is suing an equinox gym in new yawk for sexual harassment.
this is what a foxholer sent me via “the daily mail”…
Continue reading “Some of The Best Sexual Harassment You Might Get Is In The Gym” →