Hey Jamari,fox here and loyal reader. I just wanted to start off by saying that I love this site and I check it about 3-4 times a day waiting for you to post new articles and read comments. Lol!Anyway, back to the reason why I am messaging you. So I am going through sort of a dilemma and I wanted your opinion.I am 21 years old, and I am currently on my way to graduate from college in May 2016 with only 16 more credits to go. I am so proud of myself and my family is as well. I will be the first to graduate from college in my family and a lot of pressure is on me to succeed but I am up for the challenge. I got my own apartment, a car, and a little retail job (enough to pay the bills and then some).The problem comes in with this married man (I know, smh) that I have been “messing” around with for the past few months. He is a 6’4, 33 year old construction worker with the smoothest ebony skin. Both of his arms are covered in tatts like art and he has one on the right side of his chest with his daugther’s name. His body is heaven sent, reminiscent of early Tyrese days (Baby Boy) and he is carrying about 8.5.We met at this bar downtown near the campus. We kept taking sneaky glances at each other but when we locked eyes it was an instant attraction. We both hesitated for a minute before he came over by the bar and ordered me and my friend a drink. He asked me how old I was, was I in school, my major & future goals etc., just real intelligent conversation. He then asked me for my number wanting to stay in “touch” because he said I sounded like a brother with a bright future. So I have it to him. He left after our convo and wished me luck. I’m not gonna lie, this man had me wanting more.So I left the bar around two, a little tipsy and for some reason I got bold and decided to text him “sup, wyd.” When I finally got back to my apartment 30 minutes later I checked my phone and still no reply so I started thinking, why did I because it was coming off as desperate. I mean I just met the man and already blowing up his phone. Then about 10 minutes after that he texted me and said, “nothing baby boy, was dosing off but what’s up.”To make a long story short, I ended up going over his house for the night, and it went down all morning. From the moment I walked into the door he took me to his bedroom and took control. Jamari, this man fucked the shit out of me (not literally, lol), I couldn’t even keep up and had to keep telling him to slow down but it was so good.So that same morning when I finally left his house, I started looking around being nosey and I asked him who these people are. He straight up admitted that that was his wife and daughter. He has pictures of his family all over the living room. Jamari, his daughter is so beautiful my goodness and his wife is gorgeous as well.I felt like a homewrecker fr. SmhJAMARI, this man fucks me til I pass out. The way he holds me, kisses me, sucks on my neck, and tells me that it’s his ass, drives me crazy. He has my eyes rolling in the back of my head and a couple of times made me cum without touching myself. Jamari, when this man touches me my body shakes. He fucks me like he loves me and even holds me in his arms until the sunrises before he takes a shower and puts his timbs back on for work.
We fucked every day for the past two weeks and the sex keeps getting more intense to the point to where I can’t last the whole 2 plus hours anymore without a break in between. I’m in love with this man Jamari and he talks about us in the future. Saying that he gonna always keep me around and that I got better stuff than his wife. So far, we have hung out, he took me to go see CREED and we went to eat after that and he has paid for everything. He even paid my phone bill and put $250 down on my rent this past month without me asking him too.
The last time we had sex was on Saturday, and that’s only because I have finals this week and need to focus but it’s really hard to focus when all I can think about is the next time I’m going to see and spend time with him. He text me through the day saying he misses me and can’t wait to spend time with me all day. I’m really starting to like him but he is married and goes against everything I stand for but I can’t stop.Sorry for disappointing you guy’s. 🙁
i lovvvvvveeeee sinking my paws in foxmails like this.
before i get into it,
i want to congratulate you on your accomplishments.
graduating college is a very big deal.
you will get the foxhole gold medal for that life achievement.
now onto the good stuff…
it takes a certain type of person to play the role of a “mister”.
a mister is upgraded from being “the side”.
the side almost never gets to see the outside.
they just see the pillow,
and a condom of their choice.
both have dropped their moral code,
but being a mister means you get more perks.
you get the the triple “d”s.
the spouse isn’t your concern.
the cubs aren’t your concern either.
when he cums into your bubble,
(see what i did there?)
its all about you.
there is no mention of his “other life”.
they don’t exist.
as “she who blocked me” once said:
you don’t seem built for being “the mister”.
if you were,
you wouldn’t have sent me an email.
there will be no fucks to give.
judging by your wording,
you definitely give a fuck.
this is where i need to stop you.
you are a home wrecker.
i won’t sugar coat it.
if “it was everything you didn’t stand for”,
you wouldn’t have gone that far down the married wolf den.
as soon as you saw the pictures,
you would have dragged him and been out the door.
calls and texts would be ignored.
that is when you signed your soul over to the devil.
now i’m not going to judge your decision.
i get it.
he is your “fantasy”.
this life can get lonely enough.
i will judge because you aren’t playing your position tho.
“I’m in love with this man Jamari and he talks about us in the future.”
see that is a problem for me.
that is how i know this not going to end well.
do not let exceptional pipe cloud your judgment.
he is also being messy as well:
“Saying that he gonna always keep me around and that I got better stuff than his wife”
he will not be leaving his wife for you
he will not give up his family for you
he is “the fantasy”.
he is only telling you things so he can keep fuckin’ you.
why would you even want to be with him full time?
if he did this to his wife,
he will surely do it to you.
i’m a little confused tho.
most married wolves take you to hotels.
he took you to his home barely knowing you.
is his marriage really “together”?
and where was his family when he was pipin’ you in his crib?
look i can tell you stop seeing him,
but i know you won’t.
you are way too far down the married wolf den to turn around.
its also never easy when he is “the fantasy w/good pipe”.
do it and enjoy it.
what i will tell you is get a hold on those emotions early.
there is no “love” here.
this is a heavy “lust”.
he likes your fuckin’ your brains out.
you like lettin’ him.
he is in control tho.
if he cuts contact with you completely,
you will be emotionally screwed.
married/taken wolves will say anything if the side hole is good.
they are not to be trusted with emotions.
i need you to:
get what you need out of him
ask him “what does he want from you?”
stop him from comparing anything about you to his wife
be prepared for his exit
i don’t want you to think otherwise.
these situations almost never end well when you aren’t in control.
so you have two choices:
pull it together
end it now
you will lose either way,
but at least if you are in control of your emotions,
it won’t hurt as much it finally cums to a full stop.
the way you are going,
i don’t want to see you holding the wife or cub for ransom.
that is the”crazy” that can get unleashed if you aren’t careful.
you need to start to learning to play your position as “the mister”.
rule 1: “there is no love here“.
i hope this helps.
please keep me and the foxhole updated.
lowkey: fuckin’ you at his crib…
tellin you your shit is better than the wife…
these are potential red flags of his future messiness.
he seems sloppy.