but i like this.
okay so one of my newer readers,
wrote this in my comments after my ( x rant ).
i wanted to share it with everyone because i thought it was pretty deep…
Interesting convo but I think that many of the responses here comes from either: an exclusively gay, bisexual, or DL perspective but I am not hearing thoughts or reflections about the naturally straight perspective. Please take into consideration that most of these men are very young, not well traveled, well educated, or experienced when it comes to manners of sex, sexuality, or PR much less entertainment industry etiquette when it comes to addressing gay fan/admirers. These men were also the star jock, and ladies men in High school or in college, and having any sexual dealings with other men is completely alien to them and very repugnant.
Trust me when I say many of these men that you label as “attentions whores” who are straight never for an instant thought that their pictures from a photo shoot (unless it is told to them up front) are going to end up being featured on gay websites with men making countless comments about what they want to do with them sexually. In any institution many of the sexual comments that gay men make about straight models on their blogs/sites would be considered to be sexual harassment. So these straight men’s natural and appropriate knee jerk response would be “WTF,” to seeing their pictures posted on gay blogs or on gay porn sites.
Additionally, what is the definition of an attention whore? I mean in theory blogs are created to attract and maintain attention the same as the blogs/social media pages of these so called attention whores. I am not accusing the creator of this blog of being an attention whore but this blog is designed to attract attention by the use of provocative log lines, it features attractive half naked men, and it features countless sexually provocative threads.
Additionally, these guys have agents, managers, friends, girlfriends, and family members who sign up for google alert and they will get alerts of these models being featured on gay sites, gay dating sites such as A4A, and escort sites. Often times these men find themselves defending their sexuality to members of their personal and professional circles. Also being featured on gay or straight sites can be damaging to their careers especially if porn is being featured on those sites. In reading this thread many of it’s comments are typical in terms of an underlining anger and resentment because these men don’t want to be featured on gay sites or don’t want gay followers on their social media page.
My experience has been that many gay sites that feature straight men have a love hate relationship with them, and as soon as the object of their lust say something that sounds remotely homophobic they are put on blast, called a nobody, homophobic, losers. etc. I think that such actions actually reinforce many of the gay stereotypes that gay men lust uncontrollable after straight men.
…so i guess we can’t talk about them anymore?
i’m 50/50 on the comment.
everyone i feature on my site is “straight until proven otherwise”.
i’m trying to put “ratchet jamari” back in his cage when it comes to blogging.
he can be fun and be all the way turnt,
but i actually want to be taken seriously.
shit i’ll scream it to the mountain tops.
YES I LIKE MEN WITH MUSCLES THAT LOOK GOOD.
i admit it.
now funny enough,
on the flip side,
someone i was speaking with in my twitter DM left this:
Oh and thank you for your blog. Black sensuality isnt celebrated enough. Dont know how deep it is for you but my brothers need to be lifted
thank you! that meant a lot to hear that. i wanted to be different than the usual gay blogs. i wanted to be honest about war i deal with
The “gay” in your blog is triumped by your break down of modern day culture and taboos. You actually have a mind worth investing in.
I’ve been inspired by alot of the things you’ve posted. Got all my musicians in check after stumbling on your blog so thank you
Alot of them have a false sense of what entertainment is. Your blog is a reminder that they as entertainers are in the hands of their fans
No room for homophobia OR mess in R&B. I really got to.see who’s paying attention and who’s buying records from your blog
Ha you and you’re work is definitely the blueprint. It’s not whiny or overwhelming. It makes a sense that transcends sexual orientation
You’re definitely on the right path. People are definitely paying attention
Some blogs can be ratchet,
but are we all lumped in the same category?
are we helping these straight wolves?
or, are we creating drama?
deep down inside,
i think these wolves like the attention.
hell when i put someone one here,
everyone wants to know who the person is.
men and women.
i had to wonder tho…
Are “gay blogs” the enemy?
lowkey: this is why i try to promote the wolf and their goals,
whether they sell herbanut or whatever,
rather than just post pictures.
you know i’m not selfish when it comes to promo.
i can be a little fresh but so what?