that entry title is my attitude for 2014.
now i know you’re thinking:
“um negative much?”
…but im taking a more realistic standpoint.
you should as well…
so you know you meet that wolf,
fine as hell,
everything in the package is big and juicy.
he assures you that everything is all good.
“im feelin you tho.
you not like the others.”
uh huh.
since he is acting like he is feelin you,
you already putting in your mind to take all “vacant” signs down for your love life.
don’t ack like you don’t.
you want his heart.
he wants your mouth and butt cheeks.
you mess around because lets face it,
he got you open.
after you’re done,
he tells you he gonna call.
a few days go by and still no messages.
you send a few texts/calls to a no response.
welp here comes the storm called “in your feelings”.
who has been apart of this award winning production more than once?
well fuck that.
when you meet any wolf,
have in your mind he may not call you back after that first meeting.
whether you met on a chat site or in real life,
some wolves are just only suppose to enter you to give you pleasure and that’s it.
safe pleasure always.
he can talk all kinds of shit until he is blue in the face.
if you actions don’t match your mouth then it don’t make sense.
let this new year be about you.
only you.
be as selfish as you want.
you and i both deserve it.
our job now is to show up,
present you best self,
and go with the flow.
im learning since being in florida to just go with the flow.
if i’m feelin’ you,
i’m comfortable,
and you passed all the health tests and i let you beat…
then so be it.
i’ll give him the best head and ass,
doing it only for equal pleasure,
and then after he cleans me off,
i politely thank him for the good time and go about my business.
still keeping the “vacant” sign up,
but still open to whatever from whomever.
if you want more then you know how to reach me.
the days of “doing too much” end this year.
yessir.
new year.
new me and you.
As far as an “association” with a man, woman or child goes, any relationship (be it between friends, between father and daughter, mother and daughter, husband and wife, etc.) needs the 5 Cs:
1. Compromise: They need to be able to compromise on their legitimate interests.
2. Communication: They need to be able to communicate about their wants, needs, hopes, fears, aspirations, etc. This includes not just “what” but “how” and “when” to communicate. And communication includes listening and not just “saying” or “writing” or “sending”. Some things are best said by email and others by snail mail, telephone call, text message, etc. So the mode of communication is important. This is the most important C. Poor communication tends to lead to a poor relationship. No communication tends to lead to no relationship. (And the corollary is also true: Poor communication tends to lead to a poor relationship and a poor relationship tends to lead to no relationship.) It is through communication that the other Cs are realized. Compromise is made. Commitment is shown. Companionship is had and cash is dealt with clearly, compatibly and appropriately.
3. Commitment: They need to be concerned with and about each other and sufficiently dedicated/devoted to each other and the relationship. This involves accountability, faithfulness, loyalty, attentiveness, diligence and effort.
4. Companionship: They need to enjoy each other’s company.
5. Cash: They need to be clear, cool and compatible on issues concerning money.
When the 5 Cs are “added”, they add up to compatibility. What do you think of the 5 Cs?
But I find that men typically have as their Alpha and Omega four things: Looks: How you look from the neck up. Body: How you look from the neck down. Sex/sex appeal: Whether the sex is good and whether you are sexually alluring. And Youth: Generally, the younger the better. And of course, if you have enough MONEY, then that can substitute for one, some or all of the other four. And the four things add up to sex. A relationship cannot last on sex.
The problem is that the only commonality between the above four (five with cash/money) and the below five is cash. But above the cash tends to be exploitative but below the cash tends to be non-exploitative.
But is not a gay thing. It’s a man thing–gay, straight and bisexual. And unfortunately, for the 5 Cs, men often come up short. No compromise. It’s often my way or the highway. When it comes to communication, men only have three emotions to express–hungry, horny and angry. The commitment will last about as long as it takes the nutt to dry. Said another way, men are often committed to the NEXT nutt. There is no or little companionship–only sex. And when it comes to cash everything is fine as long as it’s YOUR money that is being spent!
Unfortunately, many gay men seldom have a second or third date. If they have sex on the first date, then “he” got what he wanted–sex–and there’s no need for a second date. On the other hand, if they don’t have sex on the first date, then since he didn’t get what he wanted–sex–there’s no need to come back to dig in a dry hole and there’s no need for a second date.
Blame testosterone. Men suffer from “testosterone” poisoning. And unless sick, they wake up in the morning with an erection and spend the rest of the day trying to figure out what to do with it!
^deep!
Preach! It seems as everything with me whether they have sex on the first date or wait three years… sex seems to be the end goal.
Nice piece Mr. Fox. Took me some time to realize people’s place in my life and that everybody I fuck isn’t going to be a friend.
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^once you learn that,
it’s either to drop people without a care in the world.
sadly the spell is reversed and they become a stalker.
ah well.
as long as it’s not you lol
Preach brother Fox…preach..dem hoes drop they draws at every damn dick they see bareback some living to regret it.
Bottoms do it too though!
I’ve come to the conclusion that most dudes are either for EVERYBODY or they’re self absorbed prudes.
Yea, never do too much and make a fool of yourself for no man or anyone for than matter. Make others earn you instead of giving yourself to them for free. Do not dwell on a person who has walked out of your life, it’s their loss.
You know, I was talking to one of my friends the other day. I guess you can call him a “wolf” and he said some shit that really threw me for a loop. He said that he liked niggas that can cuss him out, bitch at him, and put him in his place but at the same time he likes them to be submissive to him in the bedroom cause he is dominate and I guess wants to feel like the man in that relationship. I think he likes the chase that these niggas give him cause it gives him some type of validation that he won something. *shrugs*
I asked him about some of the other guys that I knew he talked to any why the stopped talking and he said that it’s because they were too “nice” and that it bored him even though he claims that he wants someone who will uplift him and help him become a better person and grow old together. I mean some of these niggas he talked to that were considered to “nice” had their own car, crib, nice jobs, dressed nice, family men that you would think someone would want to be with but he steady chasin these fucking muscle bound niggas who don’t have shit to show for themselves besides their bodies and IG likes and have attitudes like females but are masculine.
The whole convo confused me tbh.
Oh and that’s the same nigga that I wrote to you about… Saying that if I lived in VA that he wanted to bang me out. Smh. We got an understanding and im glad I dogged that bullet.
The cold part about it, you may find that when you have this attitude, you are going to get so many dudes trying to cuff you and holler at you, nice dudes dont finish in this gay race, I have had to learn the hard way. Every single time I put too much into a dude he treats me like yesterdays news. I am starting to also be non chalant about every damn thing from work, friends, dating, just a big FUCK YOU to everything and I am slowly finding out that I have wasted too much energy on others, and with this new attitude, others are now trying to keep up with me and see what I am doing instead of the other way around. It seems like trifling people are winning when it comes to romance in this new day, so if you cant beat them you might as well join them. Hell make em wait for sex, string them along and get you a few dinners, and drinks out the deal. As hard as it has been I have been pretty much celibate in 2013, finding that once you have sexual contact in this lifestyle, thats pretty much the end of it, so I am waiting on what I want instead of just settling. Continue to be a better you by reading, exercising, and learning. We all deserve to attract Top Shelf Luxury Foxes/Wolves instead of these popcorn ass bargain basement reduce for clearance Ninja’s that invade our space.
^ya heard me!!!!!
this could be about life as well.
I got an entry about that coming probably tomorrow about everything you just mentioned.
nice people,
in this day and age,
finish last.
it’s the ones who love with the motto FUCK ALL YO SHIT….
those are the winners.
im glad I came here because it has given my time to process everything in my life.