Hey Jamari,Let me first start off by saying I am a fan of you, your work and just overall everything you stand for. I was hoping you could give a little insight on something. My dream is to be an actor, I love the craft I live for it; it’s one of the few things in my life that feeds my soul. I’m openly gay but discreet. And as a young gay BLACK man I have 3 strikes against me.1. Black
3. GayI know that it’s 2018 and it seems like everyone is getting their life these days but in the same breath there’s still a stigma on us. We can’t be considered “masculine” or we can’t play the lead bc with ppl knowing that I’m gay I won’t be taken seriously. I want to strike it big but I’m.. I guess you can say stuck on the F.E.A.R. complex
Run.Mostly because I’m fearful of being typecast or shunned bc of my sexuality and as much as it pains me to admit it but I’ve been on the Grimmr (yes, I call Grindr the Grimmr bc let’s just be honest that thang is GRIMEY!! lol) yes I’ve sext’d and feel that if I do become a star someone will “expose” me. Now don’t get me wrong FAME is definitely NOT the goal, I would still act if even if it were in dinner theatre (God forbid) but how can I get over my FEAR complex and finally LIVE and not just exist?Much Love & Light
believe it or not,
there are a lot of male actors who are gay or bi.
from action heroes to “ladies men”.
the average person often doesn’t believe males being gay/bi in real life.
hollywood is the land of make believe.
it takes regular folks who have tremendous talent,
or 200k followers,
and turns them into stars.
the down side is many of them have:
full fledged racists
we wouldn’t know that because they have great publicists,
and legions of supporters that will drag anyone on command.
they can get away with nonsense because coddling is in.
gay males in hollywood and sports are not perfect.
some are paying for male escorts while married to vixens,
messy af in dms,
fuckin for roles,
fuckin other male co stars,
and basically out here wyldin like they can’t be outed tomorrow.
straight male actors can be “gay for pay” if the role is right.
there are a select few gays in here in long term relationships with another male,
but know where their bread is buttered.
they play the “straight” role rather well.
it’s not about hiding who they are,
but knowing how to play the game so they can eat.
they might even be open to others,
but closed to the general public.
the more you know how to play the game,
the better chances you can get to where you need to be.
the point i’m trying to make is folks still living out here.
they be straight messy af,
but they know someone will clean up their mess.
no one cares who comes out the closet nowadays.
“how woke are you?” is the latest trend.
i tend to think white folks fare better in coming out,
but it’s still taboo for blacks.
unless you have someone with mega pull behind you,
things will just be the way it is for right now.
this popcorn society doesn’t make it any better either.
i say concentrate on what’s important.
take acting classes and continue getting out there.
it’s wise not to be out here making enemies,
or making sex tapes with your face in clear view,
but the most important thing is to always work on perfecting your craft.
the goal is to get your paws in the door.
the “what if and whys” can come later.
everything else will be cleaned up accordingly.
i hope that helps and good luck!