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f0xmail: This Is One Of Your Favorite Readers Right Now.

Jamari,

I just saw your most recent post and had to share what I’ve been up to lately. Sooo much has transpired that I’d be blogging for years, but I’ll skip to the good nuggets.

Through some random chain of events, I ended up in a committed situation and I realized I wasn’t ready. I guess I wasn’t as into him as I should’ve been either,but I just wasn’t ready to put the time and effort in. I have so much on my plate as far as successfully changing career fields and finding a better living situation and just taking my life to the next level altogether. I felt overwhelmed and trapped almost immediately. Luckily, I think dude fell in love with his perception of me rather than who I actually was.

I found myself in this vicious cycle where I’d be into dudes who weren’t even half as interested in me and I found myself being their entertainment. I realize now it was because I wasn’t living up to my potential and getting my own plans in motion. I was too accessible. Too eager.

I’m currently back in school with plans of entering an accelerated program that can have me in my new career field in a little over a year and I refuse to let a single dude distract me from accomplishing this. I am not concerned about meeting anyone until after I move into my spacious loft overlooking my city with a job I love around the block.

I feel a great sense of renewal not always yearning for someone to complete me or somehow make my life a million times better. I can say that in all honesty, rather than as a defense mechanism to hide some deep sense of loneliness.

Today, I decided to hit the grocery store after work and I happen to see an two extremely good looking dudes I went to college with that became a couple recently. Both tall, brown skinned, with nice smiles. I glanced at them for a minute and I felt…nothing. No tinge of envy, no questions “Why isn’t that me?”, and no sense of inadequacy. I’ve evolved from that. I know my main focus is myself at the moment and If I choose to have what they have in the future, I can do that if it’s for me.

MY ANSWER…

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f0xmail: My Hoe Doesn’t Understand I Don’t Want His Hoe-licitation. Help!

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*sighs* Imma make this short….

Okay so about a year and a half ago I meet this guy off of a social media website and we instantly became friends. He lives in VA and I live in ATL and It’s like we clicked on so many different levels and would talk almost everyday. We called each other brothers and would share our things that happened in our daily lives, work, friends, family, and even our sex business and the dudes we were dealing with. I’m going to be honest, he is kinda “loose” and gets around alot with niggas he meets on Jack’d, Twitter, and even FB but he was such a good friend and we always laugh and have alot in common that I never judged him (who am I to judge) and didnt matter because I was so happy to have finally found a friend that I felt that I could talk to about being bi without being judge and vice verse without any obligations for sex.

Well I was wrong. A couple of months ago, I get a text from this friend telling me that he appreciates the fact that I’m always here to listen to him and give him advice, something that he can’t find with all of these niggas that he fucks and that he really feels a connection to me. At first I thought that he was just saying that he likes me as a friend and that I feel like family to him but then he text me on some shit like “Yo, you might hate me for saying this but if I came to ATL, I would beat dat shit outta da frame til you can’t take dat shyt no more”…

Now I ain’t gon lie, that text would be cool if it was another nigga that I was talking to but coming from him it just felt idk “awkward” b/c I never even looked at him in that way. Yeah he sexy, got a nice complexion, teeth, tattoos, nice body and about 6’2 but I just see him as a brother and that from that day forth he been sending me overly-sexual text messages and every time we talk on the phone it always turns into him talking bout that he wanna come see me and that he wanna fuck.

I know that you and your readers might think im crazy for even second guessing this shit and questioning it but I’m just starting to feel like this nigga don’t got an ounce of respect for me. I thought what me and him had was special and that we had a bond like family, but the fact that he texting me all the same shit he text other niggas that he fucks and forgets rubs me the wrong way like “damn nigga I thought you just seem me as a friend and keep that shit to yaself man. I told him that shit is kinda making me feel uncomfortable and to stop but i guess it just goes in one ear and out the other.

When I try to change the convo he just finds his way back to some sex shit and it’s really starting to turn me off from even wanting to talk to him honestly.

So my question is:

1) What do you think I should do, cut him off or take some space?

2) Why do you think that it is so hard to find friends in this lifestyle that actually just like you as a friend and not a potential fuck buddy when they done dealing with other niggas?

MY ANSWER…

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f0xmail: Where Can I Find This Doctor To Examine Me Like This Fine Wolf?

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Hey Jamari! Love the site! The best ever!!.. Ive been reading since like 09 and every gay i come in contact with I let them know that this is the best site for us because wer can ask questions, get answers, get horny and bust a nut all in one place. Thanx for all the work you put in and dont ever think that it goes unnoticed because it doesnt and the foxhole sincerely loves you. I was wondering if there was anyway you knew who was in this video or where i could find the remainder of it:

Its a male physical examination #11.

Thanks so much!!

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f0xmail: My Fiance Admitted He Was Gay For Pay. Ain’t He As Good As Gay?

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Jamari, I found this question intriguing by some female. She’s been confused and asking questions. I am curious to see what your readers have to say:

*Vivian:
I am engaged to this guy who confessed to me just last week that he has had gay sex in the past. He actually confessed after someone else told me about it. He said he did it for money and not because he’s gay. He said his former boss was into men and lured him to have sex with him and after a few romps, gave up on gay sex. He says he’s 100% heterosexual but I can’t get over the fact that he once let a man sleep with him. He said he was tempted by money but I don’t believe any straight man would have gay sex for any reason. I don’t know how to feel about this. These days whenever I see him talking to a guy, I start to imagine them having sex. A man who has had gay sex is gay, right?

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f0xmail: Have The Foxes Check Out My Pre-Baller Wolf Friend!

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Jamari tell me what you think about my pre-baller wolf acquaintance. His name is Steven, he is from Brooklyn and he plays football at Syracuse University. And is seemingly straight, his face is iight, but that body boy. I mean, he looks like a God…

THE WOLF IN QUESTION…

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f0xmail: HELP JAMARI! I’m Cute and Being Catfished!

one of the problems with being a good lookin wolf is being cat fished.
yes that moment where you may have girlfriends/boyfriends all over net.
you probably got cute little children on ( x here ).
it isn’t a good feeling to know that you are completely straight,
yet unknown to you,
be the main attraction in the gay online world.
not only is the innocent and thirsty being led on,
someone’s reputation is being butchered.