i was just telling someone on the phone:
“Nice guys are manipulative.
They use their “niceness” to expect privilege.
Nice guys aren’t really nice at all.
they are up there with the fuck bois of the world…”
in this forest of dating,
we end up dealing with many assholes.
ones who know how to play the game much better than we do.
so when a “nice” male comes along,
we drop our guard and deal with him because he isn’t the norm.
the nerds are notorious for these tactics.
nerds can be the biggest fuck bois out there.
i don’t think it’s so much a “feminine energy“,
but it’s something we aren’t use to.
People are use to assholes and bitches so much,
that anything less than that is strange and can’t be trusted
“Why are they being so nice?”
“What are they hiding?”
“When will the other shoe drop?”
nice guys have no “oomph” either.
they aren’t exciting or reek any danger.
they don’t scare us or make us question ourselves.
during the honeymoon phase while dating them,
it’s all good,
but we realize they aren’t the one once that wears off.
Why is it when i’m a raging he-bitch to males i’m not attracted to,
they will damn near lay out the red carpet for me?
Or when i’m aloof to someone i’m really feeling,
it makes their dick hard in conquest?
i can bark at someone and be difficult because some wolves love that.
as soon as i return the favor and show “niceness”,
they get confused and want a refund.
even though he looks good,
he might not be what you’re “use to”.
that isn’t a bad thing,
but you have to ask yourself…
“Is he worse than the other males I dealt with?”
these dating forest suck,
but being in a relationship that doesn’t stimulate is a waste of energy.
so you have to decide if you want to let it go or work with it.
that is a decision that’s up to you,
but whatever choice you make,
you have to live with it.
remember tho: if you met someone who stimulates you better,
you will cheat and that can lead to bad karma your way.
hope that helped!